Feeling Guilty or Am I? Should I?

take8easy

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Went to this office a few days ago and I was greeted by a very very attractive 25ish girl. Basically she would the girl I would like to be close to when (or if) I was younger.

So, I noticed that she was being very nice to me although I was at the wrong counter. She kept smiling while talking to me but my eyes were all over her, her sexy face, her long beautiful fingers and even I eye-scanned her bra line (she was definitely at 34 C). I hate rating women, but she would definitely rate 8 in terms of B, A, and F. I can go on and on about attractiveness but I digress.

Whenever I meet women, just like many other guys, my first reaction is , "Would I?" Since I got into this hobby, I seem to be doing it even more. Now when I see an attractive woman, my reaction is "Would she make a hot SP?" I can tell you in this case that if door of an incall opened and she was the girl behind the door, I would be very very happy.

Anyway, after a formal first few exchanges she gave me a huge smile and said, "You don't remember me, do you?"

No, I didn't, I told her, feeling a bit awkward.

Then she dropped the bomb!!!! She was someone I knew when she was like 7 or 8 year old!!!!!!! Obviously, she went to university, got education and now has a very decent position in an office. As much as I appreciated her remembering me, I felt embarrassed, nervous and a bit guilty at the same time.

She guided me to the right desk, shook my hand and ........ I left with mixed feeling.

"What if you both know each other", has been discussed on PERB so many times. So far, I have always said that as long as she is ok with it, it wouldn't bother me. I don't think I would respond similar way ever since I met her.

My sexual fantasies usually involve with someone I know or I have met. On the contrary, I see her, find her very very attractive and pleasant and here I am ... feeling a bit guilty.

I just had to get it out of my system because it's been bothering me.

T8E
 

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First, I want to say you are to be commended for posting on such a personal topic, it probably was not easy.

I suspect that the reason you are feeling so much unease is because part of you still remembers that 8 year old that you knew and that being physically attracted to her in the present brings about discomfort because it makes you perhaps feel subconsously like a pedifile. I want to be very clear here, I am NOT accusing you of being a pedifile. Quite the opposite. If you were a pedifile you likely would not be feeling "bothered", as you put it, and would have had no need to make this post.

I think that if you can disconnect your feelings/attraction for this lady in the present from your memories of her in the past, you will start to feel much better.

Cheers,
JD
 

take8easy

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First, I want to say you are to be commended for posting on such a personal topic, it probably was not easy.

I suspect that the reason you are feeling so much unease is because part of you still remembers that 8 year old that you knew and that being physically attracted to her in the present brings about discomfort because it makes you perhaps feel subconsously like a pedifile. I want to be very clear here, I am NOT accusing you of being a pedifile. Quite the opposite. If you were a pedifile you likely would not be feeling "bothered", as you put it, and would have had no need to make this post.

I think that if you can disconnect your feelings/attraction for this lady in the present from your memories of her in the past, you will start to feel much better.

Cheers,
JD
Thanks JD.

You have put my tangled and confused thoughts into words. Thank you. I think I needed to hear that from someone. You are right, I found her very attractive as a grown up woman and then suddenly image of her as a young child flashed in front of my eyes.

Honestly, putting it down has already taken a load of my chest.

I should also have added that after the encounter I just remember her as a lovely girl who was pleasant enough to remember me and be very very helpful.

Thanks again.
 

sybian

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I had a very attractive young lady show up here for a cowboying job....tall slender blonde.....and round in all the right spots.
I couldn't believe my good fortune, she was experienced with horses and cattle..could run a tractor , had made a little hay, and I thought she'd look just right doing all those jobs....she was stunning.
About 10 minutes into the interview I asked how she had heard about me and my place....she pointed out one of her references was her Uncle.
Turns out her Uncle was an old friend of mine, and she brought up a small get together around a campfire she attended with him ,when she was around 10 years old....and I remembered meeting her.
I suddenly felt a rush of embarrassment for the thoughts I was having, as I remembered this sweet little girl I had a conversation with years ago....the guilt was overwhelming for a short while.
....I did end up hiring her on her experience, and she fell in love with the lifestyle.
She now owns her own small place just over the mountains from me, and I see her from time to time.
 

johnnydepth

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I'm 50ish and have no problem dating women half my age even if I know them from somewhere when they were much younger. That said I don't go out of my way or typically initiate a relationship with women that young. There was a girl I was seeing about 5 years ago. 20 years younger than me. She used to be the kid that lived next door to a friend of mine. I knew her and her parents from about the time she was maybe 14.
 

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There is no need to feel embarrassed or guilty. All women were once a child, and they grew up. Once they are an adult, they are on the same level as you, and a peer, so having a dirty thought is normal if they are attractive to you. So stop beating yourself up over nothing.
 

take8easy

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Thanks "guys"(wish gals chimed in but .........so far ... !! ).

This is why I rely more on PERB than say .... Dr Laura Schlessinger, Dr Joy Browne, or even ......... Shell Busey .. ..

T8E
 

take8easy

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