I'm a really open and honest person who holds no shame or guilt with regards to my choices, so I will answer from my standpoint.
I'm here because I love it. It is completely a choice for me. And while the finances are obviously good, I am quite capable in other arenas, and would not say that I make more per hour at this job than I do with my others once you factor non billable hours.
As with all things in life, when you truly love what you do, all aspects of your life improve.
I love meeting new people. I love the diversity of people I have an opportunity to meet. I love sharing experiences I would not otherwise think of or be able to orchestrate on my own. I love connection. I love healing. I love touch. I love listening and learning and sharing. I love sensuality, and sexuality, and independence and making my own choices.
I love living life on my own terms, being able to work when I want, see who I want, and set my own boundaries.
I love to make people feel good. To create a safe and sacred space of acceptance where people are able to really relax and be themselves without fear of judgement.
I love having flexibility in my schedule so that I can have a balanced life, with time and finances to devote and excel at other areas which are important to me.
Some of those positives are specific to the industry, and some with being an entrepreneur.
There are some negatives to being a companion as well. As with any small business, finances can be erratic, and there is far more overhead than simply working for someone else. There are also countless non billable hours.......and overhead doesn't go away just because you want a vacation.
I know there is a social stigma to being a companion, and many ladies have a fear of being judged so shroud themselves in shame by hiding an aspect of who they are. That isn't an issue for me, but it is a fairly common one. A need to live a double life and a looming fear that they will be found out. I imagine that must take a huge toll on the psyche and overall quality of life.
The biggest negative I have with this industry is in dating. This is for two reasons. First of all, it is difficult to find a man who checks off all my other boxes AND is truly ok with me being in and continuing in this profession long term. Not somebody who can put up with it or deal with it. But somebody who is honestly not being hurt by my actions on an ongoing basis.
Secondly, it is extremely difficult to find somebody, even just to date for fun, that I find to be more interesting and more worthy of my time than my amazing suitors. Being a companion has really raised my expectations for what I am looking for in a long term relationship. I realize this issues stems from the fact that the gentlemen I see are always on their best behaviour, which is easy to do a few hours at a time, but never lasts when you are around somebody 24/7.
However, I have become extremely spoiled by my suitors extreme kindness and respect, constant compliments, pure desire, interesting lives, fabulous stories, thoughtful gifts, magnificent body rubs, openness to explore, varied backgrounds, diverse aesthetics/body types, constant new experiences (sexually, sensually, and with life in general) types of energy, and simply the variety of gentlemen I have the honour and pleasure of sharing beautiful moments with.
I honesty don't think a single person could ever come close to providing me with all the benefits and joy I receive from being a companion. And because of this, along with the fact that I don't believe in settling, I believe it to be unlikely that I will ever get married of have a traditional life. I'm not sad about that.....however, it does mean that I am missing out on some really common/shared experiences in this world, which makes it more challenging to relate to certain aspects of life that bind and connect most people.
