No response from you fave

[islander1-1]

Anyone ever experienced this one. One of my favourite SPs and a regular, all of a sudden will not respond to emails, texts or even answer her cell. Our last visit was quite good and she even put in a special request for something she has always wanted to try for our next session. Since then no response for almost a ,month now. No explanations nothing. We both have been very respectful of each other's boundaries and been very discreet.

The only things I can think of is she lives with her mom and got discovered, or she is feeling she is getting to close to me.

How does one handle this kind of rejection.

 

[Equity Market investor]

Could she be on vacation hiatus? Taking time off away from the industry?
If no, how about texting her ( if applicable) and ask her ... " I haven't heard from you for quite sometime. Have I offended you in anyway" ? I hope you are well and hear back. If I do not heard back, I will move on and will never respond back.

Then see what happens. You at least deserve a response. Especially if you were a long time reg.

Whether its he or her, this is an industry where lines in the sand have to be placed.

Many times, more often than not having a regular just isn't worth it. This situation being a prime example. Emotions can drive one bonkers. Not worth it imho.

 

[islander1-1]

I sent her an email last week asking this exact question and requested a response. Followed up with a txt. Still nothing. It's hard to just move on and not know why.

 

[take8easy]

Move On !!!!

SP's are your gfE not your gf. They have dozens of guys like you, me and others who they provide a fantasy... and that's what it is........ a fantasy ..........

the dream is over, wake up, smell the coffee, contact another sp and move on.

don't let this F ur life.

 

[Equity Market investor]

Ladies in this industry are driven by money and nothing else!! Period.
Once they retire from this industry you are completely forgotten forever. The mass majority anyway. I say move on and find another.

Most of these ladies here are extremely skilled all around so, finding one shouldn't be a major issue.

 

[vanperb]

I sent her an email last week asking this exact question and requested a response. Followed up with a txt. Still nothing. It's hard to just move on and not know why.

Ghosting is a very popular way of ending relationships now a days. Even with SP's.
Personally, I find it cowardly, cruel, and chidish but it seems to be the norm now a days.
The short of it is you'll never know why, and you have to come to accept it. Everyone says they're emotionally mature until it comes time to actually prove it.

It'll be hard to get over, especially with SP's because of the short spans of time when interaction actually existed, and you're wondering what could have triggered it.
My suggestion is to find another SP and let it fade into the background, and be thankful she didn't try to burn you before she exited from your life.

 

[jamasianman]

Everyone responding is right. If you were to stop seeing her all of a sudden, she would not have any right to an explanation. The same is true vice versa. She can just retire and not tell anyone and that's it. Or maybe she met a nice guy in her normie life. Go find some new ladies to bang

 

[thodisipagal]

This has happened to me with two ladies. No response to phone calls, voice messages, or texts. I see their ads, so they haven't retired. When I text then, I know they see/read my texts; my cell phone has text read reply. Not that that is the end of the world, but a simple response would be nice, even if it is "I don't want to see you." I know ladies can do whatever they like, just like men can choose to see whoever they like, but I think not responding is unprofessional and unnecessarily keeps the men wondering and without a closure.

 

[Lo-ki]

Everyone responding is right. If you were to stop seeing her all of a sudden, she would not have any right to an explanation. The same is true vice versa. She can just retire and not tell anyone and that's it. Or maybe she met a nice guy in her normie life. Go find some new ladies to bang

Yup Yup Yup
Move on
An SP that I was a regular suddenly disappeared for a good 2 years. She has suddenly reappeared.
Life goes on

 

[burcs]

If you're feeling hurt by it and "it's hard to move on", then yeah it was probably for the better.

 

[SkinnyJohn]

When they stop responding to you that itself is a response. Time to move on to the next SP. It's hard but that's life. No one knows exactly but her.

 

[islander1-1]

Wow. Thanks for all the responses folks. Yep, time to move on and find another fave. The frustrating thing here is not knowing why. She knew I was seeing several other SPs, then on our last visit she told me I was now her only client. So slightly more confusing to me now. I already think I may have a new fave.

 

[UhOh]

First thing is to put it into perspective, she's a service provider, nothing more. It was never going to be more than that.
Accept that this sort of thing happens with SP's and with "normal" relationships. The more you reach out the less respect she'll have for you. Suck it up and move on. Don't lose your dignity, in the end you will regret that more than you miss the girl.

 

[badbadboy]

Wow. Thanks for all the responses folks. Yep, time to move on and find another fave. The frustrating thing here is not knowing why. She knew I was seeing several other SPs, then on our last visit she told me I was now her only client. So slightly more confusing to me now. I already think I may have a new fave.

You are right to carry on. You may never know what caused this to happen.

I've been in the game a long time and have seen a number of ATF come, go, come back again etc.

I've done the same with them too. When things get too close feelings wise, or they treat you like a boyfriend asking you to do stuff for them.

Sometimes it's best to give things time and they decide to make contact with you again on their own accord. I have had that happen a few times over my pooning career.

 

[Tabitha]

She may of been away off on vacation, busy with family, illness, school deadlines- it could be a number of things.

I just returned from a 7+ week vacation. I left my work phone at home (never cross the boarder with it) and I don't check email often.

I wasn't in the country, thus I was not available. I didn't have access to my calls or texts.

I left spur of the moment, and didn't have a return date.
Out busy having fun. Wasn't thinking about work or anyone from it. Its nice to escape any job when on vacation.

Don't take it personally!

 

[MonaBardot]

Okay, I have to confess that I've done this a couple times, and maybe that makes me a jerk. Both times the gent in question had repeatedly demonstrated his poor emotional boundaries, and had not responded well to being informed of it in session. I honestly didn't feel like having an argument about why I no longer felt comfortable seeing him, so I just ceased contact. Am I a jerk though?

To answer my own question, I guess it wouldn't have killed me to send one email explaining my reasons for no longer wishing to continue our long standing acquaintance. In the future, if this comes up again, I'll be more sensitive to his need for closure. I don't mean to be a jerk. We're only human too

 

[rxwca]

^ Thanks for sharing a perspective from the other side, and pointing out about emotional boundaries.

 

[morementum]

Anyone ever experienced this one. One of my favourite SPs and a regular, all of a sudden will not respond to emails, texts or even answer her cell. Our last visit was quite good and she even put in a special request for something she has always wanted to try for our next session. Since then no response for almost a ,month now. No explanations nothing. We both have been very respectful of each other's boundaries and been very discreet.

The only things I can think of is she lives with her mom and got discovered, or she is feeling she is getting to close to me.

How does one handle this kind of rejection.

First, don't consider it to be rejection. This is a prostitute - not your girlfriend. She is making a business decision that ranges rom "don't want to see that dude" to "I am out of the business for a week or so" to "my pimp is demanding I work in Calgary for a month" and so on. Your "relationship" with her is a fantasy that she does not share - you are revenue mate, plain and simple. If that revenue can be procured in a simpler fashion OR she is told to do it differently from different dudes, not much you can do but move on. To feel any "hurt" is simply at odds with the reality of the situation. Take prostitution for what it is. Enjoy the romps and if you get lucky, we all do at times, to find one that seems to actually enjoy the time and even is worthy of repeat make sure you realize it is about sex for you and money for her. Deviating from that thought process will not benefit either of you.

 

[morementum]

Okay, I have to confess that I've done this a couple times, and maybe that makes me a jerk. Both times the gent in question had repeatedly demonstrated his poor emotional boundaries, and had not responded well to being informed of it in session. I honestly didn't feel like having an argument about why I no longer felt comfortable seeing him, so I just ceased contact. Am I a jerk though?

To answer my own question, I guess it wouldn't have killed me to send one email explaining my reasons for no longer wishing to continue our long standing acquaintance. In the future, if this comes up again, I'll be more sensitive to his need for closure. I don't mean to be a jerk. We're only human too

Great answer and you are not a jerk. You have men as revenue and they have you for sex. When you need to go beyond and deal with their insecurities, emotions etc. it becomes more than revenue and takes more from you than you are often prepared to give so, no, you are not being a jerk but you are being human and realizing what you do and what you do it for. I think you are being practical and sane and will be the better for it.

 

[islander1-1]

Wow. Some more great responses. Thanks for the input Mona. Nice to hear from an SP. With all due respect I would not consider this lady (21) a prostitute, just a personal escort.i happened to be her first. We did several Duos with another escort I like. and she did a cpl of Duos with one of her other clients. Now just seeing me only. So ya. I should just email and suggest she can email me anytime down the road when she likes and leave it at that. One never knows.