Texting: How much is to much?

[Felina Rose]

Hello Gentlemen,

After receiving so much positive feedback from my last thread regarding 'newbies', I thought I would reach out to you gentlemen once again. This is concerning how much is to much, when contacting an SP via text. It can become frustrating and time consuming when some enquire for details regarding my personal private life. As gracious as I am, some do not respect personal boundaries, and when I do not reply "instantly" some become abrasive, manipulative and verbally abusive. :doh:
So, the question at hand, what is acceptable and respectful to both parties?

Felina xoxo

 

[PierreCoeur]

If they don't stick to basic rates and services or try to push you into something you are unwilling to do or ask you for personal information or get abusive or antagonistic if you haven't replied immediately just go silent. I wouldn't recommend even engaging them in further texts where you go on the offensive. The blacklist is a good suggestion.

 

[wpgguy1969]

In my opinion, I feel some good ol common sense and gut instinct will do ya just fine. Keeping things professional and not personal is a must. If some texts/questions make you uncomfortable, don't engage in the appointment. On top of that, keeping texting to a minimum is respectful as well. Just my 2 cents!

 

[Charamba]

As much as one would like to believe otherwise, you are running a business, and as such you should be treated in the same manner as any other profession.
Your personal private life should be respected. It is difficult to quantify the number of texts that should be exchanged (as circumstances differ for each client) but you should not feel uncomfortable and if you do the I support "black listing".

 

[voodooking]

i prefer to keep texting to a minimum.
Just basically to book an appointment and a time.
Absolutely nothing else.

I do not like to play text tag.
It is very frustrating when after the initial response to a text it then takes over an hour or two to respond to the next text.

Great communication is a must.

 

[Felina Rose]

As much as one would like to believe otherwise, you are running a business, and as such you should be treated in the same manner as any other profession.
Your personal private life should be respected. It is difficult to quantify the number of texts that should be exchanged (as circumstances differ for each client) but you should not feel uncomfortable and if you do the I support "black listing".

I appreciate and absolutely agree with you!
Thank you
Felina

 

[Jethro Bodine]

Personally i hate texting. It is extreemly impersonal and like emails you cannot really get a good feel for the other party like you can after a minute or 2 of conversation.
That said I do respect each ladies decisison to text or not.
As for the OP's question I agree that each case is different and you need to take into consideration the language and nature of the text.
I would approach it the same way you approach every interaction in this business. If there is something about the exchange that concerns you, then avoid (blacklist if you wish) that individual.
I know guys don't always read your ads but it might help to put something in your ad stating that you are not on call 24/7 and there may be times you are not able to return a text message and for guys to be patient. The clients who are literate and respectful will understand and those are the clients you want. The guys who either can't read or think when they say jump you should be asking "How high?" can take a hike.

CHEERS

 

[Felina Rose]

Personally i hate texting. It is extreemly impersonal and like emails you cannot really get a good feel for the other party like you can after a minute or 2 of conversation.
That said I do respect each ladies decisison to text or not.
As for the OP's question I agree that each case is different and you need to take into consideration the language and nature of the text.
I would approach it the same way you approach every interaction in this business. If there is something about the exchange that concerns you, then avoid (blacklist if you wish) that individual.
I know guys don't always read your ads but it might help to put something in your ad stating that you are not on call 24/7 and there may be times you are not able to return a text message and for guys to be patient. The clients who are literate and respectful will understand and those are the clients you want. The guys who either can't read or think when they say jump you should be asking "How high?" can take a hike.

CHEERS

Good morning Mr.Bodine
Very wise and knowledgeable advice!
Greatly appreciated!
Felina :*

 

[EuroSZabina]

I only have a few reg who know my personal fone and they contact me on text and book.
However I think I made a mistake and I gave my personal fone to a gent who saw me only once and I told him to text me on my personal fone. It has been about 2 weeks he texts me last minute like " I'm here in your area", or what's your schedule? And when I say I can be ready in a few hours , he doesn't get back to me, or something like , " I have to check my schedule".
I will give him one more text chance then I'm putting his number on block.

 

[vancity_cowboy]

i agree with the comment that you are running a business and business-like behaviour is required at all times

so for example, i would suggest texting a warning that the last question was starting to pry into your personal life and you would like to keep it professional. then if they persist - go silent. but don't just go silent without warning, that leads to poor reviews and what is even more damaging, poor reports on the back channel where you don't even see them

similarly with times when it is awkward to keep texting due to any number of reasons. text the other party that now is an awkward time to keep texting, then go silent. just going silent in the middle of a text conversation will soon get you the reputation of being flakey

as always, you have to hone your spidey senses as some 'clients' are just bad business no matter how you cut it, and others may be stumbling communicators but are punctual, good payers and great fucks

as we say, ymmv

 

[Felina Rose]

I only have a few reg who know my personal fone and they contact me on text and book.
However I think I made a mistake and I gave my personal fone to a gent who saw me only once and I told him to text me on my personal fone. It has been about 2 weeks he texts me last minute like " I'm here in your area", or what's your schedule? And when I say I can be ready in a few hours , he doesn't get back to me, or something like , " I have to check my schedule".
I will give him one more text chance then I'm putting his number on block.

I've made the same mistake and I think that's a good idea!

 

[Felina Rose]

If the back and forth texting goes on longer than the length of appointment they claim to be booking...huge red flag, ignore any further contact!! This is a generalization, occasionally there MAY be a good reason (but not often)..just use your common sense & instincts.

I find communication starting with just a "hi" or "hey" is about 98% just some lonely guy looking for free phone companionship. If you answer prepare for the back and forth to go on and on and on...FOREVER lol.

Most serious bookers get straight to the point and text communication completed with appointment booked or the inquiry for a potential future appointment is done within minutes.

Many times when there's long delays between texts, the same guy is texting other ladies and wasting their time as well. This has been confirmed to me...one of the benefits of sharing a workspace with other ladies

Trust your instinct. If you do this regularly...over time it will become stronger & stronger!!

Fantastic advice!!!!
Muchas gracias!

 

[Felina Rose]

Great advice on everyone who has commented on this thread!
Thank you!
Keep the comments coming !

 

[Riza]

If the back and forth texting goes on longer than the length of appointment they claim to be booking...huge red flag, ignore any further contact!! This is a generalization, occasionally there MAY be a good reason (but not often)..just use your common sense & instincts.

I find communication starting with just a "hi" or "hey" is about 98% just some lonely guy looking for free phone companionship. If you answer prepare for the back and forth to go on and on and on...FOREVER lol.

Most serious bookers get straight to the point and text communication completed with appointment booked or the inquiry for a potential future appointment is done within minutes.

Many times when there's long delays between texts, the same guy is texting other ladies and wasting their time as well. This has been confirmed to me...one of the benefits of sharing a workspace with other ladies

Trust your instinct. If you do this regularly...over time it will become stronger & stronger!!

Yes I love it when a guy guys around the table texting to all of us one after another. Or better yet when he is calling window shopping. Its great when we can answer the phone "just like Tanya's answer that she just gave to you on her phone, I don't negotiate either and don't care if you are 25 and cute looking and have a great body"

Have seen 4 phones ring and or text in succession around the kitchen island asking the same questions or booking with a couple of us for the same time. Once I was booked at 4, Kathy at 4:15 and an attempted booked for Becky for 5 all from the same guy before we noticed it was the same number. To bad he didn't show up to one but think he noticed two gave him the same area to go to.

The crap we put up with :frusty:

Tanya is dead on for her suggestions. But no matter how good your spidey senses are some of the bad ones always seem to get through.

BTW MissTanya, I love your post count, in keeping with Halloween you right are on the money....666, the number of the beast.

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[girth-brooks]

Can't stand texting unless it's right to the point or booking a time. Anything more than 5, you may as well call the person.

 

[87112]

Whats worse is selling some on CL, than after answering a bunch of questions a lowball insult offer.

 

[Riza]

Whats worse is selling some on CL, than after answering a bunch of questions a lowball insult offer.

I love when they ask "How much for overnight', "oh, how much for 2 hours", "oh, how much for one hour", "Oh, how much for 30 min" "Hey, I only have 20 bucks, can I come for a quick blow job for that and does it include msog?"

 

[badbadboy]

Can't stand texting unless it's right to the point or booking a time. Anything more than 5, you may as well call the person.

Same here. In fact I am more old school and prefer to hear their voice. Times have changed a lot and now it's at least 90% email and texting. I've adapted, grudgingly.

Not to derail this thread but :-:

(Remind SP's that texting during a session is not cool either. Huge No No!)

 

[Riza]

(Remind SP's that texting during a session is not cool either. Huge No No!)

BadBadBoy's point is right on about texting during the session, but also unsolicited texts or overreacting to a review or post online with a stream of vindictive bile doesn't speak well for the lady either

Texting during a session, actually any type of phone use has no place during a session. There is no excuse for it. I leave my phone in another room. Also spamming or unsolicited calls,texts or emails does not have a place in this profession.

 

[pro-boner]

Ha ha ha, I tend to start a conversation with something very innocuous like "Hi I hear you are coming to town, maybe we can get together" The reason I do this now is I have on occasion sent fairly direct texts to complete strangers, and since I don't use a burner phone (too lazy I guess) this has lead to a couple of embarrassing situations. Once the connection has been made, I install the name in my contact file so the name pops up when the person texts me and this saves me having to check the number all the time. I can always delete it later. The object of all this is to find out if you and her are on the same page with respects to services, coin, expectations and session time, date and location. All the rest you can find out when you are face to face if she feels comfortable with you.