Hello everyone, my wife is a SP

[Perbster99]

Gee Miss Melody, I thought after 3 known advertising SP's and one notable poster had verified me and my situation I thought that would have been past us I guess I was wrong. That's ok, can't change someone's mind when it's made up

She must have missed those posts?

 

[1nitestan]

I think that's BS. Most women are NOT "A-OK" with their dudes getting a R&T once a month. They don't "give" their guys the freedom- the guys are going to do it anyway. I think they just acquiesce because of their more subservient nature. It's not that they "aren't very sexual women", but more like they are seen as breeders and child raisers as wives, or otherwise as mistresses and playthings, for the male dominated society and culture they are brought up in. Most guys I know that have true Asian wives or girlfriends would get their asses handed to them by a western girl if they tried pulling that shit. Ask a CBC chick if it's OK for her dude to get his wee-wee spanked by an SP or masseuse because she "isn't that sexual"- then be prepared to cover up!
Are you A-OK with your SO getting licked clean because you can't or won't learn how to get her done right?

You can call it BS all you want ...but it 's actually happening. LOL So your point here is kinda debunked given that you haven't actually spoken to my buddies.

 

[ddcanz]

You can call it BS all you want ...but it 's actually happening. LOL So your point here is kinda debunked given that you haven't actually spoken to my buddies.

Why would my point be debunked? I think you missed it anyway so whatevs. Never said I didn't believe you. I get that it's actually happening- that's why I'm calling it BS. I'm sure your buddies would absolutely corroborate your story. I'm also sure they would be the first ones to flip out if their other halves even suggested they be given the same latitude. But then, the girls "aren't very sexual women" now are they, so no need to worry about THAT ever happening.
And LOL? WTF.
LOL- because it's "actually happening" and you are their cheerleader?
Or LOL- you didn't bother to read the post and get the drift before leaping to the defense of your buddies. What kind of crew do you hang with where a bunch of dude's SOs "aren't very sexual women" and are "A-OK with regular R&T" on the side? What a bunch of dicks.

 

[hornygandalf]

I had a business partner in Homg Kong whose wife would give him a 'pass' on a semi-regular basis to go have 'fun' with another woman, though I don't know if he ever took her up on it. It certainly isn't unheard of.

 

[ddcanz]

I had a business partner in Homg Kong whose wife would give him a 'pass' on a semi-regular basis to go have 'fun' with another woman, though I don't know if he ever took her up on it. It certainly isn't unheard of.

I completely agree that this is not uncommon, especially with Asian cultures.
I'm only taking issue with the "they aren't very sexual women" comment. I think that is a BS blanket statement
I believe that most women are very sexual, and would show it in a relationship given half a chance. Maybe I'm out to lunch on this?
We all do what we do here for our own reasons. How and why I approach this "hobby" is no more or less valid than the next guy.

 

[clu]

What kind of crew do you hang with where a bunch of dude's SOs ... are "A-OK with regular R&T" on the side?

Maybe the same kind of person who would be "A-OK" with his wife being an SP? I get what you're saying that there's a stereotype of Asian culture being mysogynistic and the women submissive, but it is a stereotype so you should not presume that's what's going on here any more than one should presume Asian women are "not very sexual". (It's not logical to think Asian women are not very sexual, because, then, in Asian countries, where would these men find mistresses? It's not like all the mistresses in China are foreigners.)

 

[ddcanz]

Maybe the same kind of person who would be "A-OK" with his wife being an SP? I get what you're saying that there's a stereotype of Asian culture being mysogynistic and the women submissive, but it is a stereotype so you should not presume that's what's going on here any more than one should presume Asian women are "not very sexual". (It's not logical to think Asian women are not very sexual, because, then, in Asian countries, where would these men find mistresses? It's not like all the mistresses in China are foreigners.)

Agreed that I may have been a bit presumptuous, but that's how I interpreted stan's remarks. I just can't get past the "they aren't very sexual women" statement. Seems a bit too convenient.
I'm also looking at this situation from a Caucasian dude/Asian woman perspective, not from a same race POV, which most likely skews things a bit.

 

[hornygandalf]

I met an lady from Singapore recently. We exchanged numbers and the first time we talked she "mentioned" that she was married. She went on to say that she had a business marriage and she was free to play as she saw fit.

I kinda have that kind of arrangement... though my SO has also said she doesn't want to know anything about it or have it put in her face (and she is Asian).

 

[morementum]

Why do people have such a hard time accepting that this guy can be at ease with his So being a SP?!!

Agreed. Some people seem totally find with their SO being a lawyer, a Leafs fan or even a fan of shit like Katy Perry. As an escort provides a service that brings calm to the world and those other examples provide negative value, yet somehow can have SOs fine with those attributes, being fine with your SO being an escort would seem a breeze in compare.

 

[Rod_Longenhard]

I have to agree - 130 posts in I was hoping to read some unique insights by now. All that has been said thus far is all common sense Dr. Phil type fluff. What's next? "If you want better service, be a big tipper".

 

[tadolder]

I have to agree - 130 posts in I was hoping to read some unique insights by now. All that has been said thus far is all common sense Dr. Phil type fluff. What's next? "If you want better service, be a big tipper".

Complete waste of space. Even the OP isn't posting anymore.

 

[Sphubby]

I have to agree - 130 posts in I was hoping to read some unique insights by now. All that has been said thus far is all common sense Dr. Phil type fluff. What's next? "If you want better service, be a big tipper".

Well to be honest I have been refraining from posting. Seems to create to much drama and controversy me being a shill, leach, illiterate and just trying to get attention as previous posters have stated. Not trying to be a baby or suck, just not sure if any good would come of it.

As for the tipping, well my wife does not ask for or expect any tips for her service. She enjoys what she does and likes to make other people happy satisfied and comfortable. But she is a person. Some forget that there is a person behind the service with feeling like everyone else and she takes her emotions into a session. She does get emotional attached to clients and relate to them on a personal level. You want to get on her good side and have a extra special encounter, bring a flower for her or a small box of chocolates. I have seen her after a session all bright eyed as she looks at the flower (especially planted, not cut) that a client has brought her. She finds a special place to put it in the house and cares for it daily. And a week to two later when that same clients calls to see her again, all she can think of is that plant in the window with a flower blooming on it and what a nice gesture it was. She then takes extra time to get ready, special clothes or maybe goes out and buys something new to wear just for him as his special treat.

Yes it is her job. Yes she is getting paid for her time. Yes she has chosen to do this as her job. Yes she is a human being with feeling like everyone else has. No she doesn't require a tip or anything extra for her service. I know when I hire a trade like a plumber to to fix something at my house I always offer a coffee, drink or something to eat while he is here, I don't have to but I know it will be appreciated and I will probably get something extra or just a little more time and care to the work done.

May seem like Dr Phil stuff but you would be surprised how many guys go the complete opposite direction and go with the equivalent of "shut up bit*h and stick it in your mouth". That goes a long way to get someone to go the extra mile for you and unfortunately occasionally impacts the next client, or more than likely makes her unavailable for the next day until she is back in the right state of mind, she always try's to provide the best service.

SPH

 

[clu]

Well to be honest I have been refraining from posting. Seems to create to much drama on controversy me being a shill, leach, illiterate and just trying to get attention as previous posters have stated. Not trying to be a baby or suck, just not sure if any good would come of it.

Speaking as someone who has to deal with "the Internet" for a living, you can't please everyone. And the disaffected ironically seem to go out of their way to let you know they aren't interested. The thing I like to remind myself as a recent example is that U2, arguably one of the biggest bands of the last few decades, gave away an album for free and they got flamed for it. Some people seem to enjoy declaring loudly that they're "over it" and letting everyone know as much.

But this is The Lounge and its stated purpose is an "open discussion area for all" including things some have seen before or aren't interested in. It puzzles me why people who aren't interested in a topic keep bumping it with their grumbling instead of letting it drift unremarkably off the front page and into the archive. As noted there are 130+ replies and the topic is somewhat novel even if it doesn't live up to everyone's expectations.

So IMHO keep posting until there are tumbleweeds. I actually found the anecdote about the flower interesting. Maybe somebody wondered if these things are just regifted or tossed in the garbage after they leave.

 

[ddcanz]

Agreed. Some people seem totally find with their SO being a lawyer, a Leafs fan or even a fan of shit like Katy Perry. As an escort provides a service that brings calm to the world and those other examples provide negative value, yet somehow can have SOs fine with those attributes, being fine with your SO being an escort would seem a breeze in compare.

Sure...until you actually need a lawyer.
And hockey is in the blood, often depending on where you live or were raised.
And as far as KP is concerned....well....maybe you're bang on with that one!