How many guys has your gf had sex with before you?

[Miss*Bijou]

Just to point out here, because I have dealt with the whole "giving it up to anyone" BS firsthand: There is no point in my sexual past (and I only started in the business in January) where I felt like I was duped into "giving it up". I like sex. It's fun, and it's supposed to be fun. I've always been fascinated with it. Why is it only considered having something valuable to "give up" if it's a woman, but if it's a man, he's just horny? That's total bullshit.

You're 100 percent correct. It is an outdated, ridiculous double standard.
And it IS total bullshit from an Insecure, Sexist Pig.


How's that, Chevy? LOL

 

[Caramel]

You may not be "proud" of it, but neither should you be embarrassed about it. You wouldn't hear too many guys calling themselves sluts. Studs yes. So that would make you a ... studette? Good on ya!

Thats right I realized later i worded it wrong, i'm not embarrassed or proud, i don't care! Thankfully I came out clean and thats all that matters.

When I was a teen, I observed how easily guys could pick up girls, have sex with them, drop them and move on to the next one, so I figured I'd do the same. Between age 17 - 23 I kept a list, and had seduced over 100 guys (casual sex, not work) when I quit counting. Made a choice to remain celibate for 12 long years between divorces, then started working as a SP at age 45.

How's that for unique? lol

lol this is me too, except I went celibate for 1 year periods at a time, inbetween all the years that I was fucking around. I would have mood swings and sometimes be extremely horny, or a completely dried up prude. I had a list too but I lost it a long time ago =(

Most girls only have the shields up when approached by complete losers like you. Women have a sixth sense for creepy, arrogant, pathetic etc. etc. etc.

fully agreed

Just to point out here, because I have dealt with the whole "giving it up to anyone" BS firsthand: There is no point in my sexual past (and I only started in the business in January) where I felt like I was duped into "giving it up". I like sex. It's fun, and it's supposed to be fun. I've always been fascinated with it. Why is it only considered having something valuable to "give up" if it's a woman, but if it's a man, he's just horny? That's total bullshit.

totally agree with all of this, especially the part in bold I used to watch that old lady on TV who was a sex educator, and spent years and years reading and researching all about sexual health and sexual behavior. I was always truly fascinated by it.

 

[Caramel]

You're 100 percent correct. It is an outdated, ridiculous double standard.
And it IS total bullshit from an Insecure, Sexist Pig.

why do you even bother with this guy? lol i know its fun sometimes and entertaining, but hes not even worth getting your feathers ruffled over, i read somewhere in one of these threads that he asked a lady for free domme service! thats a total scumbag in my books, not worthy of any discussion anymore.

 

[SeductiveCameronDEL]

Your attitude is what makes it harder for guys and what causes that shield to be up! In other words, you're cock blocking yourself/selves. Great strategy. Ask gay guys how hard it is to find someone willing to have sex - any kind of sex - pretty much whenever you want. Like I said, unless you plan to or want to have sex with men or with goats, I would suggest you reconsider your attitude, stop looking down on girls for doing what you're complaining they won't and re-think your beliefs about women with sexual experience! Because you're just shooting yourself in the foot.

Common sense, really. Sheesh.

Sing loud, sing it proud woman!

The double standard is completely silly, and yes, women want sex, some of us just as much as men. We just need you to go about it in a different way. It takes more than a boner poking me in the back for morning sex, even with my SO. I'd say a woman wanting to be charmed is on par with a man wanting a PSE fantasy. Give and take yo.

 

[SeductiveCameronDEL]

totally agree with all of this, especially the part in bold I used to watch that old lady on TV who was a sex educator, and spent years and years reading and researching all about sexual health and sexual behavior. I was always truly fascinated by it.

Sue! She was on the Sunday night sex show! Loved that! And Showcase late night.

I was totally the only child with the liberal mother who wanted me to know all the right names/have complete comfort regarding sex.

 

[chainsawman]

I was dating a"retired" sp back in the 80's and was okay with all her past partners, I don't feel I had any hangups. When her roomate phoned to tell me she was still working monday-thursday, I worked out of town, I broke up with her. Wound up with a son out of the deal so it wasn't all bad.

 

[normisanas]

That's all fine but it won't stop me from pointing out how retarded it is. Obviously insecure boys will be insecure and any guy who thinks his insecurities should determine whether or not they pursue anything with a young woman they otherwise would see as compatible is doing said young woman a big favor by saving her months or possibly years of having to put up with all of his insecurities as if they were truly her problem. Because a guy who can't even see his insecurities for what they are and instead of working on overcoming them, expects others to treat them as important 'standards' or expectations they're expected to want to meet in order to get his approval. Im sorry but it is NOT in ANY way 'kind of like wanting to know if he ever hit his past girlfriend'. It's sex not physical abuse!!! And if a friend told me he or she thought someone who had been married, had gone through bankruptcy or any other legal activities people engage in every single day was not suitable because of it, then I would tell them the same exact thing as I did for the OP's question. I mean, how freaking shallow and judgemental can you get? People like that deserve to be alone or to find equally shallow, judgemental, square, unimaginative, conformist and painfully boring from lack of experiences or mistakes learned the hard way...


They don't deserve someone who prefers to live and enjoy life. I just have to say that it says a lot about you and your beliefs that you would compare a past that includes sexual experience to one that includes with physical abuse, or that you consider a past that includes bankruptcy, a previous marriage or sex as relevant in any way to whether or not to pursue things with someone you otherwise find compatible. That's pretty amazing to me. I'm sure you'll find a similarly judgemental and shallow woman.. Let's just hope you meet *her* criteria.. the whole list of criteria. But don't complain when you realize she's not much more interested in sex with you than she was before she met you. Careful what you wish for sometimes...

I posted what I said as a means of discussion of the realities for some folk, not as an airing out of my own personal needs. But your response takes a very personal viewpoint and addresses what I said as though they were my own personal requirements. Unfortunately you've rather missed the point and wasted your time, because none of what you said offers me much in terms of advice as it doesn't apply to me.

 

[sunnysideup]

or wife if you are married

curious to know what the average number is. What do you guys think the average for a 22 year old girl is? (non-escort)

A much more probing question is: How may guys has your wife had sex with after you married her?

 

[VanessaofBC]

I still remember exactly what she looked like and how her voice sounded, lol. I bought "The Joy of Sex" when I was 17 and studied it from cover to cover.

I didn't have to buy it, my parents OWNED it!!!

 

[superhappyfun]

I don't think it's particularly important in this day and age how many partners a woman (or man) has had. That said, I can understand how some men can be alarmed by what they perceive as high numbers. I can also see how it's a touchy subject for some women. I believe that these attitudes are more than merely the result of "slut shaming", which is often perpetuated by women as well as by men. I think these feelings largely arise from human evolution.

Historically, men who paid closer attention to their mate's interactions with other males probably enjoyed greater parental certainty and were able to invest their time and energy caring for and preparing their own offspring for the future. As a result they likely had more surviving offspring. Over the generations this tendency has become widespread and manifests as insecurity in relation to female promiscuity. This tendency is not universal because there were some males who were themselves promiscuous and sired offspring from many women. Such men would likely not have invested enough time in any one of those women to be particularly concerned about parental certainty.

For women historically it was important to both secure quality genes for their offspring and to secure assistance and resources from one or more males to successfully raise her offspring. The former was accomplished by seeking out attractive mates, and the latter by seeking out mates who were willing and able to invest time and resources in raising her offspring. It was not always easy to find a single mate who met both criteria so females who were able to secure resources from one mate and quality genetic material from another likely had the most surviving offspring. The mates most likely to provide resources were likely those who were not overly insecure about female promiscuity or who's insecurities could be easily managed.

Now I am not claiming that either gender were even aware that they were doing these things, merely that people who followed these behavioral patterns likely had more surviving offspring and their decedents likely represent a large proportion of the population today. These tendencies will likely dissipate over subsequent generations given the advent of readily available birth control technologies and paternity testing that largely negate the evolutionary advantage of such behavioral patterns. In the meantime I think that men and women should try to be more understanding of one another and try not to judge them to harshly for behaving in a manner that is largely built into their DNA.

 

[Caramel]

I don't think it's particularly important in this day and age how many partners a woman (or man) has had. That said, I can understand how some men can be alarmed by what they perceive as high numbers. I can also see how it's a touchy subject for some women. I believe that these attitudes are more than merely the result of "slut shaming", which is often perpetuated by women as well as by men. I think these feelings largely arise from human evolution.

Historically, men who paid closer attention to their mate's interactions with other males probably enjoyed greater parental certainty and were able to invest their time and energy caring for and preparing their own offspring for the future. As a result they likely had more surviving offspring. Over the generations this tendency has become widespread and manifests as insecurity in relation to female promiscuity. This tendency is not universal because there were some males who were themselves promiscuous and sired offspring from many women. Such men would likely not have invested enough time in any one of those women to be particularly concerned about parental certainty.

For women historically it was important to both secure quality genes for their offspring and to secure assistance and resources from one or more males to successfully raise her offspring. The former was accomplished by seeking out attractive mates, and the latter by seeking out mates who were willing and able to invest time and resources in raising her offspring. It was not always easy to find a single mate who met both criteria so females who were able to secure resources from one mate and quality genetic material from another likely had the most surviving offspring. The mates most likely to provide resources were likely those who were not overly insecure about female promiscuity or who's insecurities could be easily managed.

Now I am not claiming that either gender were even aware that they were doing these things, merely that people who followed these behavioral patterns likely had more surviving offspring and their decedents likely represent a large proportion of the population today. These tendencies will likely dissipate over subsequent generations given the advent of readily available birth control technologies and paternity testing that largely negate the evolutionary advantage of such behavioral patterns. In the meantime I think that men and women should try to be more understanding of one another and try not to judge them to harshly for behaving in a manner that is largely built into their DNA.

I don't know if I agree with you or not ^ - it sounds like a good theory

but its just that, a theory/hypothesis, right? theres no real scientific data that this is happening?

i think cultural customs and behavior has more to do with it than genetics...

 

[superhappyfun]

I don't know if I agree with you or not ^ - it sounds like a good theory

but its just that, a theory/hypothesis, right? theres no real scientific data that this is happening?

i think cultural customs and behavior has more to do with it than genetics...

You're right it's mainly theoretical. It's obviously difficult to research things that happen over many generations. But I think that the fact that these attitudes have been common in many cultures around the world that had minimal contact with each other until quite recently lends in favor of the theory that they have at least partly biological origins.

 

[70sBratski]

This is the stupidest question ever - Who cares ?

 

[kenchorney]

This is the stupidest question ever - Who cares ?

Look at the OPs posting history, all he ever does is post these stupid questions, It is just Joe45/Toblerony back to troll.

 

[bcneil]

EDIT2: A long held personal belief of mine is, "Guys lie UP about the number of sex partners, girls lie down". *No pun intended*

Have you seen American Pie 2? Its the rule of 3

 

[Miss*Bijou]

I posted what I said as a means of discussion of the realities for some folk, not as an airing out of my own personal needs. But your response takes a very personal viewpoint and addresses what I said as though they were my own personal requirements. Unfortunately you've rather missed the point and wasted your time, because none of what you said offers me much in terms of advice as it doesn't apply to me

Good for you that it doesn't apply to you. My point still stands as it applies to whoever believes in what you said as a means of discussion. I'm not sure I buy it because it sounds like many of the opinions you've shared about sex and other sexual experience but it doesn't matter, as it is clearly what the OP thinks and he isn't the only one to hold these beliefs. As with a lot of my posts, I use 'you' to refer to more than just you specifically or solely. It refers to anyone who shares those beliefs.

 

[Porscha]

OMG ... I had soo much sex when I was married ... lol

From 17 to 30 I only had sex with 5 guys. I was always in longer-term relationships and I was faithful to them. I had less sex than all my 20something friends. Then I got MARRIED, and introduced to the SWINGER lifestyle. He thought I would be better in bed after I experienced at least 30 guys and a few girls ... ba-haha! It was only after we split that I realised some of the most beautiful and sexiest girls were escorts.

But seriously, how would any of the people on this site know what the average young woman does?

 

[Bianca Jaguar]

Personally, I stopped counting a long time ago. it's easier that way.

Your turn.

Yeah! who counts anyway? I sure don't...
BJ

 

[indbourne]

I don't know. My gf shared everything. her first time was at 17 with a group of 5 guys. she was not prepared for it, did not even want it. but her "slut" image worked towards her detriment. she was in abusive relationship for a bit and then led a promiscuous lifestyle for long (had a target of having more partners than her age). That was a dangerous and self-sabotaging lifestyle.
I did the same. shared with her.
We both are okay with our pasts, accept out flaws and mistakes. She is faithful to me and is very serious about the relationship. Enjoys sex with me
She says that it is the best she has ever had, and I didn't take it at face value until I actually took her to new levels (made her squirt). But still doesn't matter. Its past.
I never liked the term "slut" when used in derogatory manner. A lot of people dehumanize with that term. Look at a girl like piece of meat and don't give the respect she deserves. That is not healthy. Girls who consider that power (like my gf did in past) end up scarred and jaded. Guys who do that are mere animals (me in past)

 

[BonerHardBiceps]

I don't know. My gf shared everything. her first time was at 17 with a group of 5 guys. she was not prepared for it, did not even want it. but her "slut" image worked towards her detriment. she was in abusive relationship for a bit and then led a promiscuous lifestyle for long (had a target of having more partners than her age). That was a dangerous and self-sabotaging lifestyle.
I did the same. shared with her.
We both are okay with our pasts, accept out flaws and mistakes. She is faithful to me and is very serious about the relationship. Enjoys sex with me
She says that it is the best she has ever had, and I didn't take it at face value until I actually took her to new levels (made her squirt). But still doesn't matter. Its past.
I never liked the term "slut" when used in derogatory manner. A lot of people dehumanize with that term. Look at a girl like piece of meat and don't give the respect she deserves. That is not healthy. Girls who consider that power (like my gf did in past) end up scarred and jaded. Guys who do that are mere animals (me in past)

3 years we've waited for this post. Thank you