Great post.You should not believe everything everyone says, just because it outrages you. They might be exploiting you.
One of the things I do a lot is observe people, because it helps me understand them better. I have noticed that when someone cries victim, they are granted the benefit of doubt pretty much almost always, and the person they are accusing is assumed to be guilty, even if there isn't any real evidence. The accusation is enough, and the first person to do it is assumed to be truthful. And after that close inspection of the actual facts usually does not happen.
The thing is, there are plenty of people who abuse that tendency in human nature to their own ends. You always need to be wary of that, NEVER believe someone just because they say so. You need corroboration, and in this case there is apparently none.
Now, if this kid had been causing problems in the neighborhood, no one will dare complain about it in the future, because if they do they will be branded as the "letter writer". If you were the parent of a troublesome child, that is a valuable card to be holding.
If you can't see why someone might find that an attractive option, I have a few bridges I'm sure you would be very interested in buying.
Letter asking to 'euthanize' boy with autism -- WTF??
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we had a young fella in my home town who was born severely mentally retarded (we didn't have any fancy names in those days so i've reverted to the vernacular of the times)
in the summers he happily spent his days sitting on the sidewalk in front of his folks' home picking up ants - oh so gently - and showing them to passersby with a big grin on his face. apparently he didn't speak so he sort of muttered to people. but there was no mistaking the absolute delight in his eyes at the wonder of his little critters
he was said to be 29 at the time...
we talked about him after walking by him, but nobody ever outright ridiculed him... and nobody ever harassed him, and to my knowledge he never got into traffic or made a niusance of himself
in the summers he happily spent his days sitting on the sidewalk in front of his folks' home picking up ants - oh so gently - and showing them to passersby with a big grin on his face. apparently he didn't speak so he sort of muttered to people. but there was no mistaking the absolute delight in his eyes at the wonder of his little critters
he was said to be 29 at the time...
we talked about him after walking by him, but nobody ever outright ridiculed him... and nobody ever harassed him, and to my knowledge he never got into traffic or made a niusance of himself
I still don't see why they would bother and find it a lot more likely someone wrote this letter so I guess we'll have to agree to disagree lol I have encountered people who do stuff like that - I have received vindictive 'anonymous' letter from a neighbor - and no, I never knew who it was. It was about something as unimportant as parking so I can easily imagine how some bitter, unhappy, antisocial jerk would resort to that sort of thing. I have also lived above a miserable dick who loved to use any ridiculous excuse to complain about nonsense because he could do it anonymously, instead of gettin a pair and telling us to our faces when he didn't like something. But that would have meant having to be reasonable or being called on it on the spot when he was being ridiculous. In other words, it would have ruined all the fun and removed his outlet to deal with his own unhappiness. To go back on another thread where probability was mentioned, to me it's a lot more probable that some asshole wrote that letter than the grandmother just decided to do it for attention or sympathy. So we'll have to agree to disagree.You should not believe everything everyone says, just because it outrages you. They might be exploiting you.
One of the things I do a lot is observe people, because it helps me understand them better. I have noticed that when someone cries victim, they are granted the benefit of doubt pretty much almost always, and the person they are accusing is assumed to be guilty, even if there isn't any real evidence. The accusation is enough, and the first person to do it is assumed to be truthful. And after that close inspection of the actual facts usually does not happen.
The thing is, there are plenty of people who abuse that tendency in human nature to their own ends. You always need to be wary of that, NEVER believe someone just because they say so. You need corroboration, and in this case there is apparently none.
Now, if this kid had been causing problems in the neighborhood, no one will dare complain about it in the future, because if they do they will be branded as the "letter writer". If you were the parent of a troublesome child, that is a valuable card to be holding.
If you can't see why someone might find that an attractive option, I have a few bridges I'm sure you would be very interested in buying
Melody, I wouldn't wish a downs child on you... having dealt with them in the past, I do agree that many of them are hilarious little bundles of joy. That said, I was able to hand them back at the end of the day and didn't have to deal with them when they got older or were in a bad temper. The exclusive long term care commitment and lack of respite is what grinds most parents of special needs children down. It is a wearing and thankless job, and unlike so called "regular children", it doesn't get easier with age.
If you're lucky, your child is high functioning and will be able to learn to succeed in the world independently of you. If not...
I read in the paper today the father has offered a $100 reward for information on who wrote the letter.
