Actually unless he has kids then it matters not as Canada has a "no fault" divorce law....if he were in California he would be fucked if it had in fact been taped/recorded.
SR
served with divorce papers today
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SR
I am curious, why is this "nice guy" you keep going on about allways shown as some nerdy looking guy? The mysogynistic guys I've encountered are usually average looking, not nerdy. Is it because you assume that a guy who isnt attractive on the outside must be unattractive on the inside as well?
The thing is, your ex is not representative of women, she is representative of herself. Therefore your personal experience is not any more valuable than anyone else's opinion. In fact I would go so far as to say it is LESS valuable due to the bitterness you have towards her and the consequent distortions in your world view.
You are not an impartial observer.
I don't know, is he always shown as some nerdy looking guy? I personally don't picture "him" any one physical type. And I happen to kind of like nerdy and nerdy looking guys.I am curious, why is this "nice guy" you keep going on about allways shown as some nerdy looking guy? The mysogynistic guys I've encountered are usually average looking, not nerdy. Is it because you assume that a guy who isnt attractive on the outside must be unattractive on the inside as well?
Ya, but the kind of guys we are talking about here are usually average to good looking mid to low aggresion types, but with unattractive aspects to their personality that they don't see. They think they should be desirable and get confused and angry when they are consistently rejected.I don't know, is he always shown as some nerdy looking guy? I personally don't picture "him" any one physical type. And I happen to kind of like nerdy and nerdy looking guys.
Nerdy looking guys generally know they are not attractive and they know why. They are not confused about it. They don't think "I have everything a woman could want, so why do none want me?". That is the sort of mind set the creepy "nice guy" has.
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Larry Storch
Sam, if you are happier being single then enjoy it.
To everyone else going off topic: Divorce can hurt like nothing you have ever felt in your life or be more freeing than you can imagine. I've been through it and have felt both. The main reason some of these posts are so angry toward our Exes is because there is still pain. (Wow, this is almost turning into a Dr.Phil moment) Making generalized statements about women and men is like making generalized statements about a certain race or religion, often inaccurate.
For a while after my ex left I hated her so much there weren't words to describe it. Eventually I accepted that she had some major emotional/psychological problems and I couldn't fix her and gradually began to understand it all. She developed the courage to get the help she needed and eventually contacted me to explain/apologize why she did what she did. I told her there was no reason to apologize and I understood why it all happened. Today we still talk and occasionally spend the night together. We don't want to reunite and are happy with our separate lives. I've learned a great deal about myself from this and use that knowledge to avoid making the same mistakes in the future. She has moved past the pain and fear of an enormous amount of childhood abuse and is now strong and independent.
Change can be painful.
Not always one sided.
Learn from it.
Don't just carry it around.
To everyone else going off topic: Divorce can hurt like nothing you have ever felt in your life or be more freeing than you can imagine. I've been through it and have felt both. The main reason some of these posts are so angry toward our Exes is because there is still pain. (Wow, this is almost turning into a Dr.Phil moment) Making generalized statements about women and men is like making generalized statements about a certain race or religion, often inaccurate.
For a while after my ex left I hated her so much there weren't words to describe it. Eventually I accepted that she had some major emotional/psychological problems and I couldn't fix her and gradually began to understand it all. She developed the courage to get the help she needed and eventually contacted me to explain/apologize why she did what she did. I told her there was no reason to apologize and I understood why it all happened. Today we still talk and occasionally spend the night together. We don't want to reunite and are happy with our separate lives. I've learned a great deal about myself from this and use that knowledge to avoid making the same mistakes in the future. She has moved past the pain and fear of an enormous amount of childhood abuse and is now strong and independent.
Change can be painful.
Not always one sided.
Learn from it.
Don't just carry it around.
Here is what Jenna Marbles has to say on the subject:I don't know, is he always shown as some nerdy looking guy? I personally don't picture "him" any one physical type. And I happen to kind of like nerdy and nerdy looking guys.
