I agree.. not sure where the idea one may be insecure because he's being thoughtful. We honestly don't expect it, and don't think any less of someone who doesn't show up with a gift but I don't think you'd find a woman on this planet who does not appreciate receiving a small gift. I personally think it's gentlemanly rather than wimpy. You know, my mother always told us that when we went to someone's place, bringing a small gift it was just polite thing to do. Of course it depends on the situation and circumstances, so it might be more important if you're being invited for a dinner party than if you're just stopping by for a coffee...but someone would never look at you thinking what a loser because you were thoughtful and brought a little something. I don't know, that's how I see it anyway..
Chocolate may not always be a good idea...wine is good but I've heard some girls prefer not to, so it might be better to ask (if it's not on her website). I personally find it's a nice way to break the ice (sharing a glass of wine) however as someone has mentioned, keep in mind that if you know your "performance" might suffer...make sure to limit and pace your wine drinking or avoid altogether. Flowers are good but sometimes hard to explain depending on the sp's situation. A card is a small gesture that is pretty safe and a gift certificate (eg Chapters) is an idea.
Like I said, the sp won't think anything of you not bringing a gift but if it's something you want to do, she'll definitely appreciate the gesture.
