How to treat an SP ?

[Wild_Bill]

So, I have been a member here for a few years but I have never been that active.
I am happy to say that I have decided to take the plunge and join in.

I am not too sure about etiquette.
It goes without saying that I would be a complete gentleman (especially being English. )
However, I am also aware that this is not a date.

So my question is this;
Do you turn up with flowers ? wine ? chocolates ? other ?
What kind of tip should be left ?

Your comments and advice would be appreciated.

Thanks.

 

[hunsperger]

when seeing a particular lady for the first time, do not book more than 30 minutes...

do not, and I repeat do not, bring flowers, wine, or chocolates...

that is ridiculous...

if the service is beyond expectation, leave a tip that is within your budget...

 

[leather64]

Just treat her like a good friend. Most girls appreciate it. If, you decide to return, then you might treat her with some gifts to show you appreciate her.
Remember, most girls like to be pampered. Good luck!

 

[Paige Reid]

It is not ridiculous to bring flowers, wine or chocolate! It's a very sweet thing to do for any women and although it's never expected it's always appreciated!

 

[Puddlegurl]

LOL, the male and female opinions vary as a woman, I say go with what's natural to you, if you're comfy with leaving a tip if you were really happy after the first session than of course, but if you feel special affection, even if its fantasy and you want to bring your lover, paid or not paid a sensual gesture like a book , chocolate or flowers it never goes unnoticed, friends do that for each other and if she's special and rocks your world then of course, only if you're able to afford.

If you're going to vary your bed mates, sample the buffet per say I would stick to the odd $ tip when you're exceptionally "blown" away. And stay away from purchasing gifts, It adds extra stress to your day and $ spent that may not be appreciated, and it can also lead a trail for SO to follow your activities... :~0

My 0.02

when seeing a particular lady for the first time, do not book more than 30 minutes...

do not, and I repeat do not, bring flowers, wine, or chocolates...

that is ridiculous...

if the service is beyond expectation, leave a tip that is within your budget...

 

[Wild_Bill]

when seeing a particular lady for the first time, do not book more than 30 minutes...

do not, and I repeat do not, bring flowers, wine, or chocolates...

that is ridiculous...

if the service is beyond expectation, leave a tip that is within your budget...

just 30 minutes ?

Most SPs that I have been looking at have a minimum of one hour.
Whats your rationale for 30 minutes ?

 

[Puddlegurl]

again, its your fantasy, if you've done your homework which is sounds like you have I'm sure you'd be pleased with whatever time you choose, don't be afraid to book longer times, its her job to make sure its spectacular.

just 30 minutes ?

Most SPs that I have been looking at have a minimum of one hour.
Whats your rationale for 30 minutes ?

 

[Wild_Bill]

LOL, the male and female opinions vary as a woman, I say go with what's natural to you, if you're comfy with leaving a tip if you were really happy after the first session than of course, but if you feel special affection, even if its fantasy and you want to bring your lover, paid or not paid a sensual gesture like a book , chocolate or flowers it never goes unnoticed, friends do that for each other and if she's special and rocks your world then of course, only if you're able to afford.

If you're going to vary your bed mates, sample the buffet per say I would stick to the odd $ tip when you're exceptionally "blown" away. And stay away from purchasing gifts, It adds extra stress to your day and $ spent that may not be appreciated, and it can also lead a trail for SO to follow your activities... :~0

My 0.02

Sounds reasonable, and its kind of what I thought.
I would like to sample a little, but mainly to find a regular provider.
Appreciate your comments

 

[Miss*Bijou]

when seeing a particular lady for the first time, do not book more than 30 minutes...

do not, and I repeat do not, bring flowers, wine, or chocolates...

that is ridiculous...

if the service is beyond expectation, leave a tip that is within your budget...

do not, and I repeat do not, ever take Hunsperger's advice

that is what is (always) ridiculous...





IMO -
30min appointments for first time meetings can be ok in some cases.. But I would suggest at least 60minutes - unless you're comfortable with or are looking for a quickie-style of appointment and getting right to business.

I guess it depends on what you're looking for. But 30 min would definitely not be the best option for most people.

 

[Bluboy]

Treat them with respect and like a lady...its pretty simple be clean and neat and tip when the service is good

 

[planetsmurf]

I almost always book longer for a first meeting so there is time to chat first and get to know each other a bit first.

i am the exact opposite, i book for 30 minutes because to many times i have paid for a hour after 10 minutes i knew we would never click. if i get a good vibe i try to book longer if i have the cash or just come back for seconds at a future date.

 

[Wild_Bill]

i am the exact opposite, i book for 30 minutes because to many times i have paid for a hour after 10 minutes i knew we would never click. if i get a good vibe i try to book longer if i have the cash or just come back for seconds at a future date.

Thats a very interesting comment and something I am very interested in.
Without basic chemistry I dont think the experience will be worthwhile. - Correction - As enjoyable !
I suppose thats a question for a whole new thread.

 

[Krustee]

Bring a blank check to the first time meeting.

If she remembers your name during sex & manages to say it properly as she fakes an orgasm then sign the check on the way out.

If after a week you find that your bank account has been emptied & you don't even have two nickels to rub together then it is safe to say you should not see her again.

If you still have enough money to pay your rent or mortgage in one week then she's a keeper & you should dance a jig.

Flowers & chocolate are completely optional.

 

[tantalizeme]

So, I have been a member here for a few years but I have never been that active.
So my question is this;
Do you turn up with flowers ? wine ? chocolates ? other ?
What kind of tip should be left ?

Hey Wild Bill,

Can't speak for the Indys—some may find the shy newbie type who brings gifts endearing. Bringing wine and sharing it may loosen you up, but can easily affect performance.

Personally, I go mostly to micros and sometimes AMPs now. I sometimes go for the 1/2 hr but usually feel more comfortable with 3/4 hrs. It allows time for a bit of human connection-building. You may not get the best service if you book the minimum time, appear cheap, and rush things. But obviously, some guys are quicker than others, and less fastidious, in their objectives.

Gifts may be counterproductive as they may signal insecurity, wimpishness. In the long run, your pooning success will depend on maneuvering confidently without appearing overly controlling. That comes with experience.

I do usually give new SPs stockings to wear, and bring my favorite soft music along with a CD player, which seems well-received—but they rightly perceive that I'm doing this for myself, to create the mood I want.

I tend to think the best gift you can bring an SP is probably the correct donation handed over within the first 5 min, a neatly groomed appearance and scrupulous hygiene, a friendly smile and demeanor, attempts at small talk that minimize your chance of being perceived threatening in any way...and then, an easy going-with-the-flow kind of attitude that respects her restrictions and cheerfully appreciates the good things coming your way.

I rarely pay more than $.2—$.5 for FS, and I usually tip 1 green if the service was satisfactory, and sometimes 2 greens if it was stellar. It's a nice farewell gesture that boosts her self-esteem by confirming, more than anything else probably could, that you liked her service. It may also contribute to finding yourself welcomed back with surprising enthusiasm.

Happy pooning, Wild Bill. Don't agonize too much and just go for it.

 

[Mr.Boggo]

I can't say that I've ever tipped or brought gifts over. The way I see it, at $240+ an hour, she can afford any gift a lot easier than I can. That's not to say I don't appreciate the hell out of what an SP does.

Actually, come to think of it, I have brought a chocolate bar for a session, I believe it was Purdys pure milk chocolate.

 

[jnewton]

U could treat her to some Haagen Daaz.

Welcome back Dood.

Good luck!

 

[hang5507]

Do what feels right for you!!

Regards

H

 

[Ride My Mustache]

... Unless you show up naked wearing just a long jacket. But then I would might take the emergency exit....lol

Good one. Now I know why so many SPs disappear out the window when I arrive!

When I was in high school a teacher (female teacher at that) gave some good practical advice to the class one day, saying that the best compliment or gift you can give a prostitute is to get a hardon as soon as you see her with her clothes off! Lets her know how much you appreciate what she is providing! (The same teacher had posed nude in Playboy, and once advised the girls in the class that "If you're going to be a hooker, be the best hooker that you can be." Oh, the scandals she would create today!)

 

[JFF009]

Well Wild_Bill,

I've been around a couple of years and at times I'm far too active.

I never bring a gift. I rarely leave a tip. I have always felt that a lady has the right to charge what she wishes so I simply pay that amount.

Keep in mind...as a general rule their interest in you starts and ends with your wallet.
I think some SPs are very, very good at creating fantasy but in the end it is their profession so it is about the money.

 

[Aimee]

I tend to think the best gift you can bring an SP is probably the correct donation handed over within the first 5 min, a neatly groomed appearance and scrupulous hygiene, a friendly smile and demeanor, attempts at small talk that minimize your chance of being perceived threatening in any way...and then, an easy going-with-the-flow kind of attitude that respects her restrictions and cheerfully appreciates the good things coming your way.

True. The greatest thing you can do for a girl is be the best kind of client.

Gifts are never expected, but if you feel inclined they would be appreciated. I wouldn't bring anything to the first appointment but if you choose to see her again you could bring something. Most girls like chocolate but I wouldn't bring them to a girl more than once as we're always worried about getting fat. Just pay attention to your conversations with her and she might inadvertantly give you some thoughtful ideas.

Tipping is also never expected, but it is greatly appreciated. It lets us know that you enjoy our service and had a better-than-average time with us. Every girls likes to feel that she's doing her job well. It doesn't have to be a large amount to accomplish this, either.