How escorts are treated in society

[postiepete]

Long story short version

Guy sees sp a few times over the course of his schooling. A year goes by and to their surprise they end up working in the same office place. He is the boss not direct but 2nd in command and it appears he is making life miserable for her. Just little digs to make things complicated and harder for her and he put in complaints that were not true trying to get her fired with the board. The front end boss is caught in the middle and says whether he agrees or not has to carry out the instructions handle down.

Are there any specific lawyers who deal with these sensitive issues for escorts or other ways of handling it if she doesn’t want to go that route?

Bottom line if someone wants you gone they will find a way to twist and turn things to meet some criteria. It isn’t nice having to tip toe around not knowing when a blow is coming.

A talk with him telling him to get over himself obviously hasn’t worked.

Please share your opinions, comments, facts, and similar stories?

 

[HubbaHubba]

Honesty, there are too many facts being left out to come to an educated decision.
Bottom line is, they both did something better left in the rear view mirror.

How do you know she just doesn't suck at her job? or he sucks at his?

Did your friend mention she was a SP on her resume? Do you really want to get lawyers involved? I don't think so.

 

[postiepete]

Both are good at their jobs. He is power tripping, others see it too. No one gets picked on like she does as it is so painfully obvious that he is just uncomfortable with her presence even though she hasn’t done anything wrong. She stands her ground. Every time she overcomes one of his attempts it is like he just tries harder to come up with something else. People have started to notice his behavior and because of that it is pissing him off more. No one there wants to get involved.

She has considered just walking away quietly as this is clear harassment but why should she be out of a job just because he is a prick.

 

[HubbaHubba]

She has considered just walking away quietly as this is clear harassment but why should she be out of a job just because he is a prick.

They should go for lunch, sit down like adults and talk it through. Pretty simple I think.

 

[postiepete]

They should go for lunch, sit down like adults and talk it through. Pretty simple I think.

If only life was truly that easy.

 

[MissJasmine]

Sounds like he wants to make it so unbearable for her that she will give up and leave.
If she has not done so already she should file a formal complaint with the boss' boss, detailing every incident of harassment.
In my experience many things are not taken seriously until they are in writing.

 

[island-guy]

Both are good at their jobs. He is power tripping, others see it too. No one gets picked on like she does as it is so painfully obvious that he is just uncomfortable with her presence even though she hasn’t done anything wrong. She stands her ground. Every time she overcomes one of his attempts it is like he just tries harder to come up with something else. People have started to notice his behavior and because of that it is pissing him off more. No one there wants to get involved.

She has considered just walking away quietly as this is clear harassment but why should she be out of a job just because he is a prick.

Of course I'm sure that you have his side of things as well as hers, right?

I wonder why it is that bosses are always "jerks" and girls who give great head are never at fault..

Who knows what the real story is, maybe your theory (that he wants her gone because she is/was an SP) is correct and maybe there is something that you don't know about going on.

 

[threepeat]

If she works in a union environment, she should talk to her union.

If she's on her own, if it was me, I would look for another job. Even if she files a complaint and wins, it will be a poisoned work environment and I doubt she will enjoy working there. And she can kiss her chance of future promotion goodbye, unless she is the only person qualified for the job which would be extremely tough to prove.

If she wants to dig in a file a complaint, she should start getting things down in writing (or e-mail) to back up her case, otherwise it becomes he said / she said and the best-case scenario for her becomes a stalemate.

I also agree with island-guy that there are two sides to every story. There are a lot of great and smart girls on this board, but anyone who has spent time around SPs knows that many of them are not super reliable and/or have a lot of drama going on in their life. It is very possible the ex-client is being an ass and making life hard for her. It is also possible she has an everyone's-out-to-get-me-because-I'm-a-hooker chip on her shoulder.

 

[postiepete]

Thanks for all the great input.

 

[jackperb]

I speak from personal experience when I say that the world has a very low point of view when it comes to any type of escort. It's certainly not a secret you should share with anyone. The bitter reality is that many of the men that frequent SP's see those women in the same light as general society. They're willing to pay for it but that's where it ends.

I'm afraid you're mainly correct in what you write but I find that attitude to be so narrow and sad. Yes, I've met some troubled souls in this line of work but I've also met some very fine wonderful women, any of whom I would be honored to date or be involved with on any level. Maybe some will think I'm weird but I would not hesitate to marry one of the SP's I've met and would consider myself lucky to have captured the heart of such an amazing and capable woman.

 

[FunSugarDaddy]

I'd probably meet with this guy and tell me point blank that if you want this to come out in the open and see how the chips fall be my guest. Now out in the open doesn't mean everyone in the office needs to know, just key decision makers who are likely above both of them.

It would obviously hurt his career potential far more than hers.

I would also tell me point blank that if I were fired for no justiable reason, I'm going to launch a sexual harassment suite against you. And regardless of the outcome of that, it's kind of like being accused of rape, you can't win, even if you're inocent. Merely being accused of it, carries some perceived blame regardless of how baseless it is.

 

[HubbaHubba]

Really it does depend on what kind of place she is working at, but yes you are likely right.

I am an idealist.. which really can suck sometimes.

Ideally we'd need all the facts to determine the right course of action.