I'm going to weigh in on this because I am East Indian and Persian myself.
When I first started in this industry, I was warned by a few SPs to not see Indian or Arab clients because I was told they "generally" treat escorts badly.
In my personal, non-SP life, I have, indeed, had some bad experiences with men from my culture of origin:
- I cannot walk down the street alone in my parents' country, as the men there harass, stare at, and stalk me.
- When I was growing up, certain male members of my family were abusive and misogynist (these were older men, my parents' and grandparents' age).
- In my early twenties, I briefly dated an EI man who slut-shamed me constantly and treated me like a possession.
That said, I've always resented being stereotyped as a "victim" or "oppressed" due to my culture of origin, my family's religion (Islam), or the fact that I work in the sex industry.
I did not want to stereotype anybody, so, despite these warnings, and some bad experiences growing up, I decided that I would entertain EI and Arab gentlemen.
I'm so grateful that I made this decision. After a year of escorting, I can say with confidence that I have NEVER had a bad experience with an EI or Arab man.
And in fact, I have found that the stereotype of EI men being rough or unclean holds no water.
Some of my best-dressed, most gentle clients are EI men. I once entertained a beautiful, shy Bangladeshi man who showed up to my door wearing a crisp, pin-striped dress shirt with a matching vest, bow tie, and (without giving away too much) the most fabulous shoes I have ever seen on a man. He looked like he had stepped out of a fashion magazine. He smelled so good, and he tasted even better.
I'm not suggesting that a gentleman needs to dress like a GQ model to gain my affections, but rather that the stereotype of EI and Arab men as unkempt and unmannerly is, in my opinion, old-fashioned and inappropriate.
It's true that my grandfather smelled like fish and treated his wife like a servant, and every time I visit my family back home, I find that there are still men living in the dark ages...
But overwhelmingly, I find that EI and Arab men in this country are respectful of me, even as sex worker.
I keep hearing all this fear-mongering in the right-wing media about Muslim immigrants, about Syrian refugees, and about how POC won't conform to "Canadian values", etc, etc.
Personally, I think it's all nonsense, because as a child of immigrants myself, I remember my parents telling me that they chose to make a life in this country because they thought, in Canada everyone is equal, and you can be whoever you want to be. I was raised to believe that my race and gender were not barriers--that I was just as smart and capable as my brothers, and that my potential was limitless.
I find this optimism reflected in many of the immigrants, and children of immigrants that I meet. Perhaps this is why EI girls tend to do well academically, and many go on to have successful careers, or to start their own businesses. In my own family, most of the women have advanced degrees, overwhelmingly in the sciences, which have traditionally been male-dominated.
All this to say, I believe that an SP has the right to refuse service to whomever she chooses, but myself, personally, I have found no reason to blacklist EI or Arab men, and I'm confident that there are other SPs here who would agree with me.
