Not quite convenient for everyone nor for spur of the moment impulses, but there was that bit on CBC last month about women doing sex tourism... Flying to Cuba where there are tonnes of ready and able guys who treat them to a tropical fling fantasy. No need for long term commitment there if you aren't looking for it. There's just the cost barrier.
YOu guys are soooo lucky..
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Over the years I have been put in different situations in regard to meeting women. School, Church Camp (yes that is right), College, friends of friends, but it is tough, especially at a bar, pub, night club.........................:fear:
I am sorry to admit, but I always did think that women had it made in regard to picking up men, until I read this thread. I can not believe any man in his right mind would pass up any women that post here, even Lady Kay, who I have never met but takes a great photo like so many other lady's here.
I guess no one is amune to the game our minds play with us when it comes to approaching a person of the opposite sex.
A buddy of mine recently got divorced, next thing I knew he had a FWB. But as Mimi said, try to keep it there, they now live together.
All the best to everyone out there that are just looking for a FWB.
I wish I had the time, but as we all know, life gets busy & some things just get put to the side.
Cheers
I am sorry to admit, but I always did think that women had it made in regard to picking up men, until I read this thread. I can not believe any man in his right mind would pass up any women that post here, even Lady Kay, who I have never met but takes a great photo like so many other lady's here.
I guess no one is amune to the game our minds play with us when it comes to approaching a person of the opposite sex.
A buddy of mine recently got divorced, next thing I knew he had a FWB. But as Mimi said, try to keep it there, they now live together.
All the best to everyone out there that are just looking for a FWB.
I wish I had the time, but as we all know, life gets busy & some things just get put to the side.
Cheers
Here's the weird thing. Doing laundry today, too many loads for my machines. (yes, I should do laundry before I run out of clean clothing) Anyway, load up machines and go to the restaurant next door. I'm one of 6 customers, older couple at one table, young couple at another table, single guy and me. Young waitress is sparkling and encouraging conversation. Go back to the laundry to transfer from washer to dryer. Woman much closer to my age is loading washer. Say hello. I'd say totally ignored, except she turns her back to me - so she heard the greeting, didn't appreciate being talked to - but - luckily enough not screaming abuse like the woman at Starbucks.
I've even had conversations with women in line ups that were 8 - 10 in appearance, no problem - no date but she'd have to hint in order for me to ask. But - say hello to a woman near my age who is in my appearance range - - - rejection, I'm lucky if she doesn't have SWAT attend to arrest the potential rapist.
It seems to me that if a woman feels secure in knowing that I won't ask - too young - too attractive or both; she feels no necessity to make an issue out of me talking to her. If the woman is in the range where I might ask with a little encouragement, that's when I risk her "empowering" herself by making an issue out of me talking to her.
I've even had conversations with women in line ups that were 8 - 10 in appearance, no problem - no date but she'd have to hint in order for me to ask. But - say hello to a woman near my age who is in my appearance range - - - rejection, I'm lucky if she doesn't have SWAT attend to arrest the potential rapist.
It seems to me that if a woman feels secure in knowing that I won't ask - too young - too attractive or both; she feels no necessity to make an issue out of me talking to her. If the woman is in the range where I might ask with a little encouragement, that's when I risk her "empowering" herself by making an issue out of me talking to her.
Brilliantly stated "confessions of a mature hottie," along with perceptive Board members' contributions.
Love this thread so much that I'll print it out and carry it in my dance bag when I go off social dancing. I'm still in search of that elusive BJ in the car from a dance partner I've just met (and I'm certainly open to more, if it comes without strings attached).
And this thread, mimi, is my ultimate morale boost! Wish a lady like you could be cloned.
Given that female strangers, in my experience, only offer sex to me once in a blue moon (yes, it did happen once or twice), it's clear I'll have to open conversation on this topic. Here's how I imagine it might go:
"Wow, Mimi, you dance nicely. Feels so nice to hold you... Can I ask you something?"
"Sure, what?"
"It's kind of personal. You look so sexy, so appetizing--can't help wondering..."
"Wonder what?"
"You want me to be totally honest?"
"I like honesty."
"I wonder, Mimi, if by chance you're as horny as I am. I know we've just met, but I'd love to touch you more intimately. We could go to my car. I've a bottle of wine there, and we can listen to music and talk, and perhaps you and I could get into each other a bit? Wouldn't mind a blow job either, if you're into that, but I'm open to anything."
"Just how I feel too! Where are you parked? Let's go right now."
Love this thread so much that I'll print it out and carry it in my dance bag when I go off social dancing. I'm still in search of that elusive BJ in the car from a dance partner I've just met (and I'm certainly open to more, if it comes without strings attached).
And this thread, mimi, is my ultimate morale boost! Wish a lady like you could be cloned.
Given that female strangers, in my experience, only offer sex to me once in a blue moon (yes, it did happen once or twice), it's clear I'll have to open conversation on this topic. Here's how I imagine it might go:
"Wow, Mimi, you dance nicely. Feels so nice to hold you... Can I ask you something?"
"Sure, what?"
"It's kind of personal. You look so sexy, so appetizing--can't help wondering..."
"Wonder what?"
"You want me to be totally honest?"
"I like honesty."
"I wonder, Mimi, if by chance you're as horny as I am. I know we've just met, but I'd love to touch you more intimately. We could go to my car. I've a bottle of wine there, and we can listen to music and talk, and perhaps you and I could get into each other a bit? Wouldn't mind a blow job either, if you're into that, but I'm open to anything."
"Just how I feel too! Where are you parked? Let's go right now."
Well I am going to do an experiment here on the island over the next week. I am always talking to people in line ups but have never made a mental note as to approximate age, are they with kids, etc.
Mimi, you have me very curious now.
Will try to find this link in a week & report back as to Island women feed back
Cheers
Mimi, you have me very curious now.
Will try to find this link in a week & report back as to Island women feed back
Cheers
Loving this thread! You gals that actually want some action should take the lead of loser guys. Develop a stupid line or two. This is the great irony of mating. If a guy really wants a lady and introduces himself with "Hey baby" and a wink, he and his fist will be the only intimate experience he has that night. BUT, if a lady says to a guy "Hey Baby" and winks, her odds are better than the Habs on home ice. So if you want some Coug action, just use all the corny lines that never worked on you. The reason the guys thought they would work is because they figured those lines would work on them. Take the hint.
-Punt.
-Punt.
Miss Kay, you are no doubt very attractive and that makes the regular Vancouverite-guy somewhat intimidated. Since I'm older, I am less intimidating, even though still considered quite attractive. I get asked for dates even when I don't want them (I'm not interested in dating right now).
I recently met a good-looking guy at a local bar, and I did make an assessment that he would be too young for me, if I was seriously looking. But he asked for my number, I answered when he called, and I accepted a dinner invitation. Come to find out, over dinner, that he is almost 20 years my junior. I am not the least bit interested in a fuck-buddy arrangement, but I'd be naive to tell myself it was anything more than that.
My experience indicates that a lot of this trouble you're having has to do with your age and your gorgeousness...
Are guys really that lucky? Yes there is this industry for us guys to use to meet attractive ladies and have some fun. Also I get the fact that males having multiple partners in a lifetime is more acceptable compared to ladies. However when it comes to dating its just as hard for guy to meet someone in the real world. Sure shyness plays apart but if a guy been burned a few times they are most likely to put up walls. Like being cheated on or other things. Some guys like to know the person first before asking them out. Also with social distractions both sexes might be looking for the perfect mate that would fit their busy schedule.
this thread reminds me of the dearly departed tobleroney. his whole schtick of never being able to score.
Ahhhh...you're looking for a good old, Erica Jong "Zipless Fuck"!
(Does it say much about me that I had read Fear of Flying,The Happy Hooker, The Story of O, and The Pearl (and many other Victorian titles by 'Anon.') before I had ever actually been kissed by a guy?)
^but, he didn't need to score...all he had to do was pick out a lovely, reviewed lady and get some relief for his tortured little soul.
I get why some guys think women don't have trouble getting laid. I have a relative who complained that all his buddies are getting it except him, when in fact, only one of his buddies is getting it, not only fairly longish (maybe 3 month) relationships, but screwing around on the side, the rest of his friends aren't getting it either, but, he only sees the one who is and not the many, like him, who aren't. I actually recommended hiring someone and he told me he needed to be in love, and feel connected (we obviously don't share a lot of dna)...so, there you go...
For the guys who think women can get laid whenever they want, next time you walk down the street look at every woman around you, no matter age, or looks etc...and ask yourself how many would you have sex with?
sdw, you have some bad luck! this morning, at my favourite breakfast place, the man sitting at the table next to me turned and said a big 'hello' to which I said 'hello' back and we had a great conversation. I almost missed my plane. If we weren't in a hurry to get to our separate destinations, who knows?
I have noticed that a lot of guys who come here are looking for long term relationships, and connections. It does seem to get tougher to find a way to meet people for that purpose and I lay the blame at recreational activities having become rather reclusive. I think chevy remarked on this, too. As I mentioned before a lot of the public places for group recreation seem to have disappeared. It started with those pinball arcades and progressed.
I know that in my mom's day people went out to church socials, and danced. Or went bowling, or played darts etc...people got together in groups where it was safer to meet someone on a gradual basis, rather than go out on a big date, right at the beginning, and worry about the other person falling in love when the connection wasn't there for you.
I don't know the answer to all that, as I am past it. I have good friends and just want to work myself into a good retirement situation (and a relationship has been known to waylay that)
somebody wrote a good post on the previous page about the 'conditioning' of Canadian youth, and he has some very, very good points. I used to go to the Persian Carpet store in Gastown just because the men there flirted with me, and made me feel attractive and desirable...yeah, I know they wanted to sell me a carpet, and I have come close to buying one about 45 times, but what really drew me in was the fact that I knew I would walk out with damp panties, feeling like a million bucks
I get why some guys think women don't have trouble getting laid. I have a relative who complained that all his buddies are getting it except him, when in fact, only one of his buddies is getting it, not only fairly longish (maybe 3 month) relationships, but screwing around on the side, the rest of his friends aren't getting it either, but, he only sees the one who is and not the many, like him, who aren't. I actually recommended hiring someone and he told me he needed to be in love, and feel connected (we obviously don't share a lot of dna)...so, there you go...
For the guys who think women can get laid whenever they want, next time you walk down the street look at every woman around you, no matter age, or looks etc...and ask yourself how many would you have sex with?
sdw, you have some bad luck! this morning, at my favourite breakfast place, the man sitting at the table next to me turned and said a big 'hello' to which I said 'hello' back and we had a great conversation. I almost missed my plane. If we weren't in a hurry to get to our separate destinations, who knows?
I have noticed that a lot of guys who come here are looking for long term relationships, and connections. It does seem to get tougher to find a way to meet people for that purpose and I lay the blame at recreational activities having become rather reclusive. I think chevy remarked on this, too. As I mentioned before a lot of the public places for group recreation seem to have disappeared. It started with those pinball arcades and progressed.
I know that in my mom's day people went out to church socials, and danced. Or went bowling, or played darts etc...people got together in groups where it was safer to meet someone on a gradual basis, rather than go out on a big date, right at the beginning, and worry about the other person falling in love when the connection wasn't there for you.
I don't know the answer to all that, as I am past it. I have good friends and just want to work myself into a good retirement situation (and a relationship has been known to waylay that)
somebody wrote a good post on the previous page about the 'conditioning' of Canadian youth, and he has some very, very good points. I used to go to the Persian Carpet store in Gastown just because the men there flirted with me, and made me feel attractive and desirable...yeah, I know they wanted to sell me a carpet, and I have come close to buying one about 45 times, but what really drew me in was the fact that I knew I would walk out with damp panties, feeling like a million bucks
That's me, bang on!Lol! OMG you know me so well...and we haven't even met!
You are a replacement for a vibrator ... or you're shy?
LMFAOYou are a replacement for a vibrator ... or you're shy?
ound: Shy...but could be a replacement for a vibrator! Lol!
Whats that all about? Thats a sad attitude to have of yourself and totally won't get you a date, do you need to talk about something CheeseBurger?
As for Borko, Theres this thing, its called flirting and it helps a person figure out if theres chemistry. I would never walk up to someone I found attractive and say " wanna go on a date with me? ". I also enjoy letting the man be the man by taking the lead and asking me out. Here's how it goes, I flirt and put out the signs then the man, if interested, asks to get together. I can be dominating and Iv learnt to let the man be the man, it's much hotter that way.
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