Yet Another Question for the Women about Women

[AA_Train]

Here's the scenario: A few weeks ago I was in a clothing store looking for a new shirt. I wasn't really sure if it looked good. I wanted a second opinion and saw an attractive woman and figured that this might be an excuse to go up and talk to her, so I did. She gave her opinion ( an endorsment of the garment) and asked me to return the favour with a skirt (which I in return endorsed). We struck up a good conversation from there, found out a little about each other ( I confirmed she was single) and was about to ask for her number when she voluntarily gave it to me. At that time I was in the process of finding a new place and had plans that weekend (the long weekend) and called her the next week. The number was hers (she's from venezuela with a VERY distinct and sexy accent) but got the voicemail and left a message. A couple of days went by with no reply. I gave her another call and she answered. I tried to set something up and she said she had to check her work schedule to confirm. To this day, she has not called me back.

My question is, why would she give me her number if she wasn't interested? It seems like a fruitless endeavour. If I give out my number, I am definitely interested. Did I breach some sort of arbitrary female protocol? As far as I know everything was cool and at no point did I sense displeasure with my conduct. So, what's the deal?

 

[Violet]

I highly doubt most women would give out their phone number if they were not interested. A few possibilities in my opinion:

- perhaps she IS just really busy & isn't actually trying to get rid of you
- as said before, she may have lost interest if you waited a while to call, or even forgot exactly who you were (especially if she has been meeting a lot of new people)
- she may have recently started dating someone & is no longer available
- maybe she was alredy in a relationship & since thought better of doing anything with you
- perhaps, for whatever reason, she gave you her number on a whim & then regreted the decision
- maybe she just wanted to be friends but something you said or the way you said it made her realize that you were thinking it was going to be more & she doesn't want to lead you on

If you are really interested, wait a few days or so & give her another call. If she still doesn't seem interested, ask her honestly whether she wants you to stop calling her or if she is indeed still interested in going on a no-pressure date sometime. Tell her you won't be offended & to tell you the truth, as you don't mean to be bothering her if she isn't interested.

 

[chilli]

Unfortunately most women have a really hard time with something called the truth.

She is brushing you off, hoping you will never call her again.

Reason?

Does it matter?

Take the hint, if she really wanted to see you - she would. Anything else is purely wishful thinking on your part.

On another note : If you were truly interested you should have called her the next day.

 

[HeMadeMeDoIt]

I wouldve never called her back a second time. Way I see it is you call a chick once, if she's interested u'll hear back if not then o well. Calling a second time will only make you look desperate and pathetic in my opinion. I know some chicks like to be chased but I personally dont cater to that.

 

[ezsmile]

You called, left a message.
You called again and talked with her, she said she would get back to you.
She hasn't gotten back to you yet.

I have done that a few times to women, they probably do the same thing to men.

When I have done it is because
1) I decided I didn't actually want to see them
2) I just never got around to it until too much time had passed by

It's usually #1.
Women are always complaining when men never call back. Recently I had a conversation with a girl, she was explaining that men and women had different conceptions of time, that was her take on this type of situation.

Anyway, getting back to this particular girl, maybe she decided not to go through with it just like guys do.
Or, she also may be one of those types of girls who always wonder why we men never phone.

Give it one more shot and see what happens?

 

[AA_Train]

Unfortunately most women have a really hard time with something called the truth.

She is brushing you off, hoping you will never call her again.

Reason?

Does it matter?

Take the hint, if she really wanted to see you - she would. Anything else is purely wishful thinking on your part.

On another note : If you were truly interested you should have called her the next day.

True, but the next day I was packing to leave for camping in 100 mile. But for the rest of it, I agree 100%. If she was interested, she would of called me. So my question is why give out the number? It's fruitless.

It may be a female game playing thing which i've always hated. I don't chase women. I'm a get to the point kind of guy. I called her, showing I was interested, if she's not, her loss. It's not that i'm losing sleep over it, just perplexed. If she wants to see me, she knows where to call, but I may have to check my schedule And Ps it was less than a week between first contact and a phone call.

 

[agent47]

Here's the scenario: A few weeks ago I was in a clothing store looking for a new shirt. I wasn't really sure if it looked good. I wanted a second opinion and saw an attractive woman and figured that this might be an excuse to go up and talk to her, so I did. She gave her opinion ( an endorsment of the garment) and asked me to return the favour with a skirt (which I in return endorsed). We struck up a good conversation from there, found out a little about each other ( I confirmed she was single) and was about to ask for her number when she voluntarily gave it to me. At that time I was in the process of finding a new place and had plans that weekend (the long weekend) and called her the next week. The number was hers (she's from venezuela with a VERY distinct and sexy accent) but got the voicemail and left a message. A couple of days went by with no reply. I gave her another call and she answered. I tried to set something up and she said she had to check her work schedule to confirm. To this day, she has not called me back.

My question is, why would she give me her number if she wasn't interested? It seems like a fruitless endeavour. If I give out my number, I am definitely interested. Did I breach some sort of arbitrary female protocol? As far as I know everything was cool and at no point did I sense displeasure with my conduct. So, what's the deal?

i know what u did wrong but lets take it from the top.

u were able to have a conversation with her. good

u got a number. good

but u missed a step, you see when u get a number right after ask her out for coffee. it doesnt have to be that day but it helps. during coffee be funny charming etc etc. this way u make a better impression then like 10mins of talking about cloths which she's not gonna remember as clearly. if you dont get a coffee date dont fear its all good. try to set one up later that week. try to keep it close to the day u met. the closer the better. u now have a reason to call. have fun!

 

[PatB5678]

Girls often give out there numbers, without any intention of going out with you. They just want to see if you will call them. It's an ego thing.

It is very flattering to them if you ask for their number... but that isn't quite enough of an ego jolt cause they don't know how serious you are. So they hope you call and when they do it furthers and reaffirms the ego boost. Then they no longer have any need for you and the conversation would usually be pretty short and reticent. You have served your purpose.

If you keep calling her it will just go to her head, basically teaching her that kind of game playing or 'leading on' is ok to do to guys. And as another poster mentioned, you look pretty desperate and pathetic if you do.

 

[Irresistible Isabelle]

Unless you left messages along the lines of this:
<object width="425" height="344"><param name="movie" value="http://www.youtube.com/v/c06pinaKl8o&hl=en&fs=1"></param><param name="allowFullScreen" value="true"></param><embed src="http://www.youtube.com/v/c06pinaKl8o&hl=en&fs=1" type="application/x-shockwave-flash" allowfullscreen="true" width="425" height="344"></embed></object>

then it's probably one of the reasons Nina, Violet & exotic non-pro listed.

 

[massageobsessed]

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If you are really interested, wait a few days or so & give her another call. If she still doesn't seem interested, ask her honestly whether she wants you to stop calling her or if she is indeed still interested in going on a no-pressure date sometime. Tell her you won't be offended & to tell you the truth, as you don't mean to be bothering her if she isn't interested.

Call her back, but offer her something...there has to be something in it for her, otherwise she'll be "busy" or "need to check schedule" again. When I say offer her something, "I have tickets to X event next Friday, & I think you would enjoy going because..." That way there's something in it for her, and you are giving her the reason why she should attend, then it is up to her to bring up the argument on why she can't go. If after the 3rd ask, then move on (to your next shopping adventure).

Good luck!

 

[SilkyJohnson]

bitches aint shit....

 

[luckyj]

what SilkyJohnson said

As well

"females ain't nothing but female dogs to me BITCHES"
Eazy-E

She's playin ya! Call once if not answer then Fuck it. har har har.

 

[wolverine]

I gave her another call and she answered. I tried to set something up and she said she had to check her work schedule to confirm. To this day, she has not called me back.

Cut your losses and move on.

My question is, why would she give me her number if she wasn't interested?

Exchanging phone numbers was a spur-of-the-moment thing but a woman is likely to change her mind about that later.

 

[sarahpassion]

Unless you left messages along the lines of this:
<object width="425" height="344"><param name="movie" value="http://www.youtube.com/v/c06pinaKl8o&hl=en&fs=1"></param><param name="allowFullScreen" value="true"></param><embed src="http://www.youtube.com/v/c06pinaKl8o&hl=en&fs=1" type="application/x-shockwave-flash" allowfullscreen="true" width="425" height="344"></embed></object>

then it's probably one of the reasons Nina, Violet & exotic non-pro listed.

Wow that was Rich....sounds like some of the voicemails I receive.
Or the unfamous Dog Shit!

 

[jon]

I've had the same situation. This girl gave me her number and I would call her every day and leave a message for about a week. Then when I got a hold of her - I asked her out. She said sure...but when the evening arrived, she changed her mind. I moved on...then about a week later she called me - and we went out and dated for six months. She apparently was having problems with her boyfriend at the time and didn't know whether to go out with me. I dumped her six months later, but lately I miss her. From what I've learned about women is this...they can fall out of love as easy and even faster than they fall into it. Women change their mind on a daily basis -especially when they have options.

Good luck

 

[trackstar]

In other words, She's a Cock Tease.
If she phones back, which I doubt. Tell her to Fuck Off.

Sorry, had to do it!

 

[Markl]

Call her, ask her, her intentions. Be heartfelt. If she calls you back, great, if not then move on.

 

[Sit_on_my_face]

You call her too much, thats not cool. You'll start to freak her out. Call leave once and leave a message. Call twice with a second one and thats it.
She doesn't call back, move on cause she's basically hinting you.

The initial phone # exchange could of been spur of the moment kind of thing.
We've all done things like like that.

I when remember doing quite abit of phone # exchanging in the past without ever calling. Also, girls would phone me and I'd never call back myself.. I know I know......" what a jerk".

It goes both ways.

AA_train lots of girls out there. Move on Bud.

 

[AA_Train]

AA_train lots of girls out there. Move on Bud.

Already have. Just a vent about some frustrations with women.

 

[Violet]

You call her too much, thats not cool. You'll start to freak her out. Call leave once and leave a message. Call twice with a second one and thats it.
She doesn't call back, move on cause she's basically hinting you.

The initial phone # exchange could of been spur of the moment kind of thing.
We've all done things like like that.

I when remember doing quite abit of phone # exchanging in the past without ever calling. Also, girls would phone me and I'd never call back myself.. I know I know......" what a jerk".

It goes both ways.

AA_train lots of girls out there. Move on Bud.

Thanks for pointing out that men do this kind of stuff all the time too.

Her reasons are anyones' guess & not necessarily, as some posters said, because all women are fickle or do this deliberately.