Wow, just wow

[violetblake]

Umm......he didn't. However, personalities aside can you blame him for maybe thinking that a lady in the business might have more insight into what makes somebody like this tick ?

Holly basically answered that with a quote where the OP did ask that, there was also another instance where he asked it again. And yeah, I can blame him for thinking that, because the VAST MAJORITY of SPs, and women in general don't act like that. He's implying that we do. Maybe he wasn't, but that's sure what it sounded like so he needs to choose his words more carefully.

I must respectfully add that, yes, being a woman just might expose us to other women we've met that have treated men this way. I thought the OP asked all women for any input into how a woman like this might feel, and why she might act this way.

I strongly disagree with this. I've been exposed to maybe 2 women in my whole life like that. And I have no fucken idea what goes on in their head! lol. Because as soon as I realized what they were like I cut ties with them. I've actually been exposed to more men who take advantage of women to varying degrees, and yet I would never ask all men to explain those men's actions, because I have a brain and am aware that most men aren't like that.

The only people who can explain that person's actions, is that person themself, and possibly other people who do those kinds of things. But you probably won't get an honest answer out of any of them. All I'm trying to say is, please don't group all women or SPs as these kinds of people, that's all.

 

[Avery]

That's one of the most pathetic posts I've ever read on PERB! I'd call you an idiot, but you already know that, despite your being in a state of denial.

She will never truly explain herself. How can she? She played you for a complete fool. Like all con men or women, she will just spin you an outrageous yarn that only the hopelessly gullible will believe.

Your whole story is scary, but what's really scary is this:

I know everybody will say quit seeing her but it's tough, because she is just so sexy and more so now because see is working out now and modeling in bikini contests.

After the way she's screwed you over, you're still hooked.

Find a local SP who's just as attractive. Even if your first attempt is not totally successful, you'll certainly find one who will just cost you her normal rates and nothing more.

It's normal to click more with some SPs than others, but if these ladies ever ask for more money than their going rate, get the hell out of there fast, and don't look back.

 

[uncleg]

 

[wilde]

You have my sympathy and disgust at the same time...

 

[terryj]

I never meant to group all ladies like this, I just couldn't figure out why she wanted me to come to her city to spend time together, but actually didn't want me around her. That was a fuckup on her behalf, instead she should have said no, and made some lame excuse why I couldn't come.
I haven't given no money since Dec. 5, other than her fee for our last appointment last week. If she ask's again for more money I'll simply let her know her new boyfriend can certainly help her. The main thing is like I said I'm a lonely single that gave up on the dating stuff, internet dating too. I'm a workaholic with no life so I have more money than I need, with a depressing future knowing I'm never going to have a mate in it, I'm only 39 years old but I can say with a straight face that I never once had a relationship with a female. Last year when she was hitting me up for money all the time I actually liked it because I felt like I was a part of her life, pretty sad but when your lonely money means nothing at all. I will probably see her again but only as a client paying her hourly rates and no more. The thing that hit me the hardest was seeing the pictures of them as a loving couple.

 

[blazejowski]

I'm a workaholic with no life so I have more money than I need

I do accept donations if you wanna spare some of that green...
Seriously, though - end it, and press charges for the credit card theft...

 

[terryj]

I only had three months to file the complaint, or can you still go through the process, anyone know what the penaties are for credit card fraud?

 

[Man Mountain]

I only had three months to file the complaint, or can you still go through the process, anyone know what the penaties are for credit card fraud?

In your original post, you mention that she asked you for your credit card information but you weren't clear about whether you gave it to her or not. I'm not a lawyer but if you willingly gave her your credit card information, I would think it would be difficult for you to prove how much you were willing to let her use it. If she had fraudulently aquired your credit card information, I'm guessing you'd probably have a better case. Probably couldn't hurt to call the appropriate law enforcement agency to find out what your options are. But I some how doubt that you'll pursue it since it sounds like you still want to at least continue seeing her in a "professional" capacity... if we can still call it that at this point.

I also just want to say that I'm genuinely sorry to read about what happened to you. I know how "feelings" can sometimes cloud our judgment and if we were thinking rationally, of course we'd see exactly what was happening and we'd avoid it but in that hazy state, we lie to ourselves just as much as we're being lied to by the other person. The important thing is that you now see it for what it was and deal with it however you feel most appropriate. Best of luck to you, man.

 

[badbadboy]

Sorry you let this happen to yourself.

I also do not think this is a SP or female related issue. Some people whether they be male or female are capable of manipulating others to think what they have is really a fantasy worthy of throwing your money at it and losing all aspects of your self esteem. She sounds like an extraordinarily gifted Grifter. Pure and simple, she got you hooked, played the "I want out of the industry card" and you as the Knight in Shining Armour happily played along since you were lonely and vulnerable.

Block her number from your phone, add her email address to your black list and have the strength to never make contact with her again.

Finally find a hobby that also has females and try to get a social network outside of your work. I am of the opinion that the internet is not the place to find someone and putting yourself out there will eventually pay off with a relationship.

 

[luvsdaty]

It's like a tragic car wreck, you can't help but rubber neck.Don't feel bad buds,relationships are pretty over rated(been in 3,2 split ups & i'm a widower)Like you said you're a workaholic so you don't have time for a serious relationship anyway.You mention money doesn't mean much too you, so live it up take a vacation(if you can)enjoy life dude.
See different sp's,hang out with your buds/family(if you can stand them) & stop worrying about a relationship.Most of them are loveless anyways(50% end in divorce)Chalk it up as a lesson learned(girls like her are a dime a dozen,& pretty easy to find.Just go to a casino)
Don't take life to seriously dude,live a little

 

[yvrgoodtimes]

I couldn't even finish your post. It was like watching those wipe out vids. I always turn my head just before they break a leg or crush a nut. It's always easier from the outside, but you have to know it's all business. We get into these "relationships" for a reason. No strings attached. Nothing to do but forget all contact with this lady. Realize you lost this one, and move on. Do something for yourself. Take a trip. Join a gym. First thing I'd do is blaze a fatty and smack myself in the head. Tough luck bro, but nobody to blame but yourself.

 

[Diablo]

Take all the advice you been given. Run far and fast. I have a friend who wouldn't listen. He lost he condo in somewhat similiar circumstances.

Also 39 isn't that old now. I got married in my late 30s and my uncle married in his early 40s.

 

[Jessikaxxx]

Sorry to hear the sad story.
Figure out where to draw the line...its about personal boundaries.
Respect the boundaries yourself, and dont let others cross them.
If you are feeling lonely, or just gotta get some action... call a reputable lady from perb.

Post a review about it. Things will get better, Darlin.
If you wanna get over someone...get under someone.

xoxox,
jxxx

 

[vancity_cowboy]

for a while i lived in the tropics. i used to sit out on my porch at nights until the air cooled down and i burned candles for light to read by

every night i would be visited by praying mantises who were attracted to the flame on the candle. they would land right on the shaft of the candle and ever so slowly move closer and closer to the flame until finally in a flash of inquisitiveness they would stick their head too close to the flame and immolate themselves

these were otherwise intelligent seeming insects - i used to call them jiminey cricket - but they were just genetically inclined to be attracted to a flame... fatally attracted as it would invariably turn out

YOU are the mantis... SHE is the flame, and you say you still want to see her 'professionally'?

DO NOT see her... DO NOT burn your head off...

 

[sevenofnine]

i kind of think emotions are good i mean nice emotions are good caring loving friends.
even with an escort even when your paying her money.
but then being said when things seem wrong feel wrong,

when things don't make sense, like she is an escort she can make lots of money, she shouldn't have to beg or borrow money from you, or steal from you,
yes you pay her to make you feel good and she should but then borrow money from you lie to you,
i mean bells should start to go off

and this is about escorts i get it, but i have dealth with cops doctors lawyers and judges ok,
and my honesst opinion is you should know what the process is,
when something happens not normal you should ask what the fuck is going on here, to your doctor to the cop to your lawyer or accountant.
you don't think your accountant can steal from you, or your lawyer.
or your doctor can mess up.
just my two cents,

 

[booblover]

you're a loser and need to smarten up...sorry to be blunt

 

[Larry Storch]

Jeez, I could have started this thread!
Had a very similar experience and it did cost me money and probs with my CCard. Took me a while, but I finally just told her that I couldn't help her anymore. It was one thing to see her as an SP but another to try to support her.

Really don't think he's a loser, maybe well intentioned an somewhat naive, but hopefully what is posted here will help him get it together and move on.

...Pure and simple, she got you hooked, played the "I want out of the industry card" and you as the Knight in Shining Armour happily played along since you were lonely and vulnerable.

Block her number from your phone, add her email address to your black list and have the strength to never make contact with her....

badbadboy sumed it up and provided a solution. :thumb:

 

[Dickson]

I never meant to group all ladies like this, I just couldn't figure out why she wanted me to come to her city to spend time together, but actually didn't want me around her. That was a fuckup on her behalf, instead she should have said no, and made some lame excuse why I couldn't come.
I haven't given no money since Dec. 5, other than her fee for our last appointment last week. If she ask's again for more money I'll simply let her know her new boyfriend can certainly help her. The main thing is like I said I'm a lonely single that gave up on the dating stuff, internet dating too. I'm a workaholic with no life so I have more money than I need, with a depressing future knowing I'm never going to have a mate in it, I'm only 39 years old but I can say with a straight face that I never once had a relationship with a female. Last year when she was hitting me up for money all the time I actually liked it because I felt like I was a part of her life, pretty sad but when your lonely money means nothing at all. I will probably see her again but only as a client paying her hourly rates and no more. The thing that hit me the hardest was seeing the pictures of them as a loving couple.

Been there and done that terryj. I am sad to say that I have been there more than once over my 30 years of being in the hobby. I have spent more than you so just get over it and move on. Time to move on. See other SPs that works for me. I am sure that I will end up down that street again. But I do get over it. I would not spend anymore time with her. No more sessions and no contact with her and I would not go after her over the credit cards. Just break it and move on. I know it is hard but you will set your self up for more heartach and problems. Speaking to a guy that has been there. There are many many more SPs out there who are even more enjoyable. Get her out of your head. It is hard but you will find others.

I feel for you buddy. You are not alone. I know what lonelyness is all about. It is hard to describe to people. I too work all the time. So I can relate. I have been doing this a lot longer than you and I gave up on the relationship thing about 8 years ago. Good to know that there is someone else out there like me.

My advice to you is Good luck and move on.

 

[Ned Flanders]

Well, I feel bad for you. But, you did keep volunteering to get used and still seem open to it now, so that does put you in the running to be the village idiot of Vancouver. There are lots of girls out there and lots of SPs. If you use SPs do not get deluded into thinking you can buy your way into a relationship with one of them.

 

[Lilmissniki]

Okie dokie then. Speaking from personal experience I am betting that you are not the first "date" or b/f she has done this to. She is a predator. She is not an SP for any other reason. To her this is about her and only her. You are just a mere pawn in her life in which the whole wide world revolves around. Her magic trick is pretty simple, she reels you and set her hooks very fast. She keeps you dizzy and confused most of the time so she can lie and manipulate you in order to live the lifestyle she wants. This is her job. She isn't an SP she's a con.I would obviously suggest that you run as fast as you can in the opposite direction as her and do it now.She will continue to milk you for everything you are worth and not think twice about it.
She doesn't deserve you. She is like buying a brand new car and then realizing as you drive off the lot that she won't ever try to give back the time,money,support etc., that you have given her. She depreciated in value after the first date and you won't ever get back what you put in.
So pull your head out of your tushie, arrange one last rendezvous with her and then when it comes time to pay tell her you forgot your wallet and that you'll pay her next time lol After all you ARE more to her then just a date.