Because there is always some "well meaning" person that is going to tell the guy she's seeing about her past.
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Wow this is a "poonercentric" thread. I've had several regulars over the years, none of whom I've ever attempted to date. But they've all told me about guys who want to date them and invariably their reaction is why would they date someone who is either cheating on his SO or can't get laid without paying for it? This whole thread makes me laugh.
I would say some things should stay buried... And it doesn't even help non escort relationships to bring up all the people you used to sleep with, I can't see it being useful to bring up escorting as a past job.
Sounds like you had a few judgemental regulars that didn't really think much of their clients..
Why I think you're trying to hurt my feelings.
Since you were there client and a regular one at that, it seems likely that they thought the same about you that they professed to think about their other clients wouldn't you say?
Hmmmm, you wouldn't think that an SP would carry this misperception around. I see many a client who is very attractive, intelligent, nice, and professionally successful. They pay for it because it's less complicated. As has been said in another thread, there is no such thing as 'free sex.' That is an illusion. For every person that embarked on a fuck buddy relationship, 9 out of 10 will tell you that it failed, and why? Because one or the other of them decided they wanted more, and tried to convince the other one that that was a good idea. The SP/client relationship is much more clear and clean.
As for why the lady in question would tell her suitor about her past, if she's had a successful career here, she actually has a lot to be proud of. I'm with her, and wouldn't want to be with someone that didn't understand what RETIRED means. I also have dated men whom I tested with some early probing questions about prostitution. By their responses, it was clear that we just couldn't go any further. Maybe I'm being unfair but, I don't want a prude and I don't want a sex-crazed fiend either. If I ever date again, that is!
They all had many clients like that as well. Those clients were not the ones looking to date them.
Anything is possible...provided you find the right person.
I have dated an SP or two in the past. Oddly enough, the relationships never ended because I had issues with her chosen profession. It was, in fact, she who could not handle the situation and bailed.
Would I date an SP again? Perhaps. But I wouldn't go looking for an SP to date. If it happens, it happens.
I have dated an SP or two in the past. Oddly enough, the relationships never ended because I had issues with her chosen profession. It was, in fact, she who could not handle the situation and bailed.
Would I date an SP again? Perhaps. But I wouldn't go looking for an SP to date. If it happens, it happens.
I agree with you Alex, 110%! Anybody that says all clients are either cheating on SO's or can't get laid without paying for it are just so ridiculous. I mean, they shouldn't even be working if that's really what they think. I suppose everyone's clients are different, but for me the reason 40% of my clients see me is because they're busy and don't have the time or inclination to pursue traditional dating situations. The other 60% are in unsatisfying relationships, and a grand total of 0% are the because they can't get laid without paying for it....
I would definitely date a former or retired SP, I'm not sure I could handle being in a relationship with one that was currently working as an SP though. Pretty sure I'd get jealous. There are a couple of SP's that I've seen for some time and I've gotten to know them a bit and they are wonderful people. At the very least I'd love being their friend and being there for them when they needed it.
Would agree with you although a number of the long term SPs that I have gone on a real date refer to me as an asshole, or the most evil person they have ever met. SPs are not interested in the guys that I know for a fact. They just see a paycheque and that is fine. That is why dating SPs appeals to me because I know what I am getting and they know what I am paying for. Real relationship end in pain. Just my thoughts.
That's a bit contradictory. I think you meant to say "I" instead of "she"
This seems to be happening a lot in this thread and a few other recent ones, that people are assuming their own preferences apply to everyone/most people. It's a very common and understandable mistake. A worse one is assuming one knows "for a fact" how another group of people feel, (like Dickson above).
I wouldn't have a problem with someone I was in a relationship seeing an SP. As you (Natasha) said, it's very individual; we all have different expectations from relationships. I do not demand or expect sexual monogamy from a partner. Not because I think it's "only fair" for him to have sex with other people given the fact that I do (being an SP and having sex purely for fun are not really equivalent), but because I don't believe in forced monogamy. If the person I am in a relationship with does not wish to have sex with anyone else (they often don't) that's fine, but I would not need the assurance of sexual monogamy in order to feel secure in myself or my relationship.
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I absolutely would date/be in a romantic/serious relationship with someone I met as a client. I was hesitant to say that because I really don't need anyone assuming that means I would date just any client/them. But if I am truly interested in someone the way that we met does not affect whether or not I'd date them, it just adds a different dynamic with its own advantages and disadvantages. However, I would recommend that any client who wants to ask an SP out on an unpaid "regular" date proceed with caution and tact because you can't assume that an SP is single/looking or that she is interested in having more than a friendly client/SP relationship with you just because she is nice to you and has fun sex with you.
Then there is also the possibility that one could actually meet an SP, or person who sees/has seen SPs, through circumstances totally unrelated to paying/receiving payment for services! You might meet someone who happens to be an SP at the beach, at yoga class, at the bar, in your Spanish class, at the grocery store, or wherever it is one meets people. And pretty much any man I meet could potentially be someone who has seen SPs or even does so regularly.
Imagine this: You strike up a conversation with a beautiful and intelligent woman at your friend's cocktail party. You end up chatting the whole night; you feel a spark, a chemistry, you have lots in common and she is the most interesting person you have met in a long time. You go on a date or 2 and your interest only grows. Soon after, she tells you that there is something you should know about her job before you get too involved: she provides companionship and sexual services for payment. How would you react?[/hr]
Yes! If I successfully made an appointment with you, I would be the first one!
Well since you asked. If I were dating an sp I would need to see a full round of std tests from her after every client and thats not very practical. And I'm really not cool with someone else banging my girl. If I didn't give a shit about her then it wouldn't bother me and if it didn't bother me then she's obviously not a girl I'm looking for a relationship from. So its pretty simple actually, no soul searching required.
Would you date a SP?
Personally I would, but as obviously seen from everyone's previous posts, it's not for everyone. Unfortunately for service providers, companionship for money and the perceived female sexual promiscuity that go along with it are both highly stigmatized, even by many of their own clients, which can certainly make it difficult. I do believe though, that as long as both parties share the same values, there should be no problems, but that probably holds true for almost all relationships.
Personally I would, but as obviously seen from everyone's previous posts, it's not for everyone. Unfortunately for service providers, companionship for money and the perceived female sexual promiscuity that go along with it are both highly stigmatized, even by many of their own clients, which can certainly make it difficult. I do believe though, that as long as both parties share the same values, there should be no problems, but that probably holds true for almost all relationships.
One pattern on this thread I'm not very fond of is the misconception that we ladies don't think highly of our clients or that we would consider you any different than any other man. I see lots of clients that are fun, sweet, charming, funny, articulate etc etc ... Basically possessing all the qualities you would appreciate in a person. I mean, if I continue to see you that must mean I like you right? I wouldn't just keep inviting someone I didn't enjoy to come over and spend time with me and share my bed. I always say I have lots of lots of boyfriends and I'm lucky for it. It just so happens that we met in a less conventional way, and we maintain a sort of relationship that is simple, has proven to be without flaw and allows us to enjoy each other company without any complication getting in the way. Everyone who says that the ladies don't sincerely enjoy the time spent with our gentleman callers is side most definitely misinformed, at least for me.
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