*~* would you date an sp? *~*

[Cami Parker]

Maybe, maybe not... It depends on the individuals involved, I'd say as everyone's thought process is as unique the individual themselves.

But my question.... Is he so shallow that he can tell if a lady us someone he might like to date before even meeting her? How is that even possible?

so there is obviously a difference in possible issues with it

so seemingly, if a guy sees an ad for an sp that seems like someone he might want to date, he is wise to not book with her and instead hope to meet her randomly instead somewhere to get off on the right foot

 

[Cami Parker]

:clap2::clap2::clap2: #thatswhatimsayin !!!

sure if some guys go around looking for a potential girlfriend by means of faceless ad pix on erslist. hey that chick has a really glorious buttocks i think shes the one! lol

 

[Cami Parker]

Thank you very much, I appreciate that.
I'm so sorry for your experience, that must have been very painful for you.
I think it all comes down to the individuals involved... At the end of the day some guys can handle it and some just can't...

Cami you always have really good threads. I find this one the most interesting one of them all.

I had a friend who use to be an SP and over time I "fell" for her and I got really jealous. I wanted to be understanding and she never lied to me at once but she drove me crazy. I thought I was capable of handling it but on the other hand in the back of my head I was thinking why does she want sleep with random strangers and not spend an evening out with me. Maybe I didnt know her full story of why she did what she did. In the end I lost a friend.

 

[Cami Parker]

That's why I prefer prebooking... I have a life to live, friends to entertain, an education to pursue... I just can't blow everything off at the drop of a dime... (Or the Ping of an email... Whatever lol)

Work always comes first. That's why. It's kinda like dating a cop or firefighter or anyone w/ an on-call job (code blue!!! someone needs his dick sucked! Stat!!! LOL). Work happens and leisure time gets pushed. Granted, not every SP schedules this way. Some ladies are so financially unstable/inconsistent that any opportunity to make cash trumps everything else. Just gotta deal with it.

 

[Cami Parker]

Sad but true...

Loyal, reliable and bullshit free people are easy to find when things are easy and fun, when things get hard, people will rationalize and explain away poor behaviour by either blaming others or ignoring the problem or lying to themselves that are not being disloyal, unreliable and full of bullshit.

 

[Cami Parker]

Yes, well, they can usually see her face, a list of her non-sexual interest, exchange a few sincere notes.... Not to mention the fact that she's actually looking for someone to date...
Apples and oranges my friend!

well people do screen potential dates on online dating sites with not much to go on

 

[Cami Parker]

Well, from the looks of it Darling, you actually have exceptionally glorious buttocks, as opposed to just plain glorious. That's a totally different thing and in your case probably warrants that type of reaction ound:

sure if some guys go around looking for a potential girlfriend by means of faceless ad pix on erslist. hey that chick has a really glorious buttocks i think shes the one! lol[/QUOTE]

Happens to me all the time!

 

[Jethro Bodine]

Haven't read the entire thread but I could not date a practicing SP.
I tried it once and thought I could deal with it but in the end I couldn't.
I would actually get all knotted up inside just thinking about another man enjoying my lady.
(*Please note, I'm not saying my lady as in I own her but as in the woman I love.)

We all have our hang ups and while I try to think of myself as being a liberated individual I'm very old fashioned when it comes to my relationships.
I never pooned when I was in any kind of a relationship as I believe in monogamy.

I know that probably goes against the grain on an escort review site but I'm just being honest with you all.

 

[Cami Parker]

Actually it doesn't. Having been reading this thread from the beginning, I'd say it's a pretty standard response...how about a former SP?

Haven't read the entire thread but I could not date a practicing SP.
I tried it once and thought I could deal with it but in the end I couldn't.
I would actually get all knotted up inside just thinking about another man enjoying my lady.
(*Please note, I'm not saying my lady as in I own her but as in the woman I love.)

We all have our hang ups and while I try to think of myself as being a liberated individual I'm very old fashioned when it comes to my relationships.
I never pooned when I was in any kind of a relationship as I believe in monogamy.

I know that probably goes against the grain on an escort review site but I'm just being honest with you all.

 

[Jethro Bodine]

Actually it doesn't. Having been reading this thread from the beginning, I'd say it's a pretty standard response...how about a former SP?

A former SP. Absolutely!
As long as she had decided, of her own free will to exit that profession and be with me exclusively both physically and emotionally.
That was supposed to be the situation with the SP I dated. She had told me she was leaving the profession to go back to school and get into another occupation so I thought I'd give it a go. After she had apparently quit I found out a few weeks later she was still seeing clients at her friend's apartment. Thus I ended it because a) I couldn't date an SP and b) more importantly she lied to me.
Whether she's an SP, porn star or just a lady whose had many lovers in the past. That doesn't bother me. The past is the past. We all have things in our past we have left behind and they don't define who we currently are.

And I'd definitely date you. But you're too young and pretty for an old rich guy like me.

 

[ac.brep]

Hail to the Chef

Right, if you can see it that way.... I'm not sure I agree with the "many months" bit, as usually when entering a relationship, there is some kind of talk of monogamy. If you agree to be monogamous but are still working as an SP, you are being dishonest. I would think that at that point the issue wouldn't be that you are an SP, but that you are a total liar...

No worries. The "many months" was there to parallel the hesitation that we all have when revealing an important truth. It could be minutes, days, meetings, but the initial reluctance is there. Months may be excessive when it comes to a close relationship but a necessary exaggeration to illustrate the point.

The culinary profession was used to emphasize the similar nature of providing sensual experience, and how we can all have our emotions tied to it (both as the chef and as the diner). If we have done for business, what we now choose to do exclusively with a significant other, that is fact, and no amount of rationalization can remove that fact.

If we choose not to avoid it, the only contention is how that fact is perceived by your partner and yourself.

In the former, I would be OK with it. What someone has to do to make ends meet is all about survival. Rent has to be paid. That doesn't translate to license to be liberal in my own conduct (I'm a one-woman man and that woman would know it). I would be dedicated to performing so well, that she'd quit because there is just no better than her man at home. Besides, I make enough to keep both of us warm, well-clothed, well automobiled, well vacationed, etc...

In the latter, it comes down to whether or not one has really been honest with themselves. If any emotions are tied up in it, then that's something that needs to be addressed. These are personal things of course so there is no need to divulge or defend. Just food for thought.

The truth about lies...

There's a big difference between being a habitual liar (aka "total liar") and being guarded. It's never black-and-white either. We often don't tell the truth to others not to hide it from them, but to hide it (and the perceived consequences of it's exposure) from ourselves. There are people who will never leave their home without makeup on. There are those who don't admit to taking rapid transit. I look at intent rather than transaction. We all learn to tell people what they want to hear to avoid conflict. Honesty comes with trust (or chemically induced means...)

 

[Cami Parker]

How enlightened of you... That must have been a very painful situation you went through... It's never easy when we trust someone, and end up being lied to... That's rough. I think I mentioned earlier that at that point it's not the issue of being an SP, it's the issue of being a liar....
And thank you!! I'm totally flattered!!

A former SP. Absolutely!
As long as she had decided, of her own free will to exit that profession and be with me exclusively both physically and emotionally.
That was supposed to be the situation with the SP I dated. She had told me she was leaving the profession to go back to school and get into another occupation so I thought I'd give it a go. After she had apparently quit I found out a few weeks later she was still seeing clients at her friend's apartment. Thus I ended it because a) I couldn't date an SP and b) more importantly she lied to me.
Whether she's an SP, porn star or just a lady whose had many lovers in the past. That doesn't bother me. The past is the past. We all have things in our past we have left behind and they don't define who we currently are.

And I'd definitely date you. But you're too young and pretty for an old rich guy like me.

 

[Cami Parker]

I think I agree with you on a lot of your points. You're obviously very intelligent and have out a lot of thought into this response. For me I've always been honest (in the traditional sense) to a fault. I probably tell people all kinds of things they don't even need to know, or want to for that matter, but I'm such an open open book. I couldn't imagine not spilling my guts to everyone I see. I meet new people and they're all "so what do you do?" And I'm like "well, I'm a centerfold, a tv star, a call girl and a student" I usual find that my completely candid approach encourages curiosity and thwarts the judgement that usually comes with such a statement. I suppose my openness encourages other to be open with their questions... I don't know what it is, but only rarely have I had a negative reaction..."

No worries. The "many months" was there to parallel the hesitation that we all have when revealing an important truth. It could be minutes, days, meetings, but the initial reluctance is there. Months may be excessive when it comes to a close relationship but a necessary exaggeration to illustrate the point.

The culinary profession was used to emphasize the similar nature of providing sensual experience, and how we can all have our emotions tied to it (both as the chef and as the diner). If we have done for business, what we now choose to do exclusively with a significant other, that is fact, and no amount of rationalization can remove that fact.

If we choose not to avoid it, the only contention is how that fact is perceived by your partner and yourself.

In the former, I would be OK with it. What someone has to do to make ends meet is all about survival. Rent has to be paid. That doesn't translate to license to be liberal in my own conduct (I'm a one-woman man and that woman would know it). I would be dedicated to performing so well, that she'd quit because there is just no better than her man at home. Besides, I make enough to keep both of us warm, well-clothed, well automobiled, well vacationed, etc...

In the latter, it comes down to whether or not one has really been honest with themselves. If any emotions are tied up in it, then that's something that needs to be addressed. These are personal things of course so there is no need to divulge or defend. Just food for thought.

The truth about lies...

There's a big difference between being a habitual liar (aka "total liar") and being guarded. It's never black-and-white either. We often don't tell the truth to others not to hide it from them, but to hide it (and the perceived consequences of it's exposure) from ourselves. There are people who will never leave their home without makeup on. There are those who don't admit to taking rapid transit. I look at intent rather than transaction. We all learn to tell people what they want to hear to avoid conflict. Honesty comes with trust (or chemically induced means...)

 

[Cami Parker]

The reason I'm single is simply by choice, not because of my profession. Mist guys claim they "have no issue" with it, but you have to wonder how true that would really be when it actually came down to it and they were really in the situation...

 

[CJ Tylers]

< not evolved enough to not have an issue with it, if it was current. I'd be monogamous, and would expect the same in return. I do realize the ridiculous, double standard expectation of that situation. That said, if your wife means enough to you...and she has issues with your occupation, you do owe it to her to consider another occupation, or at least mitigate whatever concerns her. (and vice versa)

 

[WingedHorse]

:eyebrows:

SoOo.... I'm currently single and loving it. It uncomplicates my life. However, I have had relationships in the 6 years I've been in this business. Of course, in the interest of full disclosure, I strongly believe you must always always be 100% honest about what it is you do when perusing a relationship of the dating/"monogamous" nature. I have had some boyfriends who couldn't care less.... I tell them once they say ok, and never think about it again as they believe (correctly) that it doesn't effect our relationship. I have had boyfriends that absolutely love it. They think it's so hot and want to use detailed accounts of my exploits as fodder for our own personal sex life. I've had guys that thought they were ok with it initially, but found themselves unexpectedly driven insane with jealousy (needless to say, that didn't work out! Lol) And I've had guys that have said "No Way! Thanks, but No Thanks! No Judgement!" (Understandably so, I'd say.... I don't necessarily blame them for their stance on the issue... I don't like to share either lol)

So the question is this:

GUYS: Have you/Would you date an SP? Why or why not?

LADIES: Would you care to share some of your "real world relationship" experiences while working? I prefer running my business while blissfully unattached... Makes my life easier... How about you?

I CAN't wait to hear everyone's insight. I'm sure it will be fascinating.....

I would date you. :eyebrows::nod:

 

[badbadboy]

The reason I'm single is simply by choice, not because of my profession. Mist guys claim they "have no issue" with it, but you have to wonder how true that would really be when it actually came down to it and they were really in the situation...

I have always wondered if the SP would expect the BF to be monogamous while they were dating.

Any thoughts Cami ?

 

[BORKO]

I have always wondered if the SP would expect the BF to be monogamous while they were dating.

Any thoughts Cami ?

Wouldn't that depend on the relationship?

 

[badbadboy]

Wouldn't that depend on the relationship?

Yup but I wanted to hear Cami's opinion based upon her on line show, HBO programs and her persona vis a vi if she was cool with a non monogamous relationship.

 

[Cami Parker]

Thats a good point...

< not evolved enough to not have an issue with it, if it was current. I'd be monogamous, and would expect the same in return. I do realize the ridiculous, double standard expectation of that situation. That said, if your wife means enough to you...and she has issues with your occupation, you do owe it to her to consider another occupation, or at least mitigate whatever concerns her. (and vice versa)