would you be ok with paying your sp, and going away not having sex.

[sevenofnine]

i guess i should first say me and this sp go way back,
and i book long sessions, where we just talk and have supper, and drink
and then proceed to her bedroom,


any way, i saw her last night, we opened our drinks, no supper last night though usually we do,
oh she did bring out some snacks after awhile.
but we just fell into conversation,

it was interesting fun,
at times in our relationship i would just talk and talk,
last night it was her, and i mostly just listened while massaging her back,

the time just went, and i finially looked at the clock and shit, my time was up,
i have seen her so long that time doesn't really matter, she has asked me to stay or we decided to go out and get something to eat, the clock doesn't matter, she askes me to stay, or will tell me give me a hint that she has to get up like five the next morning
or at times i look at the clock shit its time to go, and she will just grab my hand or whisper in my ear, to get her off or whatever,
like i said i pay her, and most of the time were pretty close to the clock, but just the same at times its not about the clock,


she said i could stay even though my time was gone, we moved to her bedroom
we fooled around a bit but never really did anything, we were both tired, the conversation picked up again,
it was late, and finally god i new it was time to go,
even though i never had my shot on goal,

she never refused, but neither one of us was really in the mood. we were just content to talk and snuggle.

i have known her for or been seeing her for five years or so

and i think this is the third time in seeing her regular for five years,
we haven't really done anything sexual.

but i really enjoyed the night,
it was open and honest conversation, interesting we laughed it was fun
and i have allready booked with her next week,

and don't know but the sex will be more special or satisfying next week,

so just curious, is the only thing you see your sp for is sex,
do you have to pin her legs back to her ears and balls deep every session or your not happy,

and then you read a review of her by some one else and he said like four shots on goal, paint peeling
and you say what the fuck i only had two or three shots on goal. and she kicked my ass out.

how do you see your sp, a fuck toy,
or a friend

 

[InTheBum]

And you actually paid for this shit???

Talk about having money to burn!!!!!!!!!!!!!!:doh: geeeesssshhhhhhh.............

 

[badbadboy]

i guess i should first say me and this sp go way back,
and i book long sessions, where we just talk and have supper, and drink
and then proceed to her bedroom,


any way, i saw her last night, we opened our drinks, no supper last night though usually we do,
oh she did bring out some snacks after awhile.
but we just fell into conversation,

it was interesting fun,
at times in our relationship i would just talk and talk,
last night it was her, and i mostly just listened while massaging her back,

the time just went, and i finially looked at the clock and shit, my time was up,
i have seen her so long that time doesn't really matter, she has asked me to stay or we decided to go out and get something to eat, the clock doesn't matter, she askes me to stay, or will tell me give me a hint that she has to get up like five the next morning
or at times i look at the clock shit its time to go, and she will just grab my hand or whisper in my ear, to get her off or whatever,
like i said i pay her, and most of the time were pretty close to the clock, but just the same at times its not about the clock,


she said i could stay even though my time was gone, we moved to her bedroom
we fooled around a bit but never really did anything, we were both tired, the conversation picked up again,
it was late, and finally god i new it was time to go,
even though i never had my shot on goal,

she never refused, but neither one of us was really in the mood. we were just content to talk and snuggle.

i have known her for or been seeing her for five years or so

and i think this is the third time in seeing her regular for five years,
we haven't really done anything sexual.

but i really enjoyed the night,
it was open and honest conversation, interesting we laughed it was fun
and i have allready booked with her next week,

and don't know but the sex will be more special or satisfying next week,

so just curious, is the only thing you see your sp for is sex,
do you have to pin her legs back to her ears and balls deep every session or your not happy,

and then you read a review of her by some one else and he said like four shots on goal, paint peeling
and you say what the fuck i only had two or three shots on goal. and she kicked my ass out.

how do you see your sp, a fuck toy,
or a friend

how do you see your sp, a fuck toy,
or a friend

Both!

So she is now wondering "why didn't he want to fuck me? Did I do something wrong or am I not attractive to him anymore?"

I always consider my ATF as a good close friend but I always have the expectation that we will have sex. Not plain vanilla sex but knee shakin great sex. Mutually pleasurable too. We do spend time together outside her place doing things just like a so called "normal couple" too.

What is the sense in paying for it if you are not going to participate? Seems it might be better for you to join a social club or community centre if friendship is what you are looking for in a relationship rather than a full time sexual relationship.

:eyebrows:

 

[sevenofnine]

And you actually paid for this shit???

Talk about having money to burn!!!!!!!!!!!!!!:doh: geeeesssshhhhhhh.............

not to take offense or anything or start a fight

but aren't you the guy that posted at one time,
your so alone, don't date any more or can't or just not interested,
maybe it was some one else
and your leaving all your money to the spca

im spending mine and enjoying it, not alone and miserable
and i have family and friends they will get what is left.

and you know if i had no one that sp would be in my will.

i think its sad you live your life and have no one, not even the sp
or a sp, you said you have been in this for years, but your not even a friends with one sp,


im friends with several sps.

to each his own, i suppose,
but there is more to life,
then just sex and proving your man hood
by buying sex

buying sex really makes you a man doesn't it.
neither does buying sex and not having it.

i think
what makes you a man is the people you count as friends the family you have
along with other things

not whether you can fuck someone or not

 

[Umbras]

Men see SP's for many reasons other than sex, so to experience a session without sex every once in a while seems reasonable.

People pay hundreds of dollars to sit fully clothed on a psychiatrist's couch to talk for an hour ...

Sometimes clients desire cuddling, affection, laughter, relaxation, companionship, conversation, or counseling more than sexual activity.

Pretty much mirrors my thought on this and it is the main reason I participate in this lifestyle.

Sex is great and can be amazing, but some men do prefer intimacy over sex and for them, that intimacy can be more fullfilling than just fucking.

 

[InTheBum]

not to take offense or anything or start a fight

but aren't you the guy that posted at one time,
your so alone, don't date any more or can't or just not interested,
maybe it was some one else
and your leaving all your money to the spca

im spending mine and enjoying it, not alone and miserable
and i have family and friends they will get what is left.

and you know if i had no one that sp would be in my will.

i think its sad you live your life and have no one, not even the sp
or a sp, you said you have been in this for years, but your not even a friends with one sp,


im friends with several sps.

to each his own, i suppose,
but there is more to life,
then just sex and proving your man hood
by buying sex

buying sex really makes you a man doesn't it.
neither does buying sex and not having it.

i think
what makes you a man is the people you count as friends the family you have
along with other things

not whether you can fuck someone or not

If you have to pay an SP to spend time with you and it's non-sexual...they IMO you clearly have no friends and you probably have a poor relationship with your family.
You sound like you suffer from LMS...which is better known as Lonely Mad Syndrome!

Pretty sad, I must say...

 

[old pooner]

Sex is great and can be amazing, but some men do prefer intimacy over sex and for them, that intimacy can be more fullfilling than just fucking.

I totally agree. My main reason for seeing an SP is the intimacy (snuggling, carressing, etc.). Quite often I don't even reach orgasm, but don't really care if the cudding was great. (And Janis is the best I've ever found).

 

[Umbras]

If you have to pay an SP to spend time with you and it's non-sexual...they IMO you clearly have no friends and you probably have a poor relationship with your family.
You sound like you suffer from LMS...which is better known as Lonely Mad Syndrome!

Pretty sad, I must say...

No, what is sad is the fact that you feel you need to attack and criticise a persons who chose to share a very intimate and private moment with the other members here and he was asking if there were any others that have the same ideals.

Since you do not share his view and choose to belittle him for it, I suggest you just stop posting on this thread, you have nothing to offer but mockery and ignorance. Your assumptions about Seven's real life have no basis at all, do you personaly know him? has he told you such things about his relationships with firends or family?

Well since we are playing the assumption game, it is my turn to go.

ITB I find you to be a sad and pathetic individual with self confidence issues and makes themselves feel better by making ignorant and baseless accusations. I see your life going right in the direction you accuse Seven of having if your attitude does not change. You will find yourself craving that exact intimacy you just mocked Seven for and by then no one will want to spend time with an imbittered asshole who only has his negativity to keep him company.

In short piss off your opinion is toxic and not wanted here, I would prefer to spend time talking with like minded individuals who understand long term benefits of friendship and intimacy, not some sad Troll who's interaction skills focus on belittling others for his own entertainment.

You sir are an asshole.

 

[FunSugarDaddy]

Me and the young lady I see are pretty far removed from the typicial SP scene. We spoke today because I'm preparing something for her lawyer, and when I asked how her day was going she said I'm a little sad because today 6 years ago was the day my dad died. I gave her my condolences and on Friday we're meeting for lunch.

But about 80% of our meeting are to have "fun" and over the years it's become a very intimate experience. I probably spend more time giving her a butt message then we do having intercourse, but I've never left without it. If she can't have it because of the time of the month or something then that's where the lunches come into play.

So I don't think there's a right answer to this question. If it's a typical SP relationship then sex is what you're unusally paying for, but if the relationship has developed into more than just that, than obviously you're paying for what you value.

As for these outside activities, I've never offered her $$ for them and she's never asked for $$. Even when we met I don't usually bring any $$, but I will shoot her $500 bucks or so whenever I have some share cash and we don't get into who owes who what, although if we did, we'd both know she's getting a good deal. But I know where it goes and I know she appreciates it, and if I had more, I'd honestly give her more, because it's long stopped being only about the money.

 

[J888]

I would still be categorized as a "newbie" in this world, so you have to read my comments in that context.

We all have our preferred blend of sexuality, sensuality and companionship we seek in a session. It is personal to each of us, such that there is no right or wrong blend as long as we understand ourselves and are comfortable with our own choice.

In my own case, I would probably be totally overwhelmed if I were with an SP in a visit that was totally sexual, and I would probably feel pretty guilty afterwards. This is because it is very important to me to feel that I am with a person who is sharing my adventure and with whom there is mutual respect and easy conversation and laughter.

I have ended up making my choices primarily based on reviews and my sense of apparent comfort with the SP respecting such additional aspects of an encounter as making clients feel comfortable (especially newbies), ease of conversation, intelligence and sense of humour.

Ultimately, we each do what's right for us, and if I have learned anything from my time here, it's to be much less judgmental about others.

 

[Guardian Angel]

I have paid an SP on more than one ocassion even though we did not have sex.

In those instances the ladies were/have been long term relationships in this industry.

With one fav of mine in B.C. the clock was never an issue. There were many times we spent hrs over the time limit. There were times where we just enjoyed cuddling and caressing, falling asleep in each others arms. There were times when we had made a date and her monthly visitor came early. Those times I would massage her and pay for my time with her and leave just as happy as any other time.

Another very special lady would spend 3-4 hrs with me going to dinner and then our session after. She would only charge me for the time we spent having sex. On more than one date we would spend the evening eating and talking then say our good byes and part.

I have also spent personal time with ladies for no charge as we have become friends outside of the industry and enjoy each others company.

I have dropped of gifts, money for birthdays and other surprises to my special ladies over the years without even planning or mentioning a session.

Every experience is different, but I never take their time for granted. I pay more than their regular fee when I appreciate their services and this has been rewarded in some cases with extras beyond the physical nature.

G.A.

 

[luvsdaty]

Well said Angie,i chuckle everytime some guy says he'd never pay for sex,weather its by the hour or a house, we all pay for sex.Now weather or not you can make a friend out of that person depends on how much you have in common.

 

[storm rider]

i guess i should first say me and this sp go way back,
and i book long sessions, where we just talk and have supper, and drink
and then proceed to her bedroom,


any way, i saw her last night, we opened our drinks, no supper last night though usually we do,
oh she did bring out some snacks after awhile.
but we just fell into conversation,

it was interesting fun,
at times in our relationship i would just talk and talk,
last night it was her, and i mostly just listened while massaging her back,

the time just went, and i finially looked at the clock and shit, my time was up,
i have seen her so long that time doesn't really matter, she has asked me to stay or we decided to go out and get something to eat, the clock doesn't matter, she askes me to stay, or will tell me give me a hint that she has to get up like five the next morning
or at times i look at the clock shit its time to go, and she will just grab my hand or whisper in my ear, to get her off or whatever,
like i said i pay her, and most of the time were pretty close to the clock, but just the same at times its not about the clock,


she said i could stay even though my time was gone, we moved to her bedroom
we fooled around a bit but never really did anything, we were both tired, the conversation picked up again,
it was late, and finally god i new it was time to go,
even though i never had my shot on goal,

she never refused, but neither one of us was really in the mood. we were just content to talk and snuggle.

i have known her for or been seeing her for five years or so

and i think this is the third time in seeing her regular for five years,
we haven't really done anything sexual.

but i really enjoyed the night,
it was open and honest conversation, interesting we laughed it was fun
and i have allready booked with her next week,

and don't know but the sex will be more special or satisfying next week,

so just curious, is the only thing you see your sp for is sex,
do you have to pin her legs back to her ears and balls deep every session or your not happy,

and then you read a review of her by some one else and he said like four shots on goal, paint peeling
and you say what the fuck i only had two or three shots on goal. and she kicked my ass out.

how do you see your sp, a fuck toy,
or a friend

OK there is no doubt about it....sevenofnine is Jasper from CAF.....it only makes sense.

As for me....no I dont consider women I pay for sex as friends....and my level of intimacy is not that deep as I am not with a GF.....I am with a woman I am paying for amazing sex that most guys dont get from their GF's/Wives....hence why this lifestyle exists and also why thier are review boards for this lifestyle.

I personally think the OP has some serious issues that need to be worked out with a head shrink....this is not an insult....just an opinion.

SR

 

[LittleAsianGuy]

What you mentioned you can get with craigslist strictly platonic. Where you just chit chat over drinks & dinner. If there is attraction they sometimes allow a back massage. Maybe you have lots of $ to throw around

 

[old pooner]

A couple of years ago I had gotten together with my regular (Anya - retired now), but it was during that extremely hot stretch. Even though we had booked a late night encounter, it was still hot as Hell, so we just decided to turn a fan on us and snuggle and kiss for the whole hour. I did't feel short-changed one bit.

 

[badbadboy]

I may have been overly harsh in my first post sevenofnine. If you feel you are getting good value for your money all the power to you. Sometimes the conversation and company is golden vs having sex. Not for me personally but if you are that is all good.

Interesting that today I was supposed to do a few errands with my ATF and basically hangout a bit while driving etc. I wasn't expecting to do anything except be the driver and be happy with her company. We never made it out because she had other ideas once I got there. My luck :thumb:

 

[LittleAsianGuy]

In thailand i paid a sp for her time and to show me around the city. Had no attraction to her but was a tiny bit lost the first day. You can have dinner,kissing,holding,etc for less than 10.00 for a few hours. Guess if money is no object then why not do it in canada.

 

[InTheBum]

Pretty much mirrors my thought on this and it is the main reason I participate in this lifestyle.

Sex is great and can be amazing, but some men do prefer intimacy over sex and for them, that intimacy can be more fullfilling than just fucking.

You sir...suffer from Lonely Man Syndrome...See your nearest SP professional ASAP!

Had her a handful of cash, dim the lights, have some twist off wine, and chat....just chat ...for hour and hours...

 

[SexyBoy]

Different services and different prices.

The price is much much lower if you are not having sex. There are many escorts that offer this kind of service for $50/hour. All you have to do is ask, and to be honest teasing with you pray can be fun!

Any escort that disagrees, or becomes greedy isn't worth that kind of experiance imo.

 

[InTheBum]

The pot calling the Kettle?

BINGO...You nailed it chevy...and Umbras is exactly one of those assholes...