giaebonyprincess - I can speak in my case and you are correct.....I have been married 31 years
and prior to this marriage I was a very confident....fun loving...glass half full type of guy....I am of very average
looks and most of my adult life been 6'1 210 - 240....throughout my life I have been attracted to very
beautiful woman (my taste) with a strong edge to them, very adventurous sexually and fun loving....that part
of my life I would walk into my favourite night club (the wooden barrel in burnaby) and I would visit with
or talk to any lady that attracted me...I was not a guy who was out to only "pick up a woman for the night"
I was a guy who wanted to say hi,laugh...dance...and if anything else happened excellent but I was not
disappointed if nothing happened...I over the years had a lot of lady friends in that club and I was well known
....then I married the lady I am with now ( she was my friend for years)...she is a very conservative woman in all respects.....
over 30 years my eyes lost their spark....sex was non existent which I blamed myself for as I aged....my confidence
with woman in general let alone those that were very attractive to me was non existent even nervous to talk to them...
my wife also ensured I knew I was getting older...it took me a little while to meet with a sp as I was worried that
I would not be accepted at my age and well...older looks ....I finally met with 4 very nice looking woman over a month
or so in december and january ...each time I was accepted my shoulders raised and my head was being held a little higher in
public, and I was smiling at various ladies...just smiling..not perving....I could talk to them again and enjoyed each
conversation....on a recent cruise I was hit on twice...never happened in over 30 years...my attitude now is I am in
many ways as I was in my 20s....here is an example....on our latest cruise I had several glasses of one one night and
kinda forgot what happened the night before....the next day we had chocolate covered strawberries delivery from a woman
name Priscilla saying "thank you for your kindness"...we had no idea who she was at the time (note we found and turned
in her lost phone)...I told my wife I guess last night I was very nice to a lady and I cant remember...I laughed...she
did not...she said its more likely she was the one being nice to me...I looked at her...gave her a hug..and said no dear....it would
be me being nice to her....my wife has spent a lot of time hugging and kissing me here and there latley...she
does sense a big difference in me....there is only one reason for this change in me and she is a very wonderful sp that I see on a regular basis now
and she would have ticked every box I had in my youth....I do feel good and I am back to knowing...if I separate one day from my wife I will not be
alone long...and no I want to stay with her and hopefully she will get used to me as I am now and will be next year.