Wife or girlfriend

[chinksta]

Hi perbites

Just curios how many of you folks do have girlfriend or even a wife and are actually out there doing this hobby pooning.
I have a girlfriend myself. Sometimes I feel like a dirt bag for Goin out there and getting service but can't help it just want a change sometimes lol

 

[sevenofnine]

My personal opinion on this,
and its just my opinion if your spouse is your soul mate and your cheating on her,
your a fucking fool.

My wife, is not were friends companions the mother of my children but not a soul mate.

And the way I poon, my girlfriend is my sp.

 

[retriever]

Not married and not presently dating. My companion is a 60lb. golden retriever.

 

[chinksta]

But if you have a wife then it's the same Shit so basically your a Fuckin fool yourself as well. How can you have a wife and she is not your soul mate?

 

[shyboy123]

Not me I am too busy and tired of all the head games and bs for a gf or wife. I love love love the NSA aspect of seeing escorts. Cut right to dessert I say!

IMHO 7o9 nailed for me. Never gamble away something you can't afford to lose. Not to be preachy as to each their own with their own compulsions and personal needs and situations. I have not met anyone yet that I want to stay with and wants to stay with me. Maybe once I look to settle down I will find someone my own age. For now I like the young 20-30 year olds who normally would not hook up with me I have no problem with cougars lol

 

[Tugela]

If you feel like a dirtbag then you probably are one. That is your conscience speaking to you.

 

[Ms Erica Phoenix]

Yes. What Angie said.

Face it, folks; we are primates. As primates, we are genetically hardwired to seek comfort from skin to skin contact with others of our species. When that need is not being fulfilled by the individual one has chosen to pair bond with, one is going to seek to get it met elsewhere. (And no other primate species bonds for life, incidentally...) It's worth considering too that aside from gentlemen getting that need fulfilled with 'their' SP, undoubtedly SOME SPs are getting that need fulfilled with their ATF clients....

As for the notion of soul mates: well sometimes the soul is willing but the body is weak. Sometimes intimacy can be disrupted by medical or other issues. Older women lose interest in sex often as a result of hormone production dropping as they age, after they have had kids, or as a result of major surgeries. People grow apart as a result; would you propose that divorce is a better alternative than coming to visit me once a week, knowing that we'll have a terrific time, we'll both enjoy each others' bodies, and then you can go home to your wife and family and I can go downstairs and cook dinner?

 

[Riza]

Very nicely put Ms. Erica. Something I heard once has some bearing in this thread.

Women are like fruits.
Some taste sweet, and some are sour.
Some are soft and some are firm.
Some are dry and some are juicy.
The only problem is that men like fruit salad :eyebrows:

 

[DarkRaven18599]

I've been at this activity for about 20 years now. In that period of time whenever I was involved in a relationship in which I was sexually active it meant that my pooning was put aside. I could state it was due to some higher than thou thoughts of morality and faithfulness, but in actuality it was because of the risk of STDs. I did not think it was fair to subject that person to the same chances I chose to engage in during my activities. While I always make sure to personally get checked out regularly, and I know that the ladies I have seen do the same, there is always that slim chance of something going wrong and did not feel it was my right to bring someone I cared about into the mix without their volition.

 

[OldMagpye]

Me kinda in agreement with Dark Raven. Only indulge when not in a relationship. Though I like to think it's cuz of love. Never been with a woeman who was cool with getting sex from a sp or anyone else, cept first wife when we tried open marriage thing. And she wouldn't of bin ok with spending 'our' money for a sp.

 

[vancity_cowboy]

hmmm...
and I thought women were more like.....
Nuts !?!

so i guess you're talkin' fruitcake?

 

[hornygandalf]

I don't think there is any black and white answer to this... and my thoughts have shifted as I've been faced with a marriage that has gone south and having being kicked out the bedroom for six months now, with little sign that is ever going to change. Why stay you might ask? Children, and they want us to all stay together, and outside of the romance, we do actually get along really well and have been able to do this with decreasing amounts of tension.

But, that leaves certain human needs unfilled, and enjoying the pleasures of a SP seemed to be the less harmful and possibly the more ethical way to go (my wife said I should go and find someone else to fuck as she wasn't interested, but didn't want to know about it). An affair I suspect would require more of my time and emotions, and have more potential for hurt and damage down-the-road. Occasional indulging in this hobby seems to be emotionally safer, and it is clear upfront the nature of the relationship and transaction.

Is my wife getting fulfilled elsewhere? I don't know. Maybe. I wish I could be the one doing it if she is, and if she is fucking someone else, I'm not angry about it (just sad), but at least she is getting that need fulfilled.

Will I continue doing this? I don't know. I would like to be in a place in my relationship where it isn't necessary, but that isn't the case at the moment. And there do seem to be some pretty neat ladies out there who I haven't yet met (and probably won't meet in many cases). Am I a scum-bag? Given the circumstances, I don't think so, though I would prefer not to have to do this... as monogamy would be my preferred option. In the meantime though, I think it is a win-win approach.

 

[VanessaofBC]

Hi perbites

Just curios how many of you folks do have girlfriend or even a wife and are actually out there doing this hobby pooning.
I have a girlfriend myself. Sometimes I feel like a dirt bag for Goin out there and getting service but can't help it just want a change sometimes lol

It's okay. They call that "testosterone". That's why ther are SPs.

Glad to see it's both woman AND men you think are nuts!

 

[Ms Erica Phoenix]

Oh...George Carlin. God, he was funny.

 

[VanessaofBC]

I wish Jay Gatsby was here to explain that peanuts aren't nuts but instead legumes.

I legume you too!!

 

[Aleister Crowley]

I ,m a big spender , so everytime i poon ,
i get into bed and slip a 20 under the wife's pillow ,
donno why really , but always love the reaction in later in the day ,
how she keeps finding 20's under the pillow and asks me WTF?
I just smile and lie and deny , she just does not get it and i will never tell here.
kinda a fun game , but keeps life interesting.
maybe she will buy me a pair of socks for xmas with the extra dough.

 

[Aleister Crowley]

I ,m a big spender , so everytime i poon ,
i get into bed and slip a 20 under the wife's pillow ,
donno why really , but always love the reaction in later in the day ,
how she keeps finding 20's under the pillow and asks me WTF?
I just smile and lie and deny , she just does not get it and i will never tell here.
kinda a fun game , but keeps life interesting.
maybe she will buy me a pair of socks for xmas with the extra dough.

 

[hornygandalf]

I try to keep this as simple as can be and true to being as honest as I can.

I will not lie and be deceptive on something like this. I rather would separate first. I would rather be clear first that obviously the relationship tanked or is tanking and unless it is repaired, it is over. For the benefit of both. I treat her as I want to be treated. I like to sleep well at night, I like to know I did the best I could do to be an enlightened person, of light and not darkness as best as I can be. Not spin more suffering. Maybe I am a closet buddhist. So I don't see an SP (new world to me) or say find a FWB, ex-girlfriend (hmm which one), date incognito, or whatever sexual relationship without the other person I said I cared about knowing it is clear this is happening.

...and I know this because I am living it now. Been there, done that.

I do realize though, with kids and financial issues, this gets sticky for a lot of people. However regarding the kids aspect, people are often short sighted. Growing up I knew two friends who's parents hated each other and should have divorced, but stayed together "for the kids". Worst home environment of tension, rolling of eyes, fights, anger, bad talking the other to kids, etc. No display of affections to each other. It is damaging. Separating and finding new love and living that way and healthy is in my opinion better, and shows kids there is life even through trauma. So many people just don't see that.

Thank you for your comments, and maybe in time I will decide this hasn't been the most enlightened choice, but this is where I am at the moment. The reality is that there is very little in the way of fights, anger, rolling of the eyes and so on. There isn't any hate, at least from my side, and we are very amicable. In short, very little trauma. It would be much more traumatic if we split into two households. We are still working through what this is going to look like, but for the moment it appears to be working. She made it clear she wanted me to find someone else to meet my needs and that she didn't want to know about it. If in the future it looks like that side of our relationship is on the mend or has potential to mend, then I will certainly be monogamous and honour that. But, I believe that will take some significant time (years rather than months). So... this is the path I am tentatively treading at the moment, but I appreciate and understand your view of it.

 

[Ms Erica Phoenix]

I used to work with a lot of kids whose parents were clearly NOT together for any other reason. The kids whose parents were happily divorced were much happier kids than those who were unhappily married. Yes, I think you can be happily married and not sleeping together...as long as you are on the same page about it, and about who might be looking for what elsewhere.

 

[kickback]

spend more time thinking and less time typing

One of the funniest replies I've seen on this board.