Why Service Provider?

[NMR]

I often check PERB and the other sites and almost always have a inward grin when I see the term "Service Provider" or SP. In my mind it's so general, bland and non specific its almost nonsensical. There are scores of "service providers" out there in every field from brain surgery to shoe mending but they all adopt names that better identify the actual service they perform. I have been wondering as how this term came to be used in the sex industry. Is it as a result of political correctness been taken to the extreme or because there are no other alternatives that are not demeaning or crude?

Perhaps if Service Provider is the best alternative of the bunch it should be qualified to be more representative of the service provided. Maybe Erotic Service Provider or Sensual Service Provider?

Here is my view on some of the alternative names

Prostitute - a bit legal and clinical sounding with negative connotations.

Hooker - I like it but I guess some would find it demeaning

Escort - only suitable for the higher end multi hour ladies. Somehow doesn't work for ladies offering quickie specials or 15 min BNG's. I alway smile at the websites or adds that have the disclaimer that money is exchanged for time and companionship only and then go on to describe in great detail the scope of services provided. BBBJ, Digits, Greek, No CIM etc.

Call girl - appropriate for the indies but doesn't work as well for the micros, agencies etc. Does it work for email contact ladies only?

Courtesan - i really smile when I see a lady who calls herself a courtesan offering half hour specials. i would suggest checking up the role courtesan's played in the Kings Court before selecting this one.

Sex Worker - really basic and somehow seems more appropriate to me, for Street Walkers.

I am sure I have missed a few so feel free to chime with others.

We also have to consider the Rub and Tuggers and whether they should have a separate name.

It''s quite complicated and probably very sensitive to some but I would be interested in hearing from both pooners and the ladies on this issue.

 

[Master69]

SCP. Sex Care Provider.

We have medicare, pharmacare, dentalcare, healthcare, daycare, elder care, legal care (OK, legal aid). Why not.....SEX CARE.

Important to label it appropriately, so that the government can take it over eventually and provide it as an insured service (entitlement!).

.......and a big thank you to all you sex care workers out there! The Florence Nightengales of our time. Without you, there were some nights I didn't think my cock would make it through.

 

[sevenofnine]

I think we live in a politicaly correct world that is why.
It reminds me of Forest Gump, first they called me retarded, then they called me, handicapped etc.

We must not offend any one must we, and we tend to be sensitive.
One lady said she didn't do anything againest the law. One lady swore up and down and claimed she wasn't a prostitute.


One lady I emailed her like ten years ago, and she scolded my on my foul mouth, and use of the word escort she said she is not an escort, and would not see me under any circumstances.
I laughed, and felt like changing my name and booking with her, then emailing her and saying Im a homeless bottle picker but you just fucked me. So get over your self, but a waste of time if she was so high and mighty she most likely wasn't any good in bed a waste of money.

i logged on to streammates.com a week ago and one cam girl was arguing with some one because he didn't capatilzie his i's
then i asked her if she was wet, and she went on me with a rant.

your selling your self lady for two dollars a minute but just couldn't stop fighting with everyone. get over your self lady.
another cam girl dam beautiful four bucks a minute, and just laughs and takes my money.

bottom line is the ladies just want to part us from our money not marry us.

if some women turns me down, it works for me, i still have my money,
and i know there is some one waiting. who will be more then happy to let me spend money on her.

 

[blazejowski]

If I am talking about it to friends who don't poon, I use "escort".
Among PERBites, I always go with SP... unless they actually use the street, then they are SW's

 

[Master69]

On another note, why the word 'punter'? Depending on context it has many
definitions, just like 'SP'.

Meh, in my opinion, it is a slang term that evolved through common usage. In
the grand scheme of things, it doesn't really matter what term is used but
members of public forms like to use abbreviations, such as 'OP' as long as most
understand what the term stands for.


I like the word 'companion', I find it describes my fellow ladies and me better
than 'SP'.


Peyton

I think all the companions together at Dinner To Die For were a "Fellowship of the Ring".

 

[mik]

What gets me is when the local media refer to DTES crack/meth addicts as "sex trade workers".

 

[SFMIKE]

Several years ago I made the mistake of using the acronym "RA" instead of SP.

I feel the term "Relaxation Attendant" is more all-encompassing than SP.

 

[bcneil]

And in 20 years service provider will be a no no to say.
Political correctness is a moving target.

My grandfather still calls black people coloured, cause that was what people that werent racist called blacks in his day.
My sister called him racist, he called her a bitch.....bitch has held strong throughout the decades

 

[sevenofnine]

On another note, why the word 'punter'? Depending on context it has many
definitions, just like 'SP'.

Meh, in my opinion, it is a slang term that evolved through common usage. In
the grand scheme of things, it doesn't really matter what term is used but
members of public forms like to use abbreviations, such as 'OP' as long as most
understand what the term stands for.


I like the word 'companion', I find it describes my fellow ladies and me better
than 'SP'.


Peyton

I guess it depends on your usage. I mean your use of the ladies.

The lady I see I have known for ten years we have suppers coffee etc, with in the context of a session or with out.
To me she is a friend a companion. So it fits.

But if I ever do this again, or with anyone else. I should say, I can't see myself doing the supper thing and drinks and long talks.
I'm getting old I don't have much time and said it all. Companion would not apply

 

[VanessaofBC]

Escort - only suitable for the higher end multi hour ladies. Somehow doesn't work for ladies offering quickie specials or 15 min BNG's. I alway smile at the websites or adds that have the disclaimer that money is exchanged for time and companionship only and then go on to describe in great detail the scope of services provided. BBBJ, Digits, Greek, No CIM etc.

I believe escort is the more acceptable term among us. And for society they recognize the term as being one who exchanges sex for money. They do not know the distinction between a BnG provider or a Multi hour Companion. They exchange sex for money. Period.

Personally, I do not like the sound of Service Provider and prefer to be known as a Pleasure Provider. I have used that term since coming to Vancouver in Sept.

 

[vancity_cowboy]

...he called her a bitch.....bitch has held strong throughout the decades

hah hah!!! it certainly has

 

[Flanders]

I like "whore". And judging from the response of ladies in the heat of the moment, they like the term too. Whether they technically ARE one or not doesn't matter; they ALL like the idea of being one once the juices are flowing, and there's no better term for dirty talk. "Slut" sometimes works too, but there's a certain respect implied with "whore". That's been my experience anyhow...

 

[Flanders]

And in 20 years service provider will be a no no to say.
Political correctness is a moving target.

My grandfather still calls black people coloured, cause that was what people that werent racist called blacks in his day.
My sister called him racist, he called her a bitch.....bitch has held strong throughout the decades

Political Correctness: the idea that you can pick up a turd by the clean end

 

[kauffman]

does it really matter. the title really is more a reflection of the client. to some its hooker to others companion, some clients need affection, some a friend, some a fantasy, others an escape. How about full spectrum male needs attendant. Light flight attendant i thknk attendant of want needs and/or dersires leaning towards the sexual. But hey thats abit words. plus NA is taken

creative director is sometimes appropriate, convincinginteractive hostess? projective receptacle? feminine transference hostess? sexual janitor? overflow receptacle of unmet masculine sexual necessities?

 

[kauffman]

i love the derogatory terms for the same reasons homosexuals started using dyke and fag to refer to themselves. takes the power away from those who try to use words with bad intentions. SNuff it out!!! lol

 

[BallzDeep]

bottom line is the ladies just want to part us from our money not marry us.

if some women turns me down, it works for me, i still have my money
and i know there is some one waiting. who will be more then happy to let me spend money on her.

amen to that. i love it when a hooker tells me its "my loss" for not seeing her. i countered that with 'how is not buying something i dont want, my loss?' lol. she had nothing to say.

 

[sevenofnine]

Who said companions only do supper and drinks and long talks...
Companion, in my opinion, fits the bill better than Service Provider, which is
so vague and non-descriptive. In my reply, I was just responding to one of the
OP's questions. Sorry, maybe I inadvertently sounded elitist?

Do you have to use the word Companion?.. Nope. Do you know what I'm talking
about when I do?.. Yupp.

Just to be clear, I don't mind the word SP, or hooker for that matter. You can
call me anything you want, as long as it's not Mistress, I'm 100% VANILLA and
lovin' it!

Peyton

Elitest no nor really.
I think we use words to portray an imagine or a feeling. Of what we feel or think about ourself and the world.
I think some women are in denial, when they don't like the word escort or service provider or prostitute.

I think the term companion works for me any way, and I like it because that is what me and my lady friend have become,
and I think it creates an imagine of the kind of worker or services you want or hope to deliver.

Its funny that is how I introduced myself so many years ago to the lady I see, looking for a long term thing, not just a fifteen minute hookup or a one night stand.


But I think just the same a lot of men in this that is the last thing they want is a companion.

 

[sevenofnine]

One of the most interesting advertizements I saw was a lady from Regina.
She portrayed her self as a safe respectable gfe, no or nothing in the way of pse.\

But she said that doesn't at all mean I can't or won't be your dirty little cunt.


Women escorts on this board seem to get all bent out of shape when you use low class words like that.
But she used it right in her ad, other then that her ad was as classy as them come.

Smart lady in my opinon a mixture of class and dirt.
Which is kind of what a guy wants, he wants the classiest thing out there, but in the bedroom he wants something else.

Its funny but I stay away from escorts who get offended by sort of low class terms, they have there place,
and can I think be used sparingly and at the right moment.

It is what it is, and sometimes sex is all messy and dirty, and rather raunchy.
And well the lady wants to see my cash before we play.

So what the fuck else do you call it.

 

[TeddyBr29]

I would add my particular favourite, "a lady of leisure and pleasure." Being a more mature gent, I prefer to take my time enjoying all the sights, sounds and scents of a woman, and in the context of sexual intimacy, this leads to enhanced pleasure. Other terms, such as those used by the originator of this thread may be accurate insofar as the object of the exercise, from the client perspective, is to enjoy an orgasm that is not self-initiated, but if one takes a slightly more relaxed route to that finale, the terms in use seem cold, clinical, and object-oriented.

 

[cherise]

all i know,is i have a hell of a time not blurting out "ME" whenever a utility company calls me and asks who my present service provider is!