Why do women need to talk so fucking much???

[georgebushmoron]

OK I got this problem... I need help from you kind folks.

My S.O., bless her sweet little heart, needs to talk almost constantly. If I refuse to acknowledge her talking, she just hums to herself, always making a sound. Every day I am deluged with incessant chatter about this or that, basically a whole pile of nothingness. This girl needs to talk for hours (like 5 or 6 hours) a day. When she had a job as a travel agent, she would spend the day talking to clients then come home and yammer away like this was her last chance before dying.

It's not just her, but many women I have dated. When a girl does this, I feel the blood pressure rising in my head and then I get a massive headache. One time my goddam sister kept talking and talking on a long drive, and I kept asking her to please give me some silence.... by the end of the 3 hour drive my immune system became weak (her talking had worn me down) and I caught the flu and was bed ridden for days.

Worst of all, I hardly ever say anything to encourage the talking. They just keep talking and talking and talking. I usually only ever say, "Please, can I please have a few minutes of silence so I can think to myself? I can't think for Chrissakes. Let me have some silence please oh please I beg you, please shut up."

What is it with women? Why the fuck do they need to talk so much? Can't they just tell me if anything significant happens, like some kid got killed in a car accident or some big flood and then just keep silent? Do you get headaches too? Do you become physically ill from all the verbal racket? How do you deal with all this talking?

 

[Discombobbled]

Discombobbled's Wife's response

Hey GBM,
Funny, if I hadn't taken a double glance at your name as the poster of this thread, I would swear to God that hubby wrote this!! Yup women like to talk and talk and talk and talk. Surely, I am no different. Why oh why are you so silent? Just talk to me. Yup, same issue in our neck of the woods.

Hubby said the following to me: After me rambling about some stupid shit on and on and on (are you getting the visual? ), Hubby sits quietly (for what seems like an eternity--yup, approx 30 seconds of silence) and then states in a very soft, nurturing voice. "Hon, you know what I wish?" I eagerly ask "what do ya wish?" He states "I wish that people only had a certain number of words to use each day. When you've used up your quota, you can't talk till the next day". Yup, that's my hon--I nearly busted a gut when he made this proclamation!! Every now and then when I am particularly perky, he turns to me and asks "haven't you used up all your words today?"

Discombobbled's Wife

 

[Silver Surfer]

I had a female friend tell me that "Women don't burp or fart so if they did'nt bitch, they'd blow up!" You tell me!

SS

 

[mustangjoe]

frick'n broads...

They all talk too much.

When my old lady calls I jusat put her on speaker phone and go about my business. I just throw in a 'uh-huh' every so often and I'm good to go.

When I was 16 or 17 I remember being able to talk to broads on the phone from about 8 or 9 at night till the fucking sun came up in the morning! I don't know how I did it. I guess I yapped a lot back then but now it's like 'shut the fuck up woman, and leave me to my business'

 

[Quarter Mile'r]

Herman to the rescue.........I think?

I don't think any man alive has ever figured that one out GBM so don't
feel overwhelmed!

Although one guy learned how to make use of it......remember the guy
who did the Herman comics those one frame little gems !

He told his wife to talk into this new invention of his (for an hour
or more), while she was on the phone to her sister.

Then he would plug it into the house and it would heat it for a month!

.............QM'r

 

[Discombobbled]

OK I got this problem... I need help from you kind folks.

My S.O., bless her sweet little heart, needs to talk almost constantly. If I refuse to acknowledge her talking, she just hums to herself, always making a sound. Every day I am deluged with incessant chatter about this or that, basically a whole pile of nothingness. This girl needs to talk for hours (like 5 or 6 hours) a day. When she had a job as a travel agent, she would spend the day talking to clients then come home and yammer away like this was her last chance before dying.

It's not just her, but many women I have dated. When a girl does this, I feel the blood pressure rising in my head and then I get a massive headache. One time my goddam sister kept talking and talking on a long drive, and I kept asking her to please give me some silence.... by the end of the 3 hour drive my immune system became weak (her talking had worn me down) and I caught the flu and was bed ridden for days.

Worst of all, I hardly ever say anything to encourage the talking. They just keep talking and talking and talking. I usually only ever say, "Please, can I please have a few minutes of silence so I can think to myself? I can't think for Chrissakes. Let me have some silence please oh please I beg you, please shut up."

What is it with women? Why the fuck do they need to talk so much? Can't they just tell me if anything significant happens, like some kid got killed in a car accident or some big flood and then just keep silent? Do you get headaches too? Do you become physically ill from all the verbal racket? How do you deal with all this talking?

Stats say that men generally use 1500 words a day, while women use 5000. Fuck I wish my word restricter was reality !!

 

[make it clap]

ignore them

You have to develop the skill of selective listening....silence will never, i repeat, NEVER happen. You have to learn to tone it out, somewhat like a horse's blinders, but for your ears.

You cannot discuss this with them for a multitude or reasons, the main ones are....

1. it will hurt their feelings and then you have to get into a huge fight or an even longer conversation in which you will REALLY have to listen because its soooo important.

2. They cannot change. They are genetically predisposed to chatter their frickin heads off. Her mom was a talker, her grandmother was a talker, etc, frickin etc...


So, you are stuck listening, or at least hearing it. You gotta practice, then practice, then practice some more. The goal is to hear only the important bits (which are few & far between), and if she asks if you are listening just reiterate the last important tidbit. If that was a long time ago then just say, "you were talking to fast for me to hear the rest, please start again". Then you go back to ignoring and only picking up those little bits.

Perhaps you could giver her a list of topics you are interested in and get her to ramble on about those...

If nothing works, load up her drink with roofies then leave her in a rolled up carpet in the basement.

 

[addicted2lov]

Because their brain is different than ours

and so is their mind.

I found that the only way you can get along with their "too much talking" is to actually enagage in the conversation and hopefully be able to sustain the conversation or drive the conversation in a way you like - or should I say in way you can sustain it without cracking after 5 min.

Now there are moments when I may be too tired /nervous /stressed out to handle it. In these moments I invoke the "force majeure" clause by clearly explaining I literally can't handle it at this time, explaining why and specifically asking/begging/imploring for a break. This usually works

The driving episode of yours is actually an example of what they can do to us if they're going out of control Especially when it comes to long drives I think it's particularly annoying to passively listen to someone's monologues and I try to politely explain I suddenly got a "terrible headache" and I need to concentrate on the road so we won't get into an accident. This works pretty well too

 

[mick_eight]

The ladys are scared if to shutup, because if they do you'll try and put your dick in

 

[FuZzYknUckLeS]

Get an iPod

 

[Discombobbled]

The ladys are scared if to shutup, because if they do you'll try and put your dick in

Oh, I still talk with my mouth full!

Discombobbled's Wife

 

[NORMNORM]

Try this out.
Get right into the conversation as an active participant.
Make sure that you are doing your share here.
That means you are doing roughly 50% of the talking.
Don't make the mistake of being a 'good listener'.
Don't passively allow yourself to be the victim; take control of the situation.
Once you've established that two-way rather than one-way verbal communication is taking place, keep steering the conversation to topics that you know she isn't interested in.
Once you've turned the conversation to the right kinds of topics, actively elicit her opinion on issues like sports, auto mechanics, your job, motorcycles and so on.
If all goes well... Voila. She'll be the one leaning towards ending the conversation.

Norm

 

[sdw]

OK I got this problem... I need help from you kind folks.

My S.O., bless her sweet little heart, needs to talk almost constantly. If I refuse to acknowledge her talking, she just hums to herself, always making a sound. Every day I am deluged with incessant chatter about this or that, basically a whole pile of nothingness. This girl needs to talk for hours (like 5 or 6 hours) a day. When she had a job as a travel agent, she would spend the day talking to clients then come home and yammer away like this was her last chance before dying.

It's not just her, but many women I have dated. When a girl does this, I feel the blood pressure rising in my head and then I get a massive headache. One time my goddam sister kept talking and talking on a long drive, and I kept asking her to please give me some silence.... by the end of the 3 hour drive my immune system became weak (her talking had worn me down) and I caught the flu and was bed ridden for days.

Worst of all, I hardly ever say anything to encourage the talking. They just keep talking and talking and talking. I usually only ever say, "Please, can I please have a few minutes of silence so I can think to myself? I can't think for Chrissakes. Let me have some silence please oh please I beg you, please shut up."

What is it with women? Why the fuck do they need to talk so much? Can't they just tell me if anything significant happens, like some kid got killed in a car accident or some big flood and then just keep silent? Do you get headaches too? Do you become physically ill from all the verbal racket? How do you deal with all this talking?

Now, there's the good part about being old and deaf. I just turn my hearing aids down and say "hmm", "really" or "oh my" every once in a while.

 

[lenny]

The trick is to have your own conversation going on in your own head
with yourself while pretending to listen to her at the same time.

Every half hour or so nod your head, say "I understand", & listen to
her for a minute or two.

Put on your favorite music or TV program for your enjoyment while
she is yacking to herself. A DVD player with headphones if you can
get away with it.

Cuddle up close to her & do whatever is necessary to make yourself
happy & turn her on or off as the case may be.

Good luck.

BTW, the SW i am now with hardly talks at all. A real gem ;

1469

 

[Jt11_]

I consider myself to be a great conversationalist , but on the other hand I enjoy silent moments. I feel you can really get your best work done and enjoy the moments for what they really are when your not talking and talking.. and talking... and talking...

I am sorry that's going on, does she really fully understand how much she is pushing your buttons? Maybe she is unaware to the fact that your not enjoying her babbling about nonsense constantly.. that could be it. If you haven't yet, try giving her a good sit down and let her listen to how YOU feel.


** This is not including dirty talk or noise in the bedroom.. because that is always enjoyable. **

 

[lena]

Theres either something severely wrong with your communication skills or you are hanging out with some of the dumbest women the worlds got. Who the hell talks to someone who doesnt want to listen? Never really paid attention if women or men talk more than the other but I have noticed that some of the men I have around me just blather on and on as well.If someone is filling your ear with verbal crap and there is nothing you can do to get it to stop you might be an ineffectual human being.

 

[chewey]

full?

Oh, I still talk with my mouth full!

Discombobbled's Wife

that's enough to drive any man to drinking

 

[georgebushmoron]

Theres either something severely wrong with your communication skills or you are hanging out with some of the dumbest women the worlds got. Who the hell talks to someone who doesnt want to listen? Never really paid attention if women or men talk more than the other but I have noticed that some of the men I have around me just blather on and on as well.If someone is filling your ear with verbal crap and there is nothing you can do to get it to stop you might be an ineffectual human being.

What? I'm sorry, I wasn't listening.

 

[Discombobbled]

What? I'm sorry, I wasn't listening.

She said, theres either something severely wrong with your communication skills or you are hanging out with some of the dumbest women the worlds got. Who the hell talks to someone who doesnt want to listen? Never really paid attention if women or men talk more than the other but I have noticed that some of the men I have around me just blather on and on as well.If someone is filling your ear with verbal crap and there is nothing you can do to get it to stop you might be an ineffectual human being. "kind of reminds me of those fuckin leprechauns, you do your best to ignore them but they just keep comin around and chattering in your ear. They don't ever stop even when you ask them too, fuckin chat, chat, chat, chat. I think they have some sort of insecurity with all that talkin, what do you think George? Anyway, as I was saying there's far too many people who just talk out of their ass for no particular reason, and I think they really need to take a good look at what they are doing. I mean come on, do they really think that others want to listen to all the mindless things they have to say? What the christ is wrong with them? Don't they know that other people have just as much right to speak as they do? It's simply selfish behaviour to do this. Don't they understand that others could really care less about all their mindless blabber? Yesterday when I was down town....

 

[cougarluvrr]

Good question GBM. I found I don't mind lots of chat from SO because she's and intelligent thinking human but even then sometimes need quiet time. During the work week, especially, I need time to think so I just get away, hide in the garage, go for a run or sometimes retire to the back pew at the stip joint for a cold one after business. Over the years with SO tried NORMNORM's approach, learned to hold my own, and actually wound up in some really cool stimulating conversation with SO. Still enjoy a good road trip with her just hear what's happenin' in that pretty little head of her's and let her know what's in mine. Also find when I take the time to really listen she takes the time to really shag. Do find that BC's fine cash crop helps keep me from stressing out if she goes into triple OT . Turned her on to my friend Mary Jane a while ago, mellowed out the chat a bit and made it really interesting, met a whole brand new side of the SO . Me, her and our girl May Jane now that's a pleasant threesome. Sorry just went off to one of my happy places.

Worst trouble I ever caused over the years was ignoring her for a while. Trust me if you don't listen at all for a while, she'll find some one who will. Not that a little discrete on the side is bad, all's fair right what ever makes for a happy satisfied SO, but having to get rid of some deadbeat love sick twit BF who keeps showing up on your front step to save your lady from her "uncaring SO" is a wee bit more stressful than listening to her!!! I'm not a fan of letting some lawyer have all my hard earned so still trying to get through that one. Who said life was all easy.

Dated a girl once who wouln't say a damn word, still the only thing I know about her is her name and what she looks like naked, I think she was just so dumb she didn't have anything going on upstairs. Most boring lay I ever had. Broke it off out of pure boredom.

But I guess I'm crazy, always am attracted to an independent, intelligent, successful woman with something to say. Nice derriere help too. Obviously if she's just an airhead yipping constantly about nothing I would run her off like the pain in the as she is and get a real woman.