forgetting about the fugly and settling factors
i do believe that you should do whatever you believe is right for yourself, but my personal opinion is that if you are "telling" a Sig Other that you are faithful and not obviously pulling your weight, then I do not agree with the cheating, but everyone has their own lives to live.
on the lighter side, i offer a simpler explanation to our Jerry Falwell from Georgia: "dude, have you seen what some men's wives/girlfriends look like?" there are millions of people (men and women) out there who have married for money, security, fear of being alone, religion, cousin- love, children, etc., but they were not really in love out of the starting gate and they probably knew it.
do i blame a man with a fugly wife for cheating on her?, yes in the sense of not keeping your vow to your wife, but i do understand he probably chose companionship or some other basis rather than physical attraction as the basis of his marriage. that was his decision and there are consequences to every decision, especially one as serious as allegedly being monogamous in marriage vows. plus women are fairly aware if the relationship lacks real intimacy and they respond with their own affairs to meet their needs.
this was only meant to be an expression of my personal opinions and not a fvcking morality speech from the pulpit.
after all, i am sure the PERB dudes who are married are all married to Sharon Stone types or similarly hot cougars
