Why do guys do this?

[threepeat]

On the flip side, despite how much a lot of SPs hate divulging their personal lives, I've been very surprised with how quickly many will do so without any encouragement on my part. I would say the SPs I've met are much more open about their personal lives than girls outside the biz, at least based on my experience. Maybe they really trust me, or they're lying to me, or some combination thereof...

 

[Ariel]

A very wise woman (ok Vikki from SU. I'l give credit where its due) told me to make up a persona. Thinking back now that was great advice except that i'm a very bad liar and prefer to just talk real. It could be fun pretending to be someone else but i'm not comfortable with that. I think its necessary for some and I appreciated the advice she gave me. It probably is a great thing for many and i know alot of sps do exactly that. If we are pretending and acting out fantasies then we have really no business knowing about the other i suppose. I'm nosey tho and usually want to know a little about the person i'm about to .......... I don't really care if its a made up story. If it is then likely its even more interesting to me!

 

[peety]

It all depends...


People we are all human... I don't find it unusual or odd to be asking or to be asked a few personal questions, maybe not on a first visit... but geez, no matter how much discretion I want to maintain, I still want to know a little about the person I'm bumping uglies w/ Unless, all I want to do is stick my dick in hole and pump away. If that's all I need, then I've got two good hands and I'll save myself some money as well!

Gina: I'm willing to bet that client is probably really socially inept in real life. If he knew better you would have felt ok in answering. At the very least you wouldn't have wanted to kick his sorry ass to the pavement

 

[Aeiyah]

When I am asked questions that I find uncomfortable, I just say that I don't feel much like talking, especially about boring old me and plant a big wet one on them. Works every time.

You mean all these times we were sitting there talking, I could have had you locking lips with me?

 

[Ariel]

Every time i start feeling like i'm a smarty pants..poof! Not as smart as i thought i was.Lucky for me i have a 150 point level of intelligence. That means i'm a genius.Lol. I can't be that smart if i'm hanging out here right? Or maybe i am

 

[curmudgeon]

On my last visit I was uncomfortably badgered about my personal life & unfortunately the next person who does this, will be asked to leave immediately.

I'll just toss in my devalued $0.02 here.

For both the guy and the SP, meeting for the first time can be a nervous moment for both. Expecially for the inexperienced.

When you're meeting someone for the first time (anyone... realworld or pooning-world), it's pretty instinctive to ask the questions....

1) do you live around here?
2) what do you do for a living?
3) how do you like your job?
4) how did you get into your line of work?
5) are you married? single? kids?

Its instinctive small talk. Just like in the "real world" 99% of the time, the answer is not particularly relevant. We don't care, it's just meaningless chit-chat.

Granted, in the "real world" if the other person doesn't want to answer these questions, few among us will badger for an answer. So that part certainly falls into foul territory (whether your talking to an SP or otherwise).

Why do you want to know where I live? why I started in the biz? if I have a bf? kids? etc etc

I don't ask these questions of an SP unless they offer the information. If they do, I'll pick up on it and just let the conversation flow. But there are good number of SPs that are quite willing to offer the information without prompting.

When I am asked questions that I find uncomfortable, I just say that I don't feel much like talking, especially about boring old me and plant a big wet one on them. Works every time.

That would work on me. Yup.

 

[Big Trapper]

Perhaps you should cultivate a pretend life, to tell them about. Something interesting, even a little fascinating, but nothing too grandiose or fantastic.

Oh lord, don't go advising the ladies to string us along even more than they do already! I've been told enough white lies by SP's to ice a very large wedding cake!

Sheesh...

 

[FuZzYknUckLeS]

...7. Please don't barter over 20 bucks...

Sometimes it can be quite amusing to see how far the bartering can go. To some, 20 bucks is everything....

 

[Audrey]

I am generaly pretty open as well & I too am a bad lier. I don't mind general questions if its just for conversation purposes. What I don't like is the "where do you hang out, where do you eat, what kinds of clothes do you wear in public, do you live here". Stuff like that creeps me out because IMO those questions would only be asked by someone who was wanting to use that info & look for you in those places.
Its a tough call to know when & where to draw the line. For myself, if I have to tell someone 3 times to please stop doing something then the session is terminated.

 

[rollerboy]

But creating a new image would be shamelessly fun alright! LOL

A very wise woman (ok Vikki from SU. I'l give credit where its due) told me to make up a persona. Thinking back now that was great advice except that i'm a very bad liar and prefer to just talk real. It could be fun pretending to be someone else but i'm not comfortable with that. I think its necessary for some and I appreciated the advice she gave me. It probably is a great thing for many and i know alot of sps do exactly that. If we are pretending and acting out fantasies then we have really no business knowing about the other i suppose. I'm nosey tho and usually want to know a little about the person i'm about to .......... I don't really care if its a made up story. If it is then likely its even more interesting to me!

Exactly. Don't think of it as a lie, but rather as creative fiction.

Fiction is way of expressing truth in a way that sometimes escapes from the literal truth. I prefer to think of my time with you beautiful girls as a kind of intriguing fiction. Don't compromise your safety or sense of comfort for the sake of absolute honesty.

 

[GetHappy]

Whatever a client devulges to me about his personal life are always TOP SECRET, I wish I always got the same respect in return.

I have to agree with that. I used to go to the MPs for a while, and I was always asked the same question: "Have you been to a place like this before?"

If I said yes, I was always asked where, and one time I got: "Really? I used to work there, who did you see?"

I'm not embarassed about what I've done, but this question crosses the line, I think, forcing me to either go on the defensive, which doesn't help with my enjoyment of the encounter, or divulge information that I don't think should be shared, even within this community. I'll never name names, so why would an SP ask? Or am I paranoid, do SPs care about the past experiences of their clients (because I've had some odd ones)?

Anyway, I still say that an SP should be willing to share a little something about herself (doesn't have to be much), just to put the pooner (I swear this word was made up) at ease. Again, that's just me.

 

[Cinnamon Girl]

to sum it up

I'm a chemistry/vibe, extremely intuitive chic & this was one of the most awkward situations to date. I deflected only to have a larger crow bar brought out! LOL He was a normal, every day perb.ert like us.....whatever the reasoning; I needed to vent & share this here because I know many SPs/gents deal with it too.
A little enligtenment on the topic

Agree with Ingrid, nothing more annoying than ppl gossiping about things we have shared in confidence. I take privacy & discretion very seriously.

 

[Penhold]

I used to go to the MPs for a while, and I was always asked the same question: "Have you been to a place like this before?"

I'm not embarassed about what I've done, but this question crosses the line, I think, forcing me to either go on the defensive, which doesn't help with my enjoyment of the encounter, or divulge information that I don't think should be shared, even within this community. I'll never name names, so why would an SP ask? Or am I paranoid, do SPs care about the past experiences of their clients (because I've had some odd ones)?

I hate it when an SP asks that.

I now just answer with a shocked expression: "Never - I'm still a virgin so be gentle with me!" Then, when I step out of the shower butt naked, I ask them "Am I your first too?".

I no longer mind them asking "What do you do for a living?", "Are you married?", "Any kids?" etc... as it gives me the chance to live in my own little fantasy world. Lots of guys aren't prepared for these questions and blurt out the truth so its best to plan answers in advance. For example, here's some stock answers I've used on occasion:

Question: What do you do for a living?
Answer: I live on an Island, dress in white suits and cater to people's fantasies, all the while ably assisted by a vertically challenged little guy who speaks English with a French accent and a bad lisp and says "Da Plane...Da Plane..."

Question: Are you married?
Answer: "I am a member of a breakaway Mormon sect that still believes in multiple wives. I only have 6 wives at present and they are very jealous so I only get to spend 1 night a week with each of them. This means I have one day off, but I crave sex 7 days/week. Guess which day this is? Hmm... nice body. Interested in getting married and helping the others back on the farm?"

Question: Any kids?
[I scrunch up eyes and pretend to be counting]. "Hmmm... 3 from wife 1; 1 from wife 2; 4 from wife 3; 2 from wife 4; 8 from wife 5 (call her "Bunny"...); ..... And I'm so virile there must be lots of other kids out there that I don't know about yet...."

And, of course, there's answers we want to hear from SPs to the same questions, such as:

Question: Are you married?
Answer: "No. I've never yet found a man who could satisfy me but thank goodness you've finally arrived. I heard so much about your sexual prowess from other SPs that the session is free.... no, wait, you're so good I insist you let me pay you."

Question: Do you have kids?
Answer: "No. Oh, that's not a caesarian scar. It's from having my tonsils removed when I was younger. Ah...no...that's not right. It's an appendix scar. Yeah right. That's it. Appendix."


Take everything you hear with a grain of salt. Most SPs want their private life kept private so be understanding if they give you a different story each time you see them. They should do likewise.

There's no shortage of topics to discuss that don't requiring divulging personal information. There's always the weather, the bitch of a time you had parking near her place, what's on at the Ballet (oops, that slipped out meant to say ..... hockey game... err.. football game... monster truck rally... you know - manly stuff...).

Once you're both butt naked, conversation is easier. Hell, you can spend half an hour alone flirting with her as she compliments that monster schlong between your legs and builds your ego by saying you're much too big for her and she's never experienced someone that big! Live with the fantasy, and don't question the fact she reached for the extra small condoms and left the extra large one on the bedside table. Once the condom is on and you're pumping away, conversation is irrelevant because you can't be heard over her screams of ecstasy as you expertly bring her to orgasm with the first few strokes.

Oops... sorry. As I said, in this industry it's hard to separate fact from fiction, fantasy from reality.

In all seriousness, I rarely tell SPs personal information about myself unless I've become a "regular" and know that she is discrete and can be trusted. Some SPs even share their real names and other personal details with me, which of course I hold in strictest confidence. Sometimes this is purely accidental such as the time an SP was proud to tell me she had achieved a certain honour and then took me by the hand to show me the certificate on her wall in another room which she received. She burst out laughing when she realized she was showing it to me with her full name prominently displayed! Fortunately, my mind is like a sieve when all the blood is in the little head.

Don't ever ask an SP for private information about herself. If she wants to share any personal information with you, leave it to her to volunteer it. Hopefully, she will be considerate enough to treat you the same way. If not, print out the above answers.

 

[stryker]

I hate it when an SP asks that.

I now just answer with a shocked expression: "Never - I'm still a virgin so be gentle with me!" Then, when I step out of the shower butt naked, I ask them "Am I your first too?".

I no longer mind them asking "What do you do for a living?", "Are you married?", "Any kids?" etc... as it gives me the chance to live in my own little fantasy world. Lots of guys aren't prepared for these questions and blurt out the truth so its best to plan answers in advance. For example, here's some stock answers I've used on occasion:

Question: What do you do for a living?
Answer: I live on an Island, dress in white suits and cater to people's fantasies, all the while ably assisted by a vertically challenged little guy who speaks English with a French accent and a bad lisp and says "Da Plane...Da Plane..."

Question: Are you married?
Answer: "I am a member of a breakaway Mormon sect that still believes in multiple wives. I only have 6 wives at present and they are very jealous so I only get to spend 1 night a week with each of them. This means I have one day off, but I crave sex 7 days/week. Guess which day this is? Hmm... nice body. Interested in getting married and helping the others back on the farm?"

Question: Any kids?
[I scrunch up eyes and pretend to be counting]. "Hmmm... 3 from wife 1; 1 from wife 2; 4 from wife 3; 2 from wife 4; 8 from wife 5 (call her "Bunny"...); ..... And I'm so virile there must be lots of other kids out there that I don't know about yet...."

And, of course, there's answers we want to hear from SPs to the same questions, such as:

Question: Are you married?
Answer: "No. I've never yet found a man who could satisfy me but thank goodness you've finally arrived. I heard so much about your sexual prowess from other SPs that the session is free.... no, wait, you're so good I insist you let me pay you."

Question: Do you have kids?
Answer: "No. Oh, that's not a caesarian scar. It's from having my tonsils removed when I was younger. Ah...no...that's not right. It's an appendix scar. Yeah right. That's it. Appendix."


Take everything you hear with a grain of salt. Most SPs want their private life kept private so be understanding if they give you a different story each time you see them. They should do likewise.

There's no shortage of topics to discuss that don't requiring divulging personal information. There's always the weather, the bitch of a time you had parking near her place, what's on at the Ballet (oops, that slipped out meant to say ..... hockey game... err.. football game... monster truck rally... you know - manly stuff...).

Once you're both butt naked, conversation is easier. Hell, you can spend half an hour alone flirting with her as she compliments that monster schlong between your legs and builds your ego by saying you're much too big for her and she's never experienced someone that big! Live with the fantasy, and don't question the fact she reached for the extra small condoms and left the extra large one on the bedside table. Once the condom is on and you're pumping away, conversation is irrelevant because you can't be heard over her screams of ecstasy as you expertly bring her to orgasm with the first few strokes.

Oops... sorry. As I said, in this industry it's hard to separate fact from fiction, fantasy from reality.

In all seriousness, I rarely tell SPs personal information about myself unless I've become a "regular" and know that she is discrete and can be trusted. Some SPs even share their real names and other personal details with me, which of course I hold in strictest confidence. Sometimes this is purely accidental such as the time an SP was proud to tell me she had achieved a certain honour and then took me by the hand to show me the certificate on her wall in another room which she received. She burst out laughing when she realized she was showing it to me with her full name prominently displayed! Fortunately, my mind is like a sieve when all the blood is in the little head.

Don't ever ask an SP for private information about herself. If she wants to share any personal information with you, leave it to her to volunteer it. Hopefully, she will be considerate enough to treat you the same way. If not, print out the above answers.

Good on penhold,,,maybe we can put it in witha new NEWBIE GUIDE one day

 

[Steve Ray]

I have usually get asked the following when visiting an MP:

What is you name?
Where do you work?
Where are you from?
Have you been here before?
What kind of sports have you played?
Do you work out?
Which other girls have you seen?

My answers to all of these are fictitious and always different depending on the girl. It is really none of her business. One girl once tried to convince me to give her my real name. I became so uncomfortable with her constant nagging that I got up in the middle of a HJ paid the full amount, and left.

I never ask personal questions since I really do not care. If I wanted to start a conversation I would go to the local coffee shop instead. When the girl starts talking about herself I don’t ask her to stop but I also do not encourage it. Some girls will tell you how many kids they have, how long they have been in the business, how many brothers and sisters they have, their real name, etc. without ever being asked for it.

When I visit and MP I go there for sex. I therefore want to spend it having sex and not playing therapist. I enjoy all the fake sounds since I see it as extra effort to please me. Some girls do go overboard though.

Guys asking SP’s all kinds of personal questions are obviously not there purely for sex. They have the need for socializing since they probably do not have enough of it in their own lives. I realize that this is generalizing the issue a little.

 

[BS Detector]

Answer: "No. Oh, that's not a caesarian scar. It's from having my tonsils removed when I was younger.

Yup !!! Nothing like getting in right up to the elbows to get those little suckers out!!!

 

[Creole Lady Marmalade]

I can only assume that the questions are to break the ice and ease nerves from both parties. That said I do ask one personal question:

What do you do for a living? When I get hesitation I say, and it's necessary, I ask only because I often have people come to see me with the same common fake name which I appreciate you want to stay discreet, but I want to be able to know who you are and separate you from everyone else who has used the same name. Do you have any idea how many Bobs, Bills, Johns, Mikes, Jims, and my personal favourite Daves have come by?

Most if not all have obliged. I don't ask any other personal questions unless the client has volunteered the info and invited the question. Meeting for the first time is a nerve-wracking experience for both people but I'd have to agree there are some questions that are not meant to be asked to an SP.

 

[majikcalgary]

They have the need for socializing since they probably do not have enough of it in their own lives.[/QUOTE]


I think hits the nail on the head... could be many things though. maybe to break the ice (especially on a first meeting) All i can say is that unless he's a long term/frequent client and the trust level is there, don't bother being honest. I haven't really searched on this subject so I am sure there are stories of a friendship gone south...I guess old fashioned instinct is the key.

 

[Creole Lady Marmalade]

All in all I agree with Ginas' commandments. All too important.