If you want to get the best side of an SP and make a positive impact, it's quite easy. Send a thoughtful intro text. Many SP's will list what they are looking for on their ad or on their website. This makes us feel like you are kind, respectful, and put care into how we experience you - which is the number one factor in how you will experience her. If she says no to any requests or isn't available when you want her to be, don't push it or send more texts asking the same thing over and over.
When you see her, be friendly and positive. Don't be a silent starfish. Let her know what you like because some guys expect us to be mind readers and leave unhappy if we don't guess right.
Shower, mouthwash, tip or leave a gift if you feel like it. If not, don't worry, if you were a good experience she will like you just the same.
Why be an SP?
1. Work environments are often toxic.
2. I don't like being told what to do and when to do it - unless I'm being submissive for daddy/my boss/my landlord/whatever other kinky role he want's me to play.
3. I like waking up at 8 am and I don't like working late.
4. I like sipping wine and chatting to nice men in pretty outfits as a job.
5. The job I went to university for, although I love it, pays $26/hour and that doesn't even cover rent in Vancouver for the type of home I'll consider living in.
6. Sex work is a creative outlet and when it's a good session, it's better than therapy for stress relief and feeling amazing/happy.
7. I love meeting people from all walks of life and being able to connect with them, learn, and have cool experiences.
8. Having orgasms is fun.
9. Getting to have sex with people you would never have sex with in the real world is fun. You just never know who you will have amazing sex with and that's fun to uncover.
10. It's fun to talk to your civvie friends about having sex with 90 years olds and just the job in general.
11. Some of my day one clients have become the most important people in my life.
12. 2 weeks of vacation a year! Giving away $80,000 and 5-6 years of your life to get a good enough job to live in Vancouver! Working 40 or more hours a week! Living for a pension I may never receive! - Outrageous
13. The gentle, touching care that some of my clients show to me really makes me feel cared for. It is genuine and mutual.
14. There are jobs where you are making people unhappy all day. In this one, I get to make people happy all day.
15. I am impatient and compulsive or some say a quick start personality. When I create a goal or desire for myself, I want to achieve it now. Being a SW means I can make it happen in a week - a month or a few. In a civvie job, it would take years and I might have to ask permission to even go do it if it's a bucket list activity etc.
When it comes to the emotional part. You can't do this as a women who views sex as this sacred thing that only you and your partner can share. You have to be open-minded sexually to enjoy being a SW. Yes, there are times the bad behaviour of gross men can annoy you, get to you, and scare you. Reading some of the men who just rip women apart, the racism on this board (the way I see men talk about Asian women around here is disgusting), well it sucks to be associated with that because we are involved in the same sub-culture of sex work. But there are gross and un-evolved people everywhere you go and I can tell you, reading the words of toxic people via review boards or text messages making $300 an hour sure beats being around toxic people in person making $26 an hour and that is a part of life you can not escape anywhere you go. And honestly most of the men are awesome. Like look at all you guys trying to make sure we have a good experience with you. Of course we compartmentalize emotionally or we would fall in love with every client who treated us well or hate ourselves every time someone awful told us we should. This is a skill I am happy to have.
Why anyone feels sorry for women sipping wine in fancy hotel rooms with nice guys, having good sex and new adventures for a job is beyond me.
