You just had to open Pandora's box here didn't you Nina?
This is what I mean about discretion Nina - you don't seem to have been born with that gene.
Very well - now that you have opened this can of worms I am gonna address each one of those squirmy little buggers & hopefully bury this hogwash once & for all.
Honestly, when I met you in person I thought you seemed like a perfectly nice person. You invited me out to dinner to celebrate Shay's departure and wish her well on her future life. You graciously paid for the chinese dinner. You took us out dancing. It was fun. We all had a lovely time. I noticed you having a good time too. I paid for some of my drinks and some of Shays, and so did you.
Yup Nina, but what you don't know is that you were almost not invited!
I met you & Shay at Sandi's party where you took an obvious shine to me & we later on met at Beautiful Anna's for Christmas dinner.
I will not go into what happened after dinner but as you should remember I was not interested in having a "session" that night as I just wanted to relax & enjoy good company.
Please feel free to tell everybody how horrible I was that night.
Maybe Anna would care to say what a terrible guest & mean spirited person I was?
Yes you were generous that evening, but you did invite us out. We appreciated the evening and thought you enjoyed giving us a night of fun. We did not know that what was expected of us was undying support ever after, no matter how badly you behaved. Was this the generosity and time you describe below?
Well Nina - I invited Shay out because when I called to wish her well on her leaving she seemed very despondent & I wanted to try & do something to lift her spirits a bit.
I asked if she wanted to do anything before she left & she said she had not had a good night out in a while.
Therefore, I offered to take her out to dinner to talk & enjoy getting out.
She told me she kinda wanted to do more like go out clubbing - which is something I have out grown & do not really enjoy anymore so I thought of bringing you into the picture cuz you & she were friends.
I at no time ever insinuated nor even hinted that there was some sort of loyalty or expectation of compensating me for taking you & Shay out.
I never even broached the subject of having a session or getting a favour because of my altruism.
Furthermore, I left & went home earlier than you because our guest of honour had imbibed a bit too much & I, as you know, am not much of a drinker & you also know why I am not much of a drinker.
So, I left you to carry on after asking you point blank if you were OK with me leaving.
As I was on my way home I called & double checked with you that you were able to care for our Shay & ensure she got home safely & if you remember, I told you you could call me anytime no matter how late if you needed me & I would come out & pick you & her up.
Feel free to call bullshit on any of the above Nina!
An evening out that YOU invited me to was supposed to be some huge 'financial generosity' and 'needing your assistance'? Get your head out of your ass, Krustee.
No Nina & this is where you have completely blown this out your arse!
I did what I did to be nice to Shay!
You were invited because I thought it would be more fun for Shay!
I did what I did because I am a generous & kind person to those I like.
The only expectation was that you enjoy yourselves responsibly - nothing more.
I have no idea where you get that this was needing assistance?
As a matter of fact, the person who I was referring to who did need assistance is NOT you!
But in typical fashion you have to make this about YOU!
I have done many things to be nice to you up until you decided that you could not be friendly with me unless I was willing to see you as a client.
You made that crystal clear Nina.
And I respected that & did not call you again until we met when somebody else came to Van.
Do you actually expect that we should forever agree with how nice you are after your escalating conduct on the boards actually negatively affects the safety and wellbeing of a provider?
I used to support you when ladies would make negative comments about you. I would say, "his online persona sucks, but he is a nice guy and I am sure he would make for a decent client". Then YOU stepped over the line by outing an SP's handle here (private for reasons you might not understand!!!) I lost all faith in you. I realized that what you showed Shay and I was the very best of yourself, but what was really underneath it all was what you show us here. A negative, hating person that would spitefully hurt someone in real life because they hit sore spots in his cyberworld life. YOU, my dear, BURNED your bridges.
I never placed any expectations on you Nina.
You disagreed with me on the board before we met & after we met you will note that I did not change my posting style just because I got to know you a little.
You encouraged me to change & I told you to just separate my on board persona from the person who you see.
You were not willing to do that & had to make an issue of it.
You cannot for a moment say that I have ever been anything other than generous & kind to you in person can you?
Nor can anyone else who has met me.
But YOU Nina have stepped over a line with me & seem to have lost all discretion with regard to me & my personal information.
You attempted to say that I was trying to cause harm to another disreputable SP even when you had no facts to base it on.
You used circumstantial information to put together a story that seemed to be plausible to you & decided to ignore the fact that I told you myself that you were wrong.
Then you chose to go on the war path to try & avenge someone who was not even being attacked.
So in the end Nina - yet again, your absolute lack of discretion had created a huge drama fest & you refuse to take responsibility for it.
Keep in mind if I intend to harm somebody it will happen.
For you to accuse me of harming somebody & have to fabricate a bunch of circumstantial crap together to make your case maybe the one who is spitefully trying to hurt someone in real life is YOU!
Time to stop & think not take another drink Nina.
As for the bridge burning Nina - that was your doing, not mine.