Who should I see to lose my virginity?

[carlosdangerous]

I'm looking to drop the v-card off, and was wondering who people would recommend? I'd prefer someone who is tall and blonde (like Kenzie or January at the fox den), but personality would trump all. Most important is someone who can overlook appearances as I do have a fair amount of weight (think Jonah Hill pre-weight loss), so I don't want my first time with someone who is trying to zone out or has a look of disgust. My budget is capped at $350 so I can't afford someone like say Holly Taylor (though that would of been my preferred and kicking myself that I didn't have the nerve to see her before her prices went up). Final concern is that the SP play safe as I do not want someone who does BBBJ or anal as I've read how high risk those are to transmitting disease (want this to be an experience without any itch). Don't worry I'm under no delusion that porn has prepared me in any way as to how real sex is like, and plan to make this as much of an educational exercise than anything.

I know beggars can't be choosers, but hoping I can be a little picky.

Also in regards to the fox-den if I decide to go there, do they require any personal information, as my intention would be to basically call to see who is available, and stop by when someone I'm interested in is available and not with a client. I'm paranoid when it comes to private information and really don't want to give out my real name when I'm there. I know the Den wouldn't intentionally give out information, but all it takes is some hacker or disgruntle employee and the names of everyone who visits could be up on the web (which is what my paranoid mind keeps thinking).

Thank you to those who can help.

 

[VanessaofBC]

Be polite and respectful you should not have any problems.
If you go in there and your expectations are too high it will not be a good experience.
Also for first timers/virgins it is still very (very)possible you may have some performance issue related to anxiety. On the other hand, you may cum very quickly (I can barely get the condom on to some before POP - then its too late)

So you want to be calm, cool and collected. You want to be comfortable and in a relaxed state of mind where you can lose yourself in the moment to achieve the results you are looking for.

If you are anyway rushed, nervous or rude to the lady, this will not go well for you. That being said, it is an excellent lesson to learn something new and you will know even better for the next time.

Oh, my recommendation is Cami Parker, I have seen her blog here http://www.erslist.com/blog/camiparker/camiparker-intro

I remember she mentioned that virgins were her specialty.

 

[cherise]

call me old fashioned, but i still believe a persons first time should be with someone they know and have a connection with. i have had some requests and i just cant bring myself to agree. i feel there would be regrets later on in life on so many levels

 

[chilli]

call me old fashioned, but i still believe a persons first time should be with someone they know and have a connection with. i have had some requests and i just cant bring myself to agree. i feel there would be regrets later on in life on so many levels

Cherise - hate to burst your bubble - but he's a man.

Men don't think like women.

Carlos - Lady Vi has a great body with nice natural breasts, very sexy feminine personality, sweet and she's very good in bed - and her price should be in your budget.

Good luck and have fun!

 

[MissingOne]

call me old fashioned, but i still believe a persons first time should be with someone they know and have a connection with. i have had some requests and i just cant bring myself to agree. i feel there would be regrets later on in life on so many levels

The thing is, for some guys, if they wait for that person with the right "connection", they'll end up as middle-aged virgins. The SP route worked well for me, even though my first few experiences were at best, mediocre.

I'm not familiar with the Fox Den, so I can't comment on it as a place to begin, but I think if I were in Carlos' place now I'd be researching indies to look for a lady who's good with first-timers.

I guess there may be more of a risk to privacy with indies, since usually they'll need a bit of info for the sake of their own safety. However, there are SP's with very good reputations, and with resources like PERB available, it's possible to do research and minimize the risk.

 

[PlayfulAlex]

call me old fashioned, but i still believe a persons first time should be with someone they know and have a connection with. i have had some requests and i just can't bring myself to agree. i feel there would be regrets later on in life on so many levels

I understand that this may be the ideal and, if things were ideal, I suppose the OP wouldn't have come here for assistance. To me, it has a lot to do with the OP's age.

I recently had the opportunity to assist someone in this wonderful adventure and he was a 50+ year-old virgin. Due to some physical limitations (and society's judgments of such) , he had never touched or been touched by a woman in any way. My heart went out to him; he is a really wonderful, sweet guy. I was honoured to be the one whom he trusted with this most intimate of his life's goals (he found me here on Perb but does not have a profile). On our second visit, he was equally open to being guided to explore a little further.

All I can say to the OP is try and choose wisely. It's not just about the looks, although you may feel most inspired by certain physical attributes. Try and read up on the way the lady treats her clients and her virgins, so you can get the internal experience that you're looking for also, not just the external. All the best in your search!

 

[VanessaofBC]

Cherise - hate to burst your bubble - but he's a man.

Men don't think like women.

As soon as I read that i heard Fred Durst singing Nookie. ANyone else remember that song.....

 

[cherise]

Cherise - hate to burst your bubble - but he's a man.

Men don't think like women.

Carlos - Lady Vi has a great body with nice natural breasts, very sexy feminine personality, sweet and she's very good in bed - and her price should be in your budget.

Good luck and have fun!

actually , my decision was based on what men( in both my private and sp lives) have shared with me about the regrets they have and how it affects there lives in the here and now!

 

[PlayfulAlex]

As soon as I read that i heard Fred Durst singing Nookie. ANyone else remember that song.....

"Nookie"

I came into this world as a reject
Look into these eyes
Then you'll see the size of these flames
Dwellin on the past
Its burnin' up my brain
Everyone that burns has to learn from the pain
Hey I think about the day
My girlie ran away with my pay
When fellas come to play
No she stuck with my homeez that she fucked
And I'm just a sucker with a lump in my throat
Hey, like a chump
Should I be feelin' bad? No
Should I be feelin good? No
Its kinda sad I'm the laughin' stock of the neighborhood
You would think that I'd be movin' on
But I'm a sucker like I said
Fucked up in the head, not!!
Maybe she just made a mistake
I should give her a break
My heart will ache either way
Hey, what the hell
Watcha want me to say
I wont lie that I cant deny

[Chorus]
I did it all for the nookie
C'mon
The nookie
C'mon
So you can take that cookie
And stick it up your, yeah!!
Stick it up your, yeah!!
Stick it up your, yeah!!
Why did it take so long?
Why did I wait so long, huh
To figure it out? but I did it
And I'm the only one underneath the sun who didn't get it
I cant believe that I can be deceived
By my so called girl, but in reality
Had hidden agenda
She put my tender heart in a blender
And still I surrendered
Hey, like a chump

[chorus]

I'm only human
Its so easy for your friends to give you their advice
They tell you to let it go
But its easier said then done
I appreciate it
I do, but just leave me alone
Leave me alone
Just leave me alone!!
Just leave me alone!
Aint nothin' gonna change
If you can go away
Im just gonna stay here and always be the same
Aint nothin' gonna change
If you can go away
Im just gonna stay here and always be the same
Aint nothin' gonna change
If you can go away
Im just gonna stay here and always be the same

[Chorus]

 

[cherise]

The thing is, for some guys, if they wait for that person with the right "connection", they'll end up as middle-aged virgins.

I guess there may be more of a risk to privacy with indies, since usually they'll need a bit of info for the sake of their own safety. However, there are SP's with very good reputations, and with resources like PERB available, it's possible to do research and minimize the risk.

i didnt say they had to wait for the "right" connection.....simply some kind of connection to make it a more personal genuine experience

 

[PlayfulAlex]

actually , my decision was based on what men( in both my private and sp lives) have shared with me about the regrets they have and how it affects there lives in the here and now!

i didnt say they had to wait for the "right" connection.....simply some kind of connection to make it a more personal genuine experience

I totally get you, Miss Cherise. If a guy can search and hold out for more of this, there will likely be less regrets in their memories. We all know women who were not too happy with the way they lost their virginity, and apparently you've heard the same from some men. Men and women are different, but not that different!

 

[asma]

carlos buddy I feel for your plight ,all this great info is great but in the end u want to get laid in a long lasting memory that u can fantasize about so why not make a call to your favorite + explain your situation because some of these girls as u can see have a heart of gold + see what she might come up with for a price + if its not too much higher then try to save that amount because its better to buy the Ferrari u dreamt about then the Jag u make the excuses for because u couldn't afford that little bit more

 

[chilli]

I totally get you, Miss Cherise. If a guy can search and hold out for more of this, there will likely be less regrets in their memories. We all know women who were not too happy with the way they lost their virginity, and apparently you've heard the same from some men. Men and women are different, but not that different!

Then these men need to man up.

Men with healthy self esteem just don't think the same way about sex as women do.

Now if they have been raised by a single mother maybe in our culture for the last 20 years maybe so.

But if they have been raised by a healthy alpha male - never.

Carlos is trying to embrace his masculine self - and I applaud him.

We have way too many pussies who are trying to cater to the feminists in our culture and look at the mess our families are in.

 

[cherise]

Then these men need to man up.



Carlos is trying to embrace his masculine self - and I applaud him.

We have way too many pussies who are trying to cater to the feminists in our culture and look at the mess our families are in.

are you freaking kidding me? oh riiiiight.....you want the feminists pussy , but dont feel you should try to "cater" to the ladies. then cant figure out why the feminists arent throwing themselves at you ,filled with lust and wanton desire. and this is why our families are messed up? i could be wrong, but i think you just lost some popularity points with the ladies on board.i didn't think that there were still neandrathals roaming freely in the modern world. your mother must be so proud and im sure you will find a nice docile mail order bride one day

 

[VanessaofBC]

are you freaking kidding me? oh riiiiight.....you want the feminists pussy , but dont feel you should try to "cater" to the ladies. then cant figure out why the feminists arent throwing themselves at you ,filled with lust and wanton desire. and this is why our families are messed up? i could be wrong, but i think you just lost some popularity points with the ladies on board.i didn't think that there were still neandrathals roaming freely in the modern world. your mother must be so proud and im sure you will find a nice docile mail order bride one day

cherise don't you know by now that chilli loves to say things that really piss people off. especially the ladies.
p.s. Those were some good old school memories, Alex

 

[asma]

lets get back to helping carlos + as a warning there is no such thing as a nice docile mail order bride its like the gold at the end of the rainbow,u can see the rainbow but good luck on getting the gold when their feet gets planted on cdn soil

 

[cherise]

there is no such thing as a nice docile mail order bride its like the gold at the end of the rainbow,u can see the rainbow but good luck on getting the gold when their feet gets planted on cdn soil

i am totally aware of that fact lolz
*now,where is that sarcasm button?*

 

[jmt]

Hey carlos, a couple of things FYI. When you arrive at the Fox Den they will always request a quick ID check. A lot of agencies and SP independents, perhaps most, will not accept a blocked ID call. Especially when you are standing outside their home/front door wanting to get confirmation and buzzer #. Not sure about the Asian agencies/micros.
So unless you use a walk-in agency, looks to me that you will have to use e-mail to explain your situation to the SP as asma suggested. Unless, of course you do some research and find SP's that accepts blocked calls. Hope this helps dude and I didn't confuse you instead. Heheh ... good luck!

 

[smash.hit]

Who did you end up seeing?

 

[morementum]

I'm looking to drop the v-card off, and was wondering who people would recommend? I'd prefer someone who is tall and blonde (like Kenzie or January at the fox den), but personality would trump all. Most important is someone who can overlook appearances as I do have a fair amount of weight (think Jonah Hill pre-weight loss), so I don't want my first time with someone who is trying to zone out or has a look of disgust. My budget is capped at $350 so I can't afford someone like say Holly Taylor (though that would of been my preferred and kicking myself that I didn't have the nerve to see her before her prices went up). Final concern is that the SP play safe as I do not want someone who does BBBJ or anal as I've read how high risk those are to transmitting disease (want this to be an experience without any itch). Don't worry I'm under no delusion that porn has prepared me in any way as to how real sex is like, and plan to make this as much of an educational exercise than anything.

I know beggars can't be choosers, but hoping I can be a little picky.

Also in regards to the fox-den if I decide to go there, do they require any personal information, as my intention would be to basically call to see who is available, and stop by when someone I'm interested in is available and not with a client. I'm paranoid when it comes to private information and really don't want to give out my real name when I'm there. I know the Den wouldn't intentionally give out information, but all it takes is some hacker or disgruntle employee and the names of everyone who visits could be up on the web (which is what my paranoid mind keeps thinking).

Thank you to those who can help.

Spend $300 of your budget on a very nice hotel room/dinner and the other $50 on something like a play/movie and stay away from professionals. No one wants to love vcard to a pro. You certainly do not write like a virgin and your knowledge of "the Den" etc. belies anyone who is a virgin, but I digress, it is more about something you want to remember forever and most want to remember an awkward sharing with someone equally inept. In spite of what some will say in response, in their heart of hearts it is like any major life altering moment and paying for this one will only set you up for a downhill ride in real life experiences IMHO.