You can be comfortable with your clients but they should never become your therapist
When you start hating your job
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3rd and 4th impressions can be just as important as the 1st...
My 2 cents:
All jobs have good days and bad days. Money is an evil we all are forced to live with. Few people do a job they actually enjoy, but needing money makes us spend our limited time & energy & sanity to get it. Tough to do that consistently for any kind of work, let alone for sex work. SW's are doing something that's very intimate, so the more they feel forced, the more it will take a toll on their mental health, and eventually break their spirit with self-loathing and bitterness.
Sure, I would not want to get ghosted or given the run around, but if a lady I want to meet is feeling sick or just too bummed to work that day, I understand it. Even with the most fleeting & anonymous sort of encounters, I'd rather hear she's not available, than find out she's making herself available when she really shouldn't be. If they quit doing SW entirely, because it takes too much of a toll on them, I understand that too. No matter how much I might miss my favourite ladies when they are gone, I definitely do not want to contribute to some sort of breakdown if they force themselves to continue work that they have come to hate.
All jobs have good days and bad days. Money is an evil we all are forced to live with. Few people do a job they actually enjoy, but needing money makes us spend our limited time & energy & sanity to get it. Tough to do that consistently for any kind of work, let alone for sex work. SW's are doing something that's very intimate, so the more they feel forced, the more it will take a toll on their mental health, and eventually break their spirit with self-loathing and bitterness.
Sure, I would not want to get ghosted or given the run around, but if a lady I want to meet is feeling sick or just too bummed to work that day, I understand it. Even with the most fleeting & anonymous sort of encounters, I'd rather hear she's not available, than find out she's making herself available when she really shouldn't be. If they quit doing SW entirely, because it takes too much of a toll on them, I understand that too. No matter how much I might miss my favourite ladies when they are gone, I definitely do not want to contribute to some sort of breakdown if they force themselves to continue work that they have come to hate.
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IMHO everyone has an opinion, but unless you walk in the shoes of those that are actually in the business of being a SP then it is only an opinion or speculation at best. We, including myself, have no idea of what it would be like to be on the other side of the fence. So even though I have an opinion or opinions like just be a professional and do your job, or do this and that, but I know I'm just blowing a bunch of hot air. I honestly can't imagine renting the use of my intimate body parts for money to strangers. What that does physiologically is a complex equation of many variables. Some appear to navigate it just fine others have a multitude of negative outcomes. I truly appreciate the women that can actually do this profession and appear to thrive, but I am sure many more don't. TBH I still have guilt when I participate in this activity worrying how my brief time with another human may be contributing to an overall negative impact on their lives. However, I think I have found a few amazing women that have that special ability to navigate their chosen path, but I can't ever be sure.
To answer the original question, what would you do if your SP's mood was changing. I would try to be compassionate and understanding as one should be to any human that is suffering from mental or physical stress. The best I could do is offer some kind words of encouragement and suggest they seek counsel of someone much wiser and capable than myself. On a practical level I would not engage in any activity with them if they are in a mood. I am sure my pleasure is not going to fix the issue. And I probably wouldn't see them again until I had assurance they were on a path of wellness.
To answer the original question, what would you do if your SP's mood was changing. I would try to be compassionate and understanding as one should be to any human that is suffering from mental or physical stress. The best I could do is offer some kind words of encouragement and suggest they seek counsel of someone much wiser and capable than myself. On a practical level I would not engage in any activity with them if they are in a mood. I am sure my pleasure is not going to fix the issue. And I probably wouldn't see them again until I had assurance they were on a path of wellness.
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