When the sugar ain't that sweet...

[sevenofnine]

as far as being a sugar daddy, i find it hard to just be long term with one lady,
if you see one lady exclusively, things get confussed. intmacy boundaries get blurred, personalities come into play,

i would imagine being a sugar daddy would pretty much be the same,
but i guess, seeing one lady regularlly and exclusivly makes me as close to possible as one with out actually, having a contract and commitment with the lady,

i find it hard to maintain, is all,
maybe if we actually had a contract, and the lady was exclusive to me it would be easier,
there is a point where, you become to comfortable with each other, like any relationship i guess,
and take each other for granted. each of you get lazy,

its easy to be on your best behaviour for an hour here and there,
but as those hours stretch out,
and dates become longer and longer,
its hard to maintain that same feeling
i don't know its complex,

i was with one lady for years, finally had enough
went looking for something new.
could never really find, that same level of class and intellect that i enjoyed screwing so much.

im going back to her hopefully we can rekindle.

 

[FortunateOne]

What's the difference between a "Sugar Daddy/Sugar Baby" relationship and "dating" a Sugar Daddy. No offense, but if a guy is shelling out thousands of dollars you can never call it "dating".

I'm going to be crass here - but folks, a whore is a whore. Some are classier than others no doubt, but the minute you accept cash in return for offering your services, you are - a whore.

Ideally I'm more interested in helping out a total non-pro like once a week on very low key terms - none of this $3K/week allowance b.s. If you're spending that kind of cash, you might as well just meet a regular normal non-SP and date her instead...

I don't think all SD/SB need be in the thousands. What you are describing with a non-pro is exactly what a SD/SB relationship is. The point, I think, is that these are non-pros who want to remain non-pro, if being "pro" means advertising, seeing many different clients, booking appts, etc etc.

This just eliminates the need for all that and benefits both sides: he doesn't have to find someone available, make an appt, suffer the consequences of bad choices, etc and she doesn't have to advertise, meet several different guys, worry about bad dates, etc.

This sort of mistress relationship has been around for centuries. It seems quite common in some cultures, and almost respectable. The key is that if he wants her to be available to him upon request, he needs to compensate her for lost potential income if she had decided to go "pro". She needs a place to live free of room-mates, that is in a location and style that fits his comfort level (usually upper scale, not often possible for a student to manage).

 

[booblover]

So FO from what you are saying then she should be happy with living in the DTES if it is comfortable and convenient for me? Give your head a shake! The ladies want all the dough for very little effort. You are "allowed to drop by" when it suits her schedule. Usually there is some type of time condition etc. that limits her availability. Why pay for a girlfriend type relationship? If that is what you want stop screwing around with a SB and get a REAL girlfriend. One that you can take around with you and actually tell people the truth about. The only advantage I could see with this type of set up is that if your are able to pay for a hottie who is way out of your league.

Whatever you want to call yourself, you are a PROFESSIONAL escort when you are partaking in this situation. You can't hold yourself separate from all the ladies who list themselves on here, on CL , or any other forms of escorting. This type of "relationship" is truly one sided. The payer is a fool to think that he/she is getting anything more then an appointment with prostitute once a day, week or month. The payee is only in it for the money. When it runs out so will they.....much like an escort or SW.

 

[FortunateOne]

I think in these cases the SD is NOT looking for a gf. Probably married, and is unlikely going to take her out or tell people about her.

There are some guys here who see many different sps a month and spend more than a couple thousand. There are some who only want to see one, and spend a couple of thousand. There are some who are turned on by the idea of exclusivity, obviously, and these are the SD types. They are a bit possessive, and possibly more demanding and would suit SB's who are not comfortable or simply don't have time to see many different people every month.

Suits both sides, but I doubt if either one of them forgets the financial transaction part of it. Like vacation or over night "dates", both have to agree to certain conditions to make it work for both sides.

If you book an overnighter with any escort, that doesn't ever mean unlimited shots with no sleeping or eating. There are certain expectations involved, including alone time or whatever.

This SB/SD works for a lot of students because they don't usually have the time to market themselves, or book a lot of appts. It works for the guy because he doesn't have to figure out who he's going to see next.

I think the fact that a few SB's have joined perb and posted here make it clear that they understand that they are escorts, just like everyone else, and their concerns aren't very different from those who have multiple clients.