When SP's are unaccommodating...

[ExpCharlee]

As a sassy bitch who is a good lay, I can say with confidence you probably missed out on a good lay. She sounds confident and hilarious. Honestly this is something I would say if someone asked me for an outfit request moments before our meeting. I bet we would be friends 😆

 

[Mclovinit604]

Jebus. It was only a request albeit a late one. Of course, the SP can dictate what she wants. Even legal standards uses a “reasonable person” standard. It works on both sides. If you were ordering a menu item and changed it last minute, would that be reasonable? A request is a request. She could’ve said no in a respectful manner like a reasonable person. I would assume many of the fine SPs would be a bit more considerate in response.

 

[Gaius_Baltar]

I once asked for jeans and a t-shirt from a well known and well reviewed provider and she said she 'didn't have those kinds of clothes'. I booked a month in advance and paid a deposit. What really irked me is that in a subsequent review she accommodated the exact same outfit request!

The session was great and she still looked fabulous, but to this day I still wonder why she didn't do it for me but did for someone else?

 

[The Caffeinated Gent]

I once asked for jeans and a t-shirt from a well known and well reviewed provider and she said she 'didn't have those kinds of clothes'. I booked a month in advance and paid a deposit. What really irked me is that in a subsequent review she accommodated the exact same outfit request!

The session was great and she still looked fabulous, but to this day I still wonder why she didn't do it for me but did for someone else?

I think the only answer is YMMV... Yep. Although it does make you wonder lol

 

[sparks99]

Was I offside by doing this, or should SP's be a little bit accommodating for their clients?

not sure this is a matter of should she have been more accommodating. COULD she have been, sure, of course. SHOULD she have been, my honest opinion, no.

could it have been handled better, yes. For both of you.

The second part of this, Were you offside for cancelling cause she wasn’t all sunshine and rainbows? You gotta so what is right for you. If for whatever reason you weren’t feeling it, then yeah, probably best to bail. You clearly would have walked through that door with the wrong attitude. Could have lead to an interaction that would not have been ideal for both of you.

 

[westwoody]

the customer is not always right

Look at me, I have money, everyone should kiss my ass!

An attitude that people use to abuse cashiers at Walmart, sexually harass waitresses, and act stupid on airplanes.

 

[GeeBeeP]

Last minute requests are fine but don't expect her answer to be yes. It's her incall not her house and she doesn't have a closet full of clothes to choose from. In the OP's case it was a hotel, she doesn't travel to work with a whole wardrobe. I agree the rude tone wasn't good and she could have just said no and and had the $$$ in her pocket. We all learn from our experiences don't we?? Perhaps you both will.

 

[Mr Quim]

Today I set up a session to have a bit of fun. I booked some time with her, and wanted to know what she'd be wearing at the door. She said regular clothes.

I said fine and requested she wear yoga pants if she had them. She then said she only takes costume requests from regulars, and she will wear "anything she fucking wants".

At this point I pulled the plug and cancelled (even though I was in the hotel parking lot ready to go), telling her she shouldn't be so rude to someone who might put $300 into her coffers.

Was I offside by doing this, or should SP's be a little bit accommodating for their clients?

I'm not going to disclose her name at this time. Not getting my cash is enough punishment for her.

There's no need to trash her since I didn't come face to face with her.

I texted her that I was in the parking lot, and she texted me back saying she needed a few minutes to get ready. I then requested the yoga pants (since I'm a sucker for a cute ass in a pair of them), and that's when she went off on me.

From the tone of her text, it sounded like she wouldn't even consider an outfit request if I wasn't a regular client. If I liked her our first time together, I would probably book again down the road.

In the end, I booked another appointment with another girl and saved a few dollars on the hourly rate. So I'm not complaining too much...

Saying you need a few more minutes to get ready when I already booked an appointment is a little discourteous too.

If she has no pants on, then why can't I request she put on a pair of yoga pants?

As well, the customer is always right.

I had six $50 bills in my pocket which I would have handed to her within 30 seconds of meeting her if she was friendly, cute and resembled the pictures in her ad.

In my opinion, she could have just said no and I would have been fine with that. But her rude and slightly demeaning text cost her $300 (and possibly more, if I repeated).

PS: For the record, I'm ok with having to wait 5 minutes upon arrival. I understand that they deal with no shows all the time, but a SP who respects my time is a winner.

Your not naming the Woman involved only leaves Us with your side of the Story, and doesn't allow this Woman the opportunity to repudiate your take, on what actually happened ? 🤔
I'm sure She's a big Girl, and can handle this little speck on her Resume . LOL 🤣

These one sided Stories leave nothing to be learned from, except to possibly validate your actions in this Scenario . The fact that You stated She had already been Punished, leaves a sense of entitlement in my Mind . I think You're more worried about becoming Black-Listed as a Client, because at the end of the Day, it's a small World with the reputable Ladies !

Mr Q.

P.S. It's very tough to perceive Tone from written Communications, especially Texts, as there is no real way to inflect Tone ? She could have just as well been saying "I'll wear whatever I fucken well want !" with a Smile on her Face ? 🙂
I've always found the best Women in this Industry, are the strong independent ones, who know what they want !

 

[stuntin]

P.S. It's very tough to perceive Tone from written Communications, especially Texts, as there is no real way to inflect Tone ? She could have just as well been saying "I'll wear whatever I fucken well want !" with a Smile on her Face ? 🙂
I've always found the best Women in this Industry, are the strong independent ones, who know what they want !

This is very true. Texts are always hard to perceive tone from especially when an "lol" isn't added or a smiley face like you mentioned.

 

[cruefan]

Sounds like you just saved yourself $300 on what would have been an awful appointment with a provider with an awful attitude.

Take your $300 and go see another provider that actually appreciates you as client and your money.

 

[lukom]

I'm going to be honest here I never cared for outfit requests. I don't ask for them, a lady can be naked and without makeup if she doesn't feel like putting any on that day. I kind of feel the overplanning takes away from the experience and can be exhausting to the ladies.

 

[Juliamae]

Sometimes we have bad days, she should have definitely kept it professional though! Get your moneys worth babe

 

[Iwandaboobis]

Jebus. It was only a request albeit a late one. Of course, the SP can dictate what she wants. Even legal standards uses a “reasonable person” standard. It works on both sides. If you were ordering a menu item and changed it last minute, would that be reasonable? A request is a request. She could’ve said no in a respectful manner like a reasonable person. I would assume many of the fine SPs would be a bit more considerate in response.

This. If it really went down the way OP described, that's a really rude response and he was right to walk.

That being said, the customer isn't *always* right though

 

[angry anderson]

Dude you are literally one in a dozen. These girls have many guys contacting them daily for services, some nobody John is not going to break the bank for them.

I honestly find it laughable that you think $300 is gonna hurt her in any meaningful way. Many of these girls are making a surgeon's salary, while most of us have to save money for a quick one hour appointment.

I think once you guys realize how much power these girls have over this market, you'll understand why they're snappy like that. They can afford to be. They're not waiting on any of us to pay their bills, unless they're seriously mismanaging their money.

Go to places like old.reddit.com/r/sexworkers/ and see what these girls are thinking about us in general. Most of them would rather we just give them money and leave. They are disgusted with dealing with any of us in the first place, and you think we can have the audacity to start making last-minute requests?

But yeah as you realized, you can easily contact another woman and see if she will fulfill your requests.

Why is your handle so unsurprising? lol.

 

[Ame123]

You were late asking but how hard it it to change an outfit for 300 bucks. I would have done the same as you.

 

[ExpCharlee]

You were late asking but how hard it it to change an outfit for 300 bucks. I would have done the same as you.

You guys don’t seem to understand. It’s not the outfit request. It’s the last minute nature of it.

it’s a huge red flag that a client is unpredictable and demanding. I probably wouldn’t have seen him either.

 

[Sterling8700]

I agree with what Charlee is saying. I’m sure most of you do realize the hugely vulnerable position a lot of people find themselves in offering services.
my mentality is to treat SPs with the same respect you would treat any SO (unless otherwise discussed and agreed upon).
As with absolutely any service provider in any industry, they are under no obligation to provide you with a service if they are made to feel uncomfortable, disrespected, or threatened.
And you can’t dismiss or argue against what people’s red flags are.
As with any review we read on here, we only really get one side of the story.
So we can give you the benefit of the doubt and agree she acted unprofessionally. But she is still entitled to act that way.

But my real curiosity here is if you didn’t come to name and shame, what did you post this message for in the first place? As in what kind of resolve did you want from us here?

 

[Big Dick Bob]

But my real curiosity here is if you didn’t come to name and shame, what did you post this message for in the first place? As in what kind of resolve did you want from us here?

As I stated earlier, I didn't feel it was necessary to post her name and completely trash her name, reputation and future business.

I just wanted to take the pulse of the rest of the people on here and see if I was justified in pulling the plug since she was so rude and non-accommodating.

 

[goforitmyfriend]

Possibly the SP does not want to do business with you for whatever reasons! You made the right choice by canceling.

 

[ModSquad]

Seems everyone has had their say and its locked now.