When SP's are unaccommodating...

[Big Dick Bob]

Today I set up a session to have a bit of fun. I booked some time with her, and wanted to know what she'd be wearing at the door. She said regular clothes.

I said fine and requested she wear yoga pants if she had them. She then said she only takes costume requests from regulars, and she will wear "anything she fucking wants".

At this point I pulled the plug and cancelled (even though I was in the hotel parking lot ready to go), telling her she shouldn't be so rude to someone who might put $300 into her coffers.

Was I offside by doing this, or should SP's be a little bit accommodating for their clients?

 

[maniacalone]

Today I set up a session to have a bit of fun. I booked some time with her, and wanted to know what she'd be wearing at the door. She said regular clothes.

I said fine and requested she wear yoga pants if she had them. She then said she only takes costume requests from regulars, and she will wear "anything she fucking wants".

At this point I pulled the plug and cancelled (even though I was in the hotel parking lot ready to go), telling her she shouldn't be so rude to someone who might put $300 into her coffers.

Was I offside by doing this, or should SP's be a little bit accommodating for their clients?

Who was she?

 

[Big Dick Bob]

Who was she?

I'm not going to disclose her name at this time. Not getting my cash is enough punishment for her.

There's no need to trash her since I didn't come face to face with her.

 

[Newb808]

Last minute cancellation is IMO worse than her rude remark, but making a wardrobe request that close to appointment time might have warranted it...IDK. Not to say I wouldn’t have done the same as that would have likely killed the mood for me beyond repair. Was there excessive messaging on your part leading up to the unfriendly exchange? I’ve never been on the receiving end of a message like that from an SP and have mostly had reasonable wardrobe/toy requests fulfilled.

 

[Big Dick Bob]

I'm not sure if it was the outfit request itself or more so the last min nature of you asking her, as you said you were already in the parking lot, so I'm assuming under 30 mins away from seeing her.

Again, I'm not sure how long it was from initial setup call to parking lot, but perhaps next round ask during the initial communication if outfit requests are a thing?

I texted her that I was in the parking lot, and she texted me back saying she needed a few minutes to get ready. I then requested the yoga pants (since I'm a sucker for a cute ass in a pair of them), and that's when she went off on me.

 

[Big Dick Bob]

Ouch. Well, it seems you both saved yourself from an incompatible situation.

My only suggestion is to communicate in the first initial text to her about an outfit request for next time.

I'm not a provider, but in working with client customer relations for 25 years, I find that clients who change or add to the procurement requests last minute either didn't know what they were doing or going to be a pain in the ass. And I was usually correct.

I'm not saying that's what you're about. And I'm not saying I know what I'm saying enough to be speaking on behalf or defending the provider. But I do know business relations, and this is one logical outcome I could think of.

She could also be bad news bears too.. who knows.

I'm just trying to give advice to help you not be caught in this unfortunate situation. Even if short notice, communicate all your desires.

From the tone of her text, it sounded like she wouldn't even consider an outfit request if I wasn't a regular client. If I liked her our first time together, I would probably book again down the road.

In the end, I booked another appointment with another girl and saved a few dollars on the hourly rate. So I'm not complaining too much...

 

[appleomac]

I texted her that I was in the parking lot, and she texted me back saying she needed a few minutes to get ready. I then requested the yoga pants (since I'm a sucker for a cute ass in a pair of them), and that's when she went off on me.

Accommodation is like courtesy, don't expect courtesy if you didn't give any courtesy yourself. An outfit request "a few minutes" prior to the scheduled appointment, is not particularly courteous is it? And money rarely buys you any degree of courtesy! Again, courtesy is usually purchased with courtesy - give some and you're more likely to get some!

 

[Big Dick Bob]

Accommodation is like courtesy, don't expect courtesy if you didn't give any courtesy yourself. An outfit request "a few minutes" prior to the scheduled appointment, is not particularly courteous is it? And money rarely buys you any degree of courtesy! Again, courtesy is usually purchased with courtesy - give some and you're more likely to get some!

Saying you need a few more minutes to get ready when I already booked an appointment is a little discourteous too.

If she has no pants on, then why can't I request she put on a pair of yoga pants?

As well, the customer is always right.

 

[Fiona]

Today I set up a session to have a bit of fun. I booked some time with her, and wanted to know what she'd be wearing at the door. She said regular clothes.

I said fine and requested she wear yoga pants if she had them. She then said she only takes costume requests from regulars, and she will wear "anything she fucking wants".

At this point I pulled the plug and cancelled (even though I was in the hotel parking lot ready to go), telling her she shouldn't be so rude to someone who might put $300 into her coffers.

Was I offside by doing this, or should SP's be a little bit accommodating for their clients?

If you requested an outfit at the time of booking you’re perfectly allowed that . But last min outfit requests are a no no if she doesn’t know you .
I still don’t understand escorts who answer the door in street clothes unless for discretion at the door .. they don’t last long in the biz

 

[johnnydepth]

I can understand the problem with making a request last minute, but her response really seems overreactive and rude. At that point I think it makes sense to cancel because what are the chances of salvaging the date.

 

[masterpoonhunter]

I'd have asked her to not wear any pants.

 

[appleomac]

Saying you need a few more minutes to get ready when I already booked an appointment is a little discourteous too.

If she has no pants on, then why can't I request she put on a pair of yoga pants?

As well, the customer is always right.

Would you rather she left you hanging and not told you that she needs a few minutes??? Because you'd be whining about that too I would imagine.

And how do you know that her delay was because "she has no pants on"? LOL Again, as it relates to delays, shit happens. Don't assume it's because "she has no pants on."

And finally, no, the customer is not always right - that's usually said by "customers" who don't get what they want. Saying nothing for the fact that, you were (by your own account of the story) merely a potential customer. You wanted to be a customer until you couldn't get your way and now are stating "I am right because I'm the customer" - but again, you are not a customer. Interestingly enough, this lady's policy of outfit requests for regulars, that is more in line with your own "attitude" that "the customer is always right" - why don't you give this lady some credit for that, because apparently the two of you have that in common. But alas, you are not a customer

 

[WMD0991]

Would you rather she left you hanging and not told you that she needs a few minutes??? Because you'd be whining about that too I would imagine.

And how do you know that her delay was because "she has no pants on"? LOL Again, as it relates to delays, shit happens. Don't assume it's because "she has no pants on."

And finally, no, the customer is not always right - that's usually said by "customers" who don't get what they want. Saying nothing for the fact that, you were (by your own account of the story) merely a potential customer. You wanted to be a customer until you couldn't get your way and now are stating "I am right because I'm the customer" - but again, you are not a customer. Interestingly enough, this lady's policy of outfit requests for regulars, that is more in line with your own "attitude" that "the customer is always right" - why don't you give this lady some credit for that, because apparently the two of you have that in common. But alas, you are not a customer

”The customer is always right” usually comes from boomers and Karen’s who know nothing about store policy or procedure or any number of variables and have never worked in the service industry.
I almost always side with the workers... and this is no exception.

 

[Big Dick Bob]

Would you rather she left you hanging and not told you that she needs a few minutes??? Because you'd be whining about that too I would imagine.

And how do you know that her delay was because "she has no pants on"? LOL Again, as it relates to delays, shit happens. Don't assume it's because "she has no pants on."

And finally, no, the customer is not always right - that's usually said by "customers" who don't get what they want. Saying nothing for the fact that, you were (by your own account of the story) merely a potential customer. You wanted to be a customer until you couldn't get your way and now are stating "I am right because I'm the customer" - but again, you are not a customer. Interestingly enough, this lady's policy of outfit requests for regulars, that is more in line with your own "attitude" that "the customer is always right" - why don't you give this lady some credit for that, because apparently the two of you have that in common. But alas, you are not a customer

I had six $50 bills in my pocket which I would have handed to her within 30 seconds of meeting her if she was friendly, cute and resembled the pictures in her ad.

In my opinion, she could have just said no and I would have been fine with that. But her rude and slightly demeaning text cost her $300 (and possibly more, if I repeated).

PS: For the record, I'm ok with having to wait 5 minutes upon arrival. I understand that they deal with no shows all the time, but a SP who respects my time is a winner.

 

[The Caffeinated Gent]

There's many possible reasons why she reacted the way she did.

One, maybe she is just unprofessional and your session with her would have been a WOT even if she replied friendly to get you in the door then she gave you attitude later.

Two, she was having a bad day, and you annoyed her by making a last minute request, but she is not usually like that.

Three, she doesn't appreciate last minute requests in general, because she had no shows before after complying client's requests, and you set her off by doing so again.

The possible reasons are endless and we will never know because you cancelled your appointment. However, if I was in your position, I would have bailed too, but not necessarily because I sensed bad vibes, but because I knew such language means she's not in a good mood, and that's likely to spoil the session and I would not have taken the chance either.

However, I have not gotten into such situation as you did. Because I don't make last minute requests that will require extra efforts, like costume requests. Also, I never made requests with a SP I have never seen before. I usually go see someone new and enjoy what she offers for the first time, if the experience turns out to be positive, and I know I will be back, then I will make requests prior to my return visits if I sense that she will be willing to accommodate.

Last piece of advice: don't make last minute requests and you would not have likely run into such situations. If I have requests in mind, I will inquire about it before I even make a booking. As in, if I got good vibes with a lady after our first date, me making a request for our second date would go like this: Hi, I know it's only Tuesday, and I am thinking of seeing you this Thursday, and the reason I texted you now is because I would like to know if you would be able to accommodate my request XXX and if you would be able do so before Thursday. I am also open to adjust my schedule to accommodate, but I really would like this to happen. Let me know what you think. Thank you."

I treat each appointment as a potential date that I can customize, so I spend extra time to make a booking that fits my schedules and satisfies my requests. Last minute bookings are simply not my style, because they leave very little room for adjustments which will make the date turn out to be exactly what I wanted.

Don't let your urge take control of your mind. If you feel the need to release bad, rub one out, not spending money for it.

Peace out.

 

[Real Sonny Burnett]

She thought you were being a big dick...Bob.

 

[appleomac]

But her rude and slightly demeaning text cost her $300 (and possibly more, if I repeated).

Stop whining about things you cannot control. You cannot control if someone is terse or rude or sends you a cuss filled sms. What you can control is the timing of your outfit request, which, by your own account of the story occurred a few minutes prior to the appointment. As a general rule in life, you can only control YOUR OWN ACTIONS. If you want to avoid something like this happening in the future, WHAT CAN YOU DO TO AVOID SOMETHING LIKE THIS? If you truly believe you did nothing wrong, there is no hope for you. Because at the end of the day, you cannot control if your request will be met with a terse response or a friendly response - you can however, control the timing of said request. No amount of money in your pocket can change the fact that you can only control your own actions/behaviour.

 

[WMD0991]

I worked in the customer service industry for 14 years. Try again.

You asked if you were being off base, and everyone is telling you that you were. Instead of pushing back, just accept it.

 

[stuntin]

Personally.I wouldn't ask for an outfit request that close to the appointment but I sure as hell wouldn't go through with a date after the way she responded to you either.

 

[Theguyfromvictoria]

Not to derail the thread, but is that a common thing? To make an outfit request? I never have and can’t imagine I ever will?