What's the correct term: Dom, Top, Service Sub?

[Bde]

I'm finding it hard to describe what I want - let alone accurately search for it - and maybe y'all can help me out.

Let's say a woman takes near total control and spends a long (looooong) time sensually cock worshipping, playing with, edging and draining every drop of cum but not in an S&M "Domme" sort of way.
Is there a term (gfe/pse/etc) for this?
Is there title/role for the woman who does this?

It seems any sort of Kink/Domme that is mentioned is generally on the S&M/CBT side.

 

[rinamood]

From community knowledge, @Miss Hunter regularly executes this with excellence and joy 🌹 Read some reviews and you might get a peek into what this could look like in a session.

As for labelling it? Personally, I'd hate to label it as one solid thing. Kink is evolving and labels get fluid and with it, terms either start getting applied to too many things or gatekept as "one way only". Super annoying.
It's probably easiest understood as PSE (for those optically-inclined or porn-inspired) with no strict dynamic as far as D/S goes, but with the request for the person to take charge including act such as cock worship, edging, and milking. This is my opinion only.

 

[80watts]

" take charge including act such as cock worship, edging, and milking"
Add in rimming and prostrate massage... could totally blow a man's mind.... (1-2 hours)

CBT- could include weights, caging, sounding, electro play, whipping/spanking penis, stretching, crushing, kicking, ice, heat, etc... (2-4 hours)

If you haven't cum for a few days its even more intense....

 

[TheBlaireSwitchProject]

Service sub could be accurate but as Rina said above I don't think that kind of play could be individually labelled, as there's lots of room for other details and dynamic in what you're describing. She's right in wrapping it up in a neat PSE bow.
Communicating your desires is always your best bet. I don't think you'll be hard pressed to find someone who's happy to take part in this fantasy with you!
Look for providers with reviews that highlight CBj & BBBJ skills, lots of enthusiasm and a desire to please. I think you'll find one you click with and find what you're after and more 😊

 

[Pornholio]

Also if she has the term Switch in ad, might be for you.

But I'm also not up on All the bdsm terms. I'll need to book someone who can work me through all of it in the near future, and tap into my dark side, but also teach me too 😂

 

[TheBlaireSwitchProject]

Also if she has the term Switch in ad, might be for you.

But I'm also not up on All the bdsm terms. I'll need to book someone who can work me through all of it in the near future, and tap into my dark side, but also teach me too 😂

Hahahaha could be for some, not for all!
I look up to Rina a lot, she's definitely a great person to learn from and would give anyone on the neutral- subby side an excellent introduction to kink.
If you're just looking for terminology, fetlife can be a good resource to use with a grain of salt.

 

[Pornholio]

Hahahaha could be for some, not for all!
I look up to Rina a lot, she's definitely a great person to learn from and would give anyone on the neutral- subby side an excellent introduction to kink.
If you're just looking for terminology, fetlife can be a good resource to use with a grain of salt.

I think having @rinamood teach me sounds better

 

[rinamood]

Hahahaha could be for some, not for all!
I look up to Rina a lot, she's definitely a great person to learn from and would give anyone on the neutral- subby side an excellent introduction to kink.
If you're just looking for terminology, fetlife can be a good resource to use with a grain of salt.

Aww thank you! 🥰 I definitely get my fair share of good boys whether they like being teased a bit or something a little extra 👀

I'm happy as long as they're good to me, and I think that's the core to adding different spices and flavours into playtime 🔥

I think having @rinamood teach me sounds better

Watching you until your sweet lip service becomes lips servicing me 😇😈

 

[PuntMeister]

My take is you are talking about Edging more than anything else, which is inherently a take charge activity. This differs from tease & denial though, in that you want to get fully drained.

Suggestion: go for a few Milking sessions. Pick providers that offer the services you desire. Have fun, and oyster-up!