What's the big deal with marriage?
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MARRIAGE - DO IT FOR THE KIDS...
That's pretty much the only reason to get married. That I can think up. Makin babies is fun, and raising them is OK too. Like a pet that you train to do amazing stuff. Like feed itself. But find a woman who is 'motherly', will make your job muuuuch easier.
And get married so you retain the pink slip on those kids, guys. Have to pay for them either way, might as well make it fun, have a good time.
When you get older, you realize the value of your kids and how meaningless life can be without them. It's a proven formula, and discussions like this have been happening for eons. Nothing new here ... move along people...
That's pretty much the only reason to get married. That I can think up. Makin babies is fun, and raising them is OK too. Like a pet that you train to do amazing stuff. Like feed itself. But find a woman who is 'motherly', will make your job muuuuch easier.
And get married so you retain the pink slip on those kids, guys. Have to pay for them either way, might as well make it fun, have a good time.
When you get older, you realize the value of your kids and how meaningless life can be without them. It's a proven formula, and discussions like this have been happening for eons. Nothing new here ... move along people...
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You don't seem to have much moral fibre otherwise, why not just discard your God like you are planning to use women for having children and then discarding them, and chose another God that lets you do what you want?
I would suggest you become a moslem.
Voilá, problem solved.
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And what about "THOU SHALT NOT COMMIT ADULTERY"
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What are you religious boy doing on a hooker board anyway?
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What are you religious boy doing on a hooker board anyway?
Marriage would be better/great if we weren't so fucked up on the aspect that a stable monogamous emotional relationship needs go hand in hand with a monogamous physical one. The biggest benefit to marriage is kids. I don't believe in having kids out of wed lock. Kids need stability and security and a marriage is an excellent way to provide that.
Well... I've been single for quite a while, and I'd be more than happy to settle down with the right girl. I don't know where this "marriage minded guys are wimpy" bs comes from... I've intentionally stayed single to have my jollies so far, but my philosphy on life is an ever changing one.
Marriage isn't for everyone, as some people are incapable of comitting to one person...or sharing their needs with that of others. It isn't right or wrong, it's just how it is.
Marriage isn't for everyone, as some people are incapable of comitting to one person...or sharing their needs with that of others. It isn't right or wrong, it's just how it is.
I hate it when women use this bullshit kind of reasoning... the fact is when men marry a woman they expect the sex to "stay the same" throughout the marriage.
They expect the woman to stay fit and not gain 60 lbs, become a fat pig and cut off all of their hair.
Now granted some men are toads, but studies show just as many women cheat in our society as men, so that is no longer a valid arguement ie: men being pigs.
The fact is women are now pigs too.
So if a woman doesn't take care of her man, lets herself go, the man has every right to cheat and find fulfillment elsewhere.
The reason most men don't leave the marriage is that they feel "trapped" if they leave they lose their children and 50% of everything they have, money, everything.
If women don't want their men fooling around they know what to do... take the fork out of their mouth, get back to the gym and get back to enjoying sex.
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If this is so, tell her you will stay with her as long as she looks good and has a hard body. If she agrees, go ahead and get married.
As far as I know the marriage vows are for good or bad, sickness or health....
How would you like it if she left you because you had your first hearth attack or have cancer?
Sorry, I said sickness or health, but I don't want to take care of a sicko, the neighbour is healthy, I am going to move in with him.
It goes both ways.
If this is so, tell her you will stay with her as long as she looks good and has a hard body. If she agrees, go ahead and get married.
As far as I know the marriage vows are for good or bad, sickness or health....
How would you like it if she left you because you had your first hearth attack or have cancer?
Sorry, I said sickness or health, but I don't want to take care of a sicko, the neighbour is healthy, I am going to move in with him.
It goes both ways.
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Something about Poly...
I enjoyed having them as part of our lives so much and find jealousy to be (along with guilt) such a wasted emotion...I think the poly concept is perfect because people were not meant to be monogomous...its a value dictated to us bi (for the most part) religion, western governments, and fear due to lack of understanding...once again, I can happily recommend the book the ethical slut!
YES! YES! YES! We have been the primary in couple in a few different poly relationships - 2 with single women and 1 with another couple...interestingly the 2 single women didn't work out after about 6 months because both women fell in love with my husband and got jealous of me...can you imagine??Has anyone here ever heard of polyamory or is a polyamorist? It's not for everyone, but it surely makes more sense to me than monogamy. I am in principle a poly but happily single. No kids or family or 'partners' to worry about which saves a lot of time and energy.
... it becomes annoying! Add to that most people have their minds set in the 'mono' mode and look at poly people as though they just want to have sex with as many people as possible. Well, fuck their restricted minds. I am not judging that they are having sex with one person for the rest of their lives (or so they think). Little did they know about PERB. I wouldn't even bother trying to tell these narrow-minded people about PERB and the world of SPs.
I enjoyed having them as part of our lives so much and find jealousy to be (along with guilt) such a wasted emotion...I think the poly concept is perfect because people were not meant to be monogomous...its a value dictated to us bi (for the most part) religion, western governments, and fear due to lack of understanding...once again, I can happily recommend the book the ethical slut!
the big deal with marriage
When I seen clerks II, I thought this was the best scene in the movie
During Randalls' rant he touches on marriage near the
end of the scene. I think it is kind of revelant to this thread.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0GfsP0jZnRo
To me it was the best part of the movie
When I seen clerks II, I thought this was the best scene in the movie
During Randalls' rant he touches on marriage near the
end of the scene. I think it is kind of revelant to this thread.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0GfsP0jZnRo
To me it was the best part of the movie
Both of my biological parents were married twice in their lives and all their marriages ended badly. My uncle and aunt from my father's side have bad marriages too. Many of my friends are married but not all of them are happy. A few of them are happy, I think. My dad wants me to get married because he wants grandson.
I am 28 now. My life has been shallow and empty and I am not sure what I want. But after reading LittleAsianGuy's post, I think I'll be leaning toward wanting his Charlie Sheen-like playboy lifestyle.
I am 28 now. My life has been shallow and empty and I am not sure what I want. But after reading LittleAsianGuy's post, I think I'll be leaning toward wanting his Charlie Sheen-like playboy lifestyle.
Im 34 and not much older than you are. Im in the same boat where my father wants grandchildren. My parents & uncles had horrible marriages only stayed together for the kids. Im surprised they want me to get married after how their marriage turned out. My father said to i should get married cause I might die alone. People are like use car salesman when trying to sell the idea of marriage. I've been pooning for about 4-5 yrs and it's been the greatest yrs of my life. My friends with kids always have this soured look in their faces ...i feel for them.
Echoing LAG comments - yes, my pooning years were the best of my life. I think back on them so fondly. Marriage takes a hell of a lot of work and that is before kids come! Society is all in pairs, so there is societal pressure if you are still single after you are 40. But if I were to go back in time, would I stay single? Hmmm...
My problem with marriage is that it is too much of a trap for most logical and rational people with men in particular having almost nothing to gain at best, and 50% to lose at worst. I believe that if marriage was more defined by only having children with the woman you are "married" to, but still enabled you to have sex with as many partners as you pleased while being "married", then yes - I would be in favor of marriage. But this is not the way the laws were written... so...
I will simply never buy into the notion that there is one man for every one woman, and that he/she will be perfect for you through thick and thin. Anyone who still idolizes this fantasy are only fooling themselves. I have too much of a care-free lifestyle that I could never imagine myself wanting to get tied down. I'm in the travel-crazy stage of my life, and I don't see that ever stopping to be honest.
It's funny too - because I grew up in a very traditional family and I'm what you could call a hopeless romantic - how ironic. Maybe one day it will all change if I meet that person by fate - but on the other hand I don't base my life on a Hollywood script.
I will simply never buy into the notion that there is one man for every one woman, and that he/she will be perfect for you through thick and thin. Anyone who still idolizes this fantasy are only fooling themselves. I have too much of a care-free lifestyle that I could never imagine myself wanting to get tied down. I'm in the travel-crazy stage of my life, and I don't see that ever stopping to be honest.
It's funny too - because I grew up in a very traditional family and I'm what you could call a hopeless romantic - how ironic. Maybe one day it will all change if I meet that person by fate - but on the other hand I don't base my life on a Hollywood script.
So basically the reason you get married is for when you get sick, you're dieing or you have a physical injury.
Wow, you certainly make a good case!
I'm going to run out right now and find me a woman to marry!
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Don't worry. With your woman hater attitude very few women would want to marry you. OK, maybe the very desperate would.So basically the reason you get married is for when you get sick, you're dieing or you have a physical injury.
Wow, you certainly make a good case!
I'm going to run out right now and find me a woman to marry!
You smell of sour grapes from a mile away!
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There must be a lot of desperate women then, because I get marriage proposals from almost every woman I date.
Heck I've even had marriage proposals from escorts.
And that seems to be the whole point that you don't get... women are so desperate for sperm donors they will marry anyone, even an A hole like me - just to have babies....
so sad....
