What would make you stray?
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Although sex in a relationship is a huge part of the connection, I can do without it if there is a healthy solid companionship in tact.
If you have a negative environment (both ways) that does not or cannot get repaired, straying is a strong likelihood. Pooning is a way sex can be recovered, without the complications of another new relationship.
Fixing the problem should ultimately reinstate a healthy sex life in that relationship.
Pooning can be fun, but I don't think it ever replaces the warmth of a loving relationship.
In selecting a good provider, I will always stay with the one's that provide some resemblance of a relationship other than just the sex. It makes for far better time together.
That friendship is a need I find makes the sex so much better.
G.A.
Although sex in a relationship is a huge part of the connection, I can do without it if there is a healthy solid companionship in tact.
If you have a negative environment (both ways) that does not or cannot get repaired, straying is a strong likelihood. Pooning is a way sex can be recovered, without the complications of another new relationship.
Fixing the problem should ultimately reinstate a healthy sex life in that relationship.
Pooning can be fun, but I don't think it ever replaces the warmth of a loving relationship.
In selecting a good provider, I will always stay with the one's that provide some resemblance of a relationship other than just the sex. It makes for far better time together.
That friendship is a need I find makes the sex so much better.
G.A.
Were I in a monogamous relationship, the only thing that would make me stray would be if she left me and we were in the middle of some sort of separation.
Other than that, everything else is weatherable (aside from cheating, in which case I'd drop her sorry ass off at the nearest curb with the rest of the trash).
Other than that, everything else is weatherable (aside from cheating, in which case I'd drop her sorry ass off at the nearest curb with the rest of the trash).
Yeah right. You say that now..... Wait until the sex slows to a trickle at 2 or 3 times a month, or less! Then repost and let us know how ya doin'.
I'm single and not getting laid 2-3 times a month as is. So anything above that is an improvement that I'd be happy for 
Also, a very good friend of mine has been married for many years... and they only go at it about once a month... they are still very happily married and faithful to a fault to each other. What time isn't spent working, with friends, or commuting is spent with each other... a very caring couple indeed.
Besides, you settle down with someone for more reasons that their ability to recieve a load with a smile. And that is just ignoring all the reasons why there might be a decrease in sex... some times it's a situation that can be remedied or waited out. Other times, well, enjoy it when it happens and get reaqquianted with the palmer sisters. *shrug*
At least, that's my perspective... I'm not about to push my beliefs onto someone else. Not my business.
Also, a very good friend of mine has been married for many years... and they only go at it about once a month... they are still very happily married and faithful to a fault to each other. What time isn't spent working, with friends, or commuting is spent with each other... a very caring couple indeed.
Besides, you settle down with someone for more reasons that their ability to recieve a load with a smile. And that is just ignoring all the reasons why there might be a decrease in sex... some times it's a situation that can be remedied or waited out. Other times, well, enjoy it when it happens and get reaqquianted with the palmer sisters. *shrug*
At least, that's my perspective... I'm not about to push my beliefs onto someone else. Not my business.
HotAC...
P.S. While I've got the floor, thanks to everyone for their honest input. It's very enlightening. I didn't put an option for the single guys, because my question mainly was to get some insight into the reasons for infidelity. I know all about pooning as a single guy. As for the "nothing would make me stray" option, I thought "I am faithful" covered that.
Do you think maybe she knows your handle and read your earlier post??Christ, I got some tonight and it was her idea!!
We went at it hard too
I would be good 4-8 times a month.
Couples therapy through the PERB lounge. Who would have figured?? If so, congrats
P.S. While I've got the floor, thanks to everyone for their honest input. It's very enlightening. I didn't put an option for the single guys, because my question mainly was to get some insight into the reasons for infidelity. I know all about pooning as a single guy. As for the "nothing would make me stray" option, I thought "I am faithful" covered that.
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come see me and the other girls because they have infrequent sex with their SO. time and time again i hear the same story- the girlfriend is horny for the wedding, house and children. once those are all atained, why have sex?? horrible, horrible, horrible!!!! i so never want to be that woman... and if i ever do, i'll be forking over the money to keep my man happy.
kiss kiss,
gabrielle
come see me and the other girls because they have infrequent sex with their SO. time and time again i hear the same story- the girlfriend is horny for the wedding, house and children. once those are all atained, why have sex?? horrible, horrible, horrible!!!! i so never want to be that woman... and if i ever do, i'll be forking over the money to keep my man happy.
kiss kiss,
gabrielle
my perspective
This topic may long be over but just felt I needed to add my perspective. I've been married many years to a wonderful women over 10 years older. We've always enjoyed a very healthy and active sex life even as her sex drive has decreased a little as of late. I was quite young and naive when we met, never a ladies man, so was very eager to learn and develop the "techniques" to please and satisfy my wife. She taught me well, but mainly to understand and fulfill her needs. As is usually the case, eventually things became very routine.
However, being the wise and realistic woman she is, understanding me or maybe men in general, presented me with an option very early on in our relationship. She knew one day I would begin to entertain thoughts. Having "robbed the cradle" so to speak, she did not want to end up the older woman being left for the younger. Experimantation would be okay within reason, always be safe and never, never tell her about it. I assured her I would not need to, I fully intended to remain faithful.
She was right, as she always is LOL. And so began my pooning ways. Have always been safe and careful, except for 1 incident where an overly zealous SP actually tried contacting me inadvertantly getting my wife. Very tense, the rule of never, never knowing was broken. Oddly enough, the fact the SP made the contact helped diffuse the situation. Have tried to be much more discreet since.
I am acutely aware that cheating is not acceptable, and often hate that I have to lie and sneak. But this "hobby" has actually been rewarding. I'm getting what I need and perhaps missed out on. I've been taught many things that have improved my prowess that I know my wife appreciates. I love her more and despite the unfaithfulness I have no desire to replace her. I'm not sure if my situation is unique. There are many reasons for this hobby and I certainly cannot judge anyones justification for cheating. With all the excellent SP's in Alberta who could resist. A better man than me I guess.
This topic may long be over but just felt I needed to add my perspective. I've been married many years to a wonderful women over 10 years older. We've always enjoyed a very healthy and active sex life even as her sex drive has decreased a little as of late. I was quite young and naive when we met, never a ladies man, so was very eager to learn and develop the "techniques" to please and satisfy my wife. She taught me well, but mainly to understand and fulfill her needs. As is usually the case, eventually things became very routine.
However, being the wise and realistic woman she is, understanding me or maybe men in general, presented me with an option very early on in our relationship. She knew one day I would begin to entertain thoughts. Having "robbed the cradle" so to speak, she did not want to end up the older woman being left for the younger. Experimantation would be okay within reason, always be safe and never, never tell her about it. I assured her I would not need to, I fully intended to remain faithful.
She was right, as she always is LOL. And so began my pooning ways. Have always been safe and careful, except for 1 incident where an overly zealous SP actually tried contacting me inadvertantly getting my wife. Very tense, the rule of never, never knowing was broken. Oddly enough, the fact the SP made the contact helped diffuse the situation. Have tried to be much more discreet since.
I am acutely aware that cheating is not acceptable, and often hate that I have to lie and sneak. But this "hobby" has actually been rewarding. I'm getting what I need and perhaps missed out on. I've been taught many things that have improved my prowess that I know my wife appreciates. I love her more and despite the unfaithfulness I have no desire to replace her. I'm not sure if my situation is unique. There are many reasons for this hobby and I certainly cannot judge anyones justification for cheating. With all the excellent SP's in Alberta who could resist. A better man than me I guess.
Life: recreational sex ... married monogamy ... years of marriage induced celibacy ... pooning …
lust is a powerful thing!
Started with the mental stimulation, led to physical stimulation, led to addiction, led to swearing off, led to back in the hobby, led to swearing off, led to back in the hobby led to finally retiring once I found out how
No regrets. Happy with where I am and where I have been...
Now I am a happy camper, satisfied with lurking
Started with the mental stimulation, led to physical stimulation, led to addiction, led to swearing off, led to back in the hobby, led to swearing off, led to back in the hobby led to finally retiring once I found out how
No regrets. Happy with where I am and where I have been...
Now I am a happy camper, satisfied with lurking
With creative misdirection. 500/mth would be a cakewalk LOL
Substitute a more socially acceptable hobby, such as golf. Can be just as expensive and time consuming. Don't like to golf that much anyway.
As for the beating, I'm pretty sure I could take her. It's the getting sewed into the sheets that scares me! I think that has actually happened, or maybe an urban legend, not too sure.
But seriously....Women are not stupid!! Eventually you will get caught. Unless there is a mutual understanding or silent agreement, be prepared for the consequences.
When
When I was with my ex-fiancee some years ago (9 now). I never even looked at another woman. I didn't need to. Sex was 2-3 times a week and in some interesting places.
After being single for a long time, I was comfortable in my skin and being alone until I got infatuated really badly with a younger lady in like Sept. 07. She was nice when I told her how I felt about 2 months later. I guess it's the 40 year old syndrome where we see our looks starting to fade and wonder what we missed out on. Honestly I feel like I am 19 again, I would have sex 3-4 times a day if the $$ weren't the problem.
After the infatuation, I needed to feel something.. So I went about pooning. I never felt embarrased walking through the front door of a studio. Had a few massages with a few SPs and then found one that just clicked for me. Probably saw her 30+ times in the course of Feb-Mar until last month. She brought out my protective instincts in me after the first session.
It was a wonderful few months, that I'd not trade for anything.
When I was with my ex-fiancee some years ago (9 now). I never even looked at another woman. I didn't need to. Sex was 2-3 times a week and in some interesting places.
After being single for a long time, I was comfortable in my skin and being alone until I got infatuated really badly with a younger lady in like Sept. 07. She was nice when I told her how I felt about 2 months later. I guess it's the 40 year old syndrome where we see our looks starting to fade and wonder what we missed out on. Honestly I feel like I am 19 again, I would have sex 3-4 times a day if the $$ weren't the problem.
After the infatuation, I needed to feel something.. So I went about pooning. I never felt embarrased walking through the front door of a studio. Had a few massages with a few SPs and then found one that just clicked for me. Probably saw her 30+ times in the course of Feb-Mar until last month. She brought out my protective instincts in me after the first session.
It was a wonderful few months, that I'd not trade for anything.
ROTFL... I agree completely. Women are just as obtuse when it comes to mens' desires as we when it comes to what women want. Many times, how I've wanted to scream: "I just spent an hour licking away at your cunt, you orgasmed so hard, you nearly cracked my skull between your thighs, will it kill you to suck my cock for more than two minutes?"
