What was I thinking?!

[odin]

After giving hookers a go, I've come to the conclusion that paying for it just isn't nearly as exciting/rewarding as being with a woman who is fucking me because she wants to fuck me. I'm not passing judgement on anyone here as the men and women on this site seem to have a genuine affection for the 'sport' as well as each other, but the fact that these women wouldn't even hug you if you weren't paying is just a mood killer for me. I started with lapdancing and to tell the truth I would do that again - it was more of a party atmosphere with some joking and groping - but I won't be spending any more money on hookers.

The unfortunate part is that due to my age and average looks I can't get younger, attractive women and women my own age are more interested in gardening and grandchildren than sex. However, I find a women truthfully saying those magic words "You can do whatever you want to me" is way more stimulating than reading from a list of acronyms, so I would rather take my chances in real life (or just wank) than this make believe world. Fortunately I'm not a sex addict as I suspect most on here are.

The forum was a lot of fun and the best of luck to you all.

 

[donovan12345]

good luck to you

I have found that having sex with women 45+ has been some of the best and most rewarding. Of course, their bodies, like ours are beginning to sag but the absolute best sex is product of your mindset.

Women who are empty nesters are more prone to get out and enjoy things that they have passed on over the years. Better yet, find one that is married and looking for fulfillment and don't forget to hang on!

 

[TheGuy]

After giving hookers a go, I've come to the conclusion that paying for it just isn't nearly as exciting/rewarding as being with a woman who is fucking me because she wants to fuck me.

Unfortunately, we never truly know this. I have known women who have told me:

"Sex really isn't my thing but I like to please the man that I love"

"I have never been sexual attracted to my partner but I value him on so many other levels"

I agree with you to a point but would suggest that there is nothing wrong with an exchange of sex for money when we are clear that is what it is and nothing more. I have a great relationship with my dry cleaner which has lasted twenty-five years but it has always been about business.

Seeking something deeper is always an admiral quest but there is nothing wrong with the occasional "Big Mac" once in a while. Just don't confuse it with real wholesome food!

Good luck to you!

 

[HB40]

Well, okay, I'm not that old! Actually, I look a hell of a lot older than I really am. I still look the same today as I did 20 years ago. No kidding! I look as though I'm trapped in time . . . but not in terms of fashion, in case that's what you were thinking!
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"Approval neither desired nor required."

LOL, looks like it's time to change your signature Spermie.

 

[booblover]

Guy give your head a bit of a shake. Take the money out of the equation and ask yourself if the lady would be doing you without the pay check? Of course not so the OP isn't far off the mark!

 

[xoxo Amie]

After giving hookers a go, I've come to the conclusion that paying for it just isn't nearly as exciting/rewarding as being with a woman who is fucking me because she wants to fuck me. I'm not passing judgement on anyone here as the men and women on this site seem to have a genuine affection for the 'sport' as well as each other, but the fact that these women wouldn't even hug you if you weren't paying is just a mood killer for me. I started with lapdancing and to tell the truth I would do that again - it was more of a party atmosphere with some joking and groping - but I won't be spending any more money on hookers.

The unfortunate part is that due to my age and average looks I can't get younger, attractive women and women my own age are more interested in gardening and grandchildren than sex. However, I find a women truthfully saying those magic words "You can do whatever you want to me" is way more stimulating than reading from a list of acronyms, so I would rather take my chances in real life (or just wank) than this make believe world. Fortunately I'm not a sex addict as I suspect most on here are.

The forum was a lot of fun and the best of luck to you all.

Live and learn. You tried something new. Don't discount your experiences. They have contributed to your personal awareness and you have gained a deeper appreciation of who you are and what you want.

Best wishes to you in your future adventures

 

[papillion]

Love or Sex

After giving hookers a go, I've come to the conclusion that paying for it just isn't nearly as exciting/rewarding as being with a woman who is fucking me because she wants to fuck me. I'm not passing judgement on anyone here as the men and women on this site seem to have a genuine affection for the 'sport' as well as each other, but the fact that these women wouldn't even hug you if you weren't paying is just a mood killer for me. I started with lapdancing and to tell the truth I would do that again - it was more of a party atmosphere with some joking and groping - but I won't be spending any more money on hookers.

The unfortunate part is that due to my age and average looks I can't get younger, attractive women and women my own age are more interested in gardening and grandchildren than sex. However, I find a women truthfully saying those magic words "You can do whatever you want to me" is way more stimulating than reading from a list of acronyms, so I would rather take my chances in real life (or just wank) than this make believe world. Fortunately I'm not a sex addict as I suspect most on here are.

The forum was a lot of fun and the best of luck to you all.

Good luck man, I wish you the best.
It sounds to me like you had hopes\expectations of finding love as well as sex from hookers; I try not to confuse the two. The sex drive is the second strongest instinct in the human mind, when I shop for sex it's strictly for recreational puposes.

 

[odin]

Thanks for all of the responses and good wishes.

I should've been clearer in my first post that this isn't about finding love or long term relationships. It's about mutual attraction. It's about the woman wanting to fuck you rather than being paid to fuck you. I guess I just need that more than just plain sex. Fortunately as I've gotten older my drive has decreased, so it's much easier to go without. I know that's not an option for many of the guys on here.

 

[blazejowski]

Personally, I'd rather pay that go through the bullshit headgames, but that could be just me...

 

[vidwindow]

To each their own. Good luck, Odin. Call it what you will, but I think "hooker" is such a negative word. Obviously some short comings in your experiences have left you bitter. This is a game of illusion.

Vid

 

[moi]

It's so hard finding someone we can get along with on most levels of intelligence, attraction and such but during those in-between times, fun romps suffice. Also for the brave at heart, experimenting is usually best done with a pro!

And resenting your remark how we wouldn't even look at you, I along with many other SPs have met PERBites (?) on their own time, no payment just for coffee, or to share interests. I value a few clients I've had (and not had!) as caring people.

 

[Guardian Angel]

Good to hear the other side

And resenting your remark how we wouldn't even look at you, I along with many other SPs have met PERBites (?) on their own time, no payment just for coffee, or to share interests. I value a few clients I've had (and not had!) as caring people.

Over the years, I have been fortunate to have met a few SP's on their own time, for coffee, lunch, dinners, shopping trips (got to help slect a few sexy outfits) and had some very wonderful times. We always kept the business side of things seperate, but I must say, those meetings became so much more fun and enjoyable for both of us.

After all, we are people first. The more people you meet the more you learn and enjoy life!

G.A.

 

[HB40]

I've come to the conclusion that paying for it just isn't nearly as exciting/rewarding as being with a woman who is fucking me because she wants to fuck me.

Some people need to learn the hard way.

 

[Miami]

After giving hookers a go, I've come to the conclusion that paying for it just isn't nearly as exciting/rewarding as being with a woman who is fucking me because she wants to fuck me.

I've been involved in this activity for about 9 months now. I have recently been contemplating, what exactly it is that I get out of this and whether I want to continue. Sometimes I am with a lady and the experience is very unrewarding , but occasionally I encounter a lady who leaves me walking on air for the next week .

I have come to realize that the biggest turn on for me, is the feeling of being desired and seduced by a beautiful woman. Some women (including SP's) have a talent for tease and seduction, and making you feel like they want you. It is a great aphrodisiac. That is why I prefer longer sessions as it affords opportunity for that fantasy to play out. However, other women, make it painfully obvious that I am not desirable, but they will allow me to mount them anyway. Those are the worst experiences for me.

So I would really like to continue to see ladies in the former group and avoid those in the latter. However, I waste a lot of time and money trying to figure which ones are which.

Ironically, I know a young, attractive woman (non-sp), who is very interested in intimacy with me. She can certainly provide nights of intimacy,desire & passion that would fulfill all my needs. However, she also requires a level of follow on commitment to each other that I can not provide at this time. Knowing that I can not give her what she really wants, makes me disinclined to use her to seek the intimacy that I want. (I made that mistake in my younger days)

Feeling as though you are desired, is an immense turn on. I will continue to seek out the ladies who are skilled at creating this fantasy.

 

[kalel]

there was a thread awhile ago about necessity pooners vs convenience pooners. the second category is where you should be - you look good enough and have the resources to get women, but you use pooning to fill out the gaps. you're paying for it either way - just not always in an envelope upfront. i could go to illustrate the similarities or differences but i need to get to the gym right now.

 

[athaire]

there was a thread awhile ago about necessity pooners vs convenience pooners. the second category is where you should be - you look good enough and have the resources to get women, but you use pooning to fill out the gaps. you're paying for it either way - just not always in an envelope upfront. i could go to illustrate the similarities or differences but i need to get to the gym right now.

Great post......don't suppose you could give the link to that old thread?

 

[uncleg]

Maybe the question should have been, were you thinking.

 

[roadsales]

Sometimes I am with a lady and the experience is very unrewarding , but occasionally I encounter a lady who leaves me walking on air for the next week .

Same with me. I leave feeling either kind of let down and depressed or like I just had the best time of life!

I have come to realize that the biggest turn on for me, is the feeling of being desired and seduced by a beautiful woman. Some women have a talent for tease and seduction, and making you feel like they want you.

What's even better is you know for real that they attracted to you (physicaly or personality or both). I think it can happen. Hockey players get paid even though they enjoy what they do. It can be the same with some SPs I think.

However, other women, make it painfully obvious that I am not desirable, but they will allow me to mount them anyway. Those are the worst experiences for me.

Yes sir the Worst! For some Sps You could even be supermodel attractive and superpersonality and they still don't like the sex. Some of them make up their minds that they never enjoy it. That's like someone who hates sports plays for NHL! To be an SP you should have enjoyment of sex or else it doesn't make sense.