What motivates you?

[mercedeswest]

To the pooners and the providers...what was/is the motivation to seek out a SW or for a SW to seek this profession? This question is simply coming from a place curiosity and absolutely no judgement. (This industry has enough judgements placed on it, so leave them at the door.) This industry has always fascinated me and still does. Maybe even more so now being a newcomer. So, what's your "why?!

 

[Bizzaynass]

For me, it's just the urge to please and be pleased physically and emotionally with no judgement or strings attached.

 

[lukom]

My reasons continue to change, with my first encounter it was actually part of a threesome with a bi-girlfriend I was dating at the time. We continued in this hobby together as a couple. When her and I eventually broke up I continued to see SP's whenever I was single since that time. At one point when I had a ton of money and next to no responsibilities it was an addiction almost to have to keep trying someone new (though I've always had my ATF's), but it was wanting the variety. I eventually had to smarten up, get my priorities straight, and now I do this in moderation compared to before. These days it's for the intimacy, I enjoy pleasing and being pleased. I enjoy there being no strings attached, and that I'm under no obligation to be "committed" to a single person, and the feeling being mutual.

 

[licks2nite]

Mostly the dearth of opportunities with types that interested me, too much competition, lack of support from men to field a civilian, as well as interference from the public at large. Acquaintance always said that I looked like a "cop". That was a while ago. Today, after not having the opportunity to grow old with a women, I'm simply not attracted to women my own age or even half my age and would prefer to indulge with a woman in her 20s.

 

[SkinnyJohn]

Today, after not having the opportunity to grow old with a women, I'm simply not attracted to women my own age and would prefer to indulge with a woman in her 20s.

Seconded. :heh:

 

[TenderLover]

It's very simple as I'm very simple guy. I just love a women I love to make them laugh and make them cum.
I always look for that perfect looking a Vigaina which I don't even know what she should look like because
Let me guess, I think I like them all..Is this sounds confusing?

 

[jamasianman]

I just wanna bang hot women. Life is short and I don't want any regrets. We're all one accident from being maimed or killed or invalid or homeless. Gotta enjoy lofe before it becomes post apocalyptic.

 

[mercedeswest]

I love reading this!

 

[tvman]

I have never been able to connect with people on a level higher than a superficial one. I am very much an introverted loner. What I like about visiting an SW is that I get to have a a connection with someone that is both sexual and deeper than superficial. I get to know them, why they are in this business, and who they are. Also, SW are just such interesting people. In my life I am around so many people who are either not interesting, or have a one track mind due to the nature of living as a person in their 20's today. It's nice to meet people who are having fun, living life, and are just passionate about what they are doing like SW's are. I also like the structure. Follow the rules, pay the donation, and for however much you pay, you will have someone who will listen, care, and provide for you for as long as you have booked.

 

[Applebaum]

I don't have confidence with women.

 

[could_be_fun]

The idea that there is a near-perfect sexual partner for me out there still. Which is odd in a way cuz one of my best friends was my bootycall for a couple of years and by far the best lover I've ever had. She's married now, so I can't hit that any more.

 

[80watts]

A wet pussy and a pair of great boobs and a tight ass...... I must be eating too much red meat these days.....:hungry::whoo::kiss::dizzy:

 

[Yugonner]

We're humans, we're built to be sexual... really really sexual. It's actually one of the ways we evolved to build relationships (try reading 'Sex at Dawn' for some interesting perspectives based on our anthropogeny). For many complicated and generally controlling reasons society has figured that sex should only be with one person forever. But we aren't built that way! We actually have psychological leanings to loose sexual interest in people we're familiar with (one ancient defence to stop you getting randy with immediate family). So yeah, lots of sex with lots of people is normal and healthy. I didn't learn this until after getting committed. I'm looking after my health and well being!

 

[Finewine60]

Have two opinions
First I like meeting new people and the thrill and excitement of meeting a new women.
Second I do like meeting up with the same women many times
So for me I have one regular SP and then I mix it up during the month with a new SP for excitement
I also see massage provides during the month.
Currently looking for one special friend in Nanaimo.

 

[Finewine60]

Please and be pleasee

I noticed a few people posting about pleasing others.
Hope this is okay to post here, as I love to please a women!

I was thinking of my encounter yesterday I received a nice massage, then I said my turn
And the women was nervous I started a rubbing her, and I always laugh, in my experience most women will cross their legs as if to tell me off limits
As I massage and get closer and gently rubbed closer to the sweet spot her legs always part a little, then again she crosses the legs, again same pattern
It’s like a women wants to say what?

Slowly i rub her body and tease and slowly the legs part and I massage the clit and only the clit

Yesterday she whispers harder, and I am always worried to rub to hard as many women do not like rubbing forever, they like when I mix it up.
And she grabs my hand and pushes hard,
Then I put a finger and just shallow enough to reach the g spot and then she whispers harder and more fingers
Finally she says I am about to come and I want your cock
And she grabs her hand and runs harder and puts my hand to run harder
I enter and she’s rocking and twisting
She says she never had an orgasm with a client

So do other men have this experience?

 

[westwoody]

She says she never had an orgasm with a client
So do other men have this experience?

About 90% LOL, don't overthink it.

 

[Finewine60]

About 90% LOL, don't overthink it.

Might have sounded like by ego speaking, and it wa snot but you are correct I really was not expecting her to admit to an orgasm
Must women say they do to boast your ego, but sometimes you can tell, especially the good ones!
I guess this was the first time a massage girl said maybe I should invite you to my house for a repeat in private.
Anyway made me feel good.

 

[islander1-1]

I been at the "visiting escorts" in two totally different periods in my life... First time around, during my 30s... marriage was not going well, my, now ex, was seeing other guys, and openly telling me about it..., Drinking, etc,etc. I Saw several SWs, on the DTES. Then stuck with one..... We moved to a different city.. All stopped. Got Divorced, raised my kids all on my own.. empty nest.. met my current.. happy for many years until menopause.. None at home, I gotta go shopping. I may be old now but Willy still works thank goodness. I currently Like both the sex and the companionship. I love a young lady that accepts me for what I am... Basicly a horny, old phart. I love a young lady that I can confide some of my deepest secrets with, and I am very willing to listen when she wishes to confide in me. I have learned more about women from my SW lady friends than from anyone else.

 

[AMG-GTR]

For me, it’s the reality of my choice to put my businesses a priority.

I’m still young but don’t have a desire for a family and have immense satisfaction in my life with contribution, family, friends. I have had many girlfriends but it’s hard to give someone attention when I’m still so involved in other areas.

I did fall in love with an SP once. My fault.

Overall I love sex. Not just physical but its an incredibly enjoyable pleasure in my life. I also love connecting with new people and I have a lot of admiration of the female form.

I’d rather have a girlfriend to be honest because that connection deepens but then expectations begin to develop (for both sides) and can complicate things.

I’m also in a pretty thick social circle and dating around wouldn’t be a good thing should someone later have hard feelings. That’s why I miss my old ATF. I could really just let go and enjoy myself with them. I think I also look for an escape sometimes. Just a few hours away from all my demands.

 

[Flashmp]

Mercedes... what motivates you??? I’m interested in hearing your side