What made you see your first escort?

[jesuschrist]

Great story - but you fucked her bareback??

Yeah I did, over and over and over again. I was so heart broken, I didn't care what happened to me. If I got hit by a bus, I wouldn't have cared.

 

[SFMIKE]

It happened for me in the scariest part off of downtown SF.

Then ,there it was, like a mirage: That big yellow sign with black lettering that simply said "MASSAGE".

What was behind that door could not be any scarier than what was all around me on the street.

Man did I make the best decision when I rang that doorbell.

One hour and two Vietnamese girls later (not to mention a lighter wallet), I was a changed man.

I suppose I still pursue this hobby only because I keep trying to find a better experience. So far, no luck, but I keep trying.

 

[PuntMeister]

Married for over 30 years. Very satisfying relationship for 24 of those years. Illness meant that the physical side dwindled away to nothing at about 27 years. After 3 years of celibacy I was miserable and was miserable to be around. Eventually I figured out that I wasn't the one who was ill and that needing sex was not selfish. I saw my first provider while on a long business trip. She was mature but beautiful and we both knew exactly why we were there. We had fun, we had sex, we laughed and had a good time . . . and then we went our separate ways until the next time. It was a revelation. No strings, no regrets, no problems. I have seen a few more since then and I am a better person for it. Eventually I had the discussion with my wife where this all came out. She was not happy but understands that the relationship had already changed. In the end we have accepted where we are and what our different needs are. We still care for each other and will remain together. I am just discreet about meeting my needs. This has saved my life and would not be possible without SPs. Thank you to the wonderful women I have met (and to those I might yet meet).

Thanks for sharing your story Geek. My, there is a lot of honesty coming out in this thread. Major theme seems to be: men need sex. No one to have it with, or just not happening at home, leads to SP town. Sure, guys try to hold out for a while, but eventually they find that celibacy is just not in our DNA. Life is finite, and we were meant to enjoy it.

Your story made me think. In your case, it sounded like the situation was never going to change, so you brought it up head on, and were able to move forward but with discretion to not have to discuss it again. Sounds like in a lot of other cases, there is capability and feignt hope, so they can never bring it up without breaking up. Therefore seeing SP's with discretion allows a lot of men to find fillfillment on the sexual side, while actually enabling their otherwise good relationships on the homefront to continue. Ironic, but that's the cards we're dealt.

 

[blazejowski]

Yeah I did, over and over and over again. I was so heart broken, I didn't care what happened to me. If I got hit by a bus, I wouldn't have cared.

No worries... I was just curious...

 

[phreak7521]

My Wife..........

You too, huh?ound:

 

[blazejowski]

[offtopic] Something like that. It gets a little sad knowing that the only reason I am with the SP is because of money. Obviously I don't have a problem with the whole pooner/SP relationship, but having to pay someone just to spend time with me with or without sex is kind of depressing and really screws with my self confidence. Lately it isn't something that appeals. [/offtopic]

It doesn't bother me whatsoever. I am not a good-looking guy, nor am I in shape, nor am I rich - even if I was, I have always had trouble picking up women, so there's that. I have no illusions that the SP is there for anything else than the money, and the way I look at it, I get to do fun things to the naughty bits of girls that would normally never give me the time of day....

 

[wilde]

Lots of alcohol, a $100 bill burning a hole in my pocket and the good looking SWs hanging out on St. Lawrence St. in Montreal...

 

[Dickson]

I was 36 years old and hadn't had a girl friend nor sex for 14 years. I confessed this to an old friend who I hadn't seen in over 10 years. He was surprised and he suggested that I hire a provider so that I could get the "monkey off my back" and gain my confidence back so that women would be interested in me again. I was hoping that after this experience - naively - I might have better luck with women and dating. 20 years later, even though I have been told that I am an attractive male, successful in my career etc., etc., I still cannot get even a date for a coffee with a woman here in Vancouver. I seem to get forever trapped in the dreaded friend zone with women. But at least for the past 20 years I have been having sex on a semi-regular basis which has been healthy for me. Sex is a need and now at least now I am getting that need satisfied, though not in the way I prefer.

I would gladly give up this hobby if I was able to date women on a regular basis.

Story of my life as well!!! Good to know I am not alone.

 

[nooby]

...Vegas...

 

[Caramel]

there should be a thread for the girls asking why the became one...i was going to make a poll about it but figured girls cant vote here...hmmm oh well, maybe talking is better but some of us like privacy

 

[Caramel]

Story of my life as well!!! Good to know I am not alone.

same here! all the guys my age 24 are taken/married/gf/baby daddy ! it sucks, i am trying to find my future hubby/baby daddy but its so difficult my type is too common lol

 

[Dickson]

same here! all the guys my age 24 are taken/married/gf/baby daddy ! it sucks, i am trying to find my future hubby/baby daddy but its so difficult my type is too common lol

I think it is more common than we think.

 

[MisterMR]

Vanilla sex at home.

Besides, I've gone on plenty of dates and paid for dinner. Why not just cut to the chase and give the money directly to the lady instead?

 

[vancity_cowboy]

same here! all the guys my age 24 are taken/married/gf/baby daddy ! it sucks, i am trying to find my future hubby/baby daddy but its so difficult my type is too common lol

they're like parking spots at the supermarket... the good ones are all taken, leaving only the handicaps and the ones way the fuck out there!

 

[yazoo]

they're like parking spots at the supermarket... the good ones are all taken, leaving only the handicaps and the ones way the fuck out there!

You just have to do it Vancouver style. Find a good one where you think someone's about to leave, and just sit there blocking the road with your blinkers on.

 

[vancity_cowboy]

same here! all the guys my age 24 are taken/married/gf/baby daddy ! it sucks, i am trying to find my future hubby/baby daddy but its so difficult my type is too common lol

You just have to do it Vancouver style. Find a good one where you think someone's about to leave, and just sit there blocking the road with your blinkers on.

there ya go jenna - you just gotta use yer blinkers more, ma'am