what is wrong with prostitution

sevenofnine

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I guess you can look at it two ways and maybe there both the same idea I'm just adding separation for clarity.
I think society people believe or want to believe in the fairy tale happiness ever after they want to believe that when a man and a women get together the medium of exchange is,

Hope trust happiness future promises dreams truth,

But when the medium of exchange is money the bubble bursts the fairy tale is no more,
The uniqueness of the human experience is some how lessoned
It doesn't matter then a relations ship with an escort might be the most honest sexual relationship you ever experience.
Its all about appearance
And society wants to believe in that special relationship men and women have, and not have it cheapened by money
so I think society will never really accept prostitution

I think it also cheapens the human sexual experience when it just becomes a simple purchase of porn

I remember the first time I saw or came face to face with a nude women, the vision like forty some years latter, is sill etched into my retinas, it truly was a magical moment and it wasn't porn or porn related,

I was at a strip bar just recently and I sat in the back and watched and it was amusing to me the guys just waiting watching drooling to catch site of the dancers pussy. I was one and you wait you watch you drool, you through loonies you clap, all in hopes the lady will favor you with and extra view or closer view and when you think you have been slighted your annoyed or even when it happens it all becomes very forgettable.
Then you get annoyed at her when she doesn't show it fast enough or close enough to you or is all covered in hair and pretty much as soon as you walk out the door its forgotten no matter how pretty it is. And you just want more and more and more explicit and closer. And even then there is nothing special about it you just crave more.

And it’s the same with your sp, you pay her money, you want more shots on goal, you just want her to spread her legs and make it all available for you every time you look at her. Simple sex isn't enough you want greek facials etc.

I have been in this almost a decade, and I always sort of wondered whats wrong.
Maybe nothing maybe everything,
Your lonely, things not right at home, so see an escort,
Its to easy,
You don’t have to fix anything,
All I need is money, and there is a women out there who will take care of me,
Its all so very easy.

And at first you go wow, whatever you want as many times as you want, if she doesn't comply you just find some one else,
And you go on and enjoy,
Then you kind of come to the realization its all so mechanical its sex but its assembly line sex and you look at your life, and it hasn't changed your as lonely as you were before.
And what your chasing with your sp is just adrenalin and you need more and more to get the same fix. Women just become a toy for you to use.
Sex what is it, you wonder what is a women you wonder, just greek facials bare back is that all that is important.

I was lucky for whatever reason I like to repeat with sp's and though I have seen lots of sps I have only repeated with a handful of them
And there is a certain point in a relationship with an sp, that she isn't an sp any more, your not a john

Sometimes it happens very quickly and other times it takes many many sessions.
Your just a man and a women that have come together, for many different reasons.
But when that happens it all feels different.
Nothing physically changes you kind of might think she will throw her restrictions out the window, or limits and your still paying her but its all changed. But it hasn't

Just the feel of it is totally different. Her body language is totally different, her expression is different, some time its more noticeable with different sps and maybe you kind of just wonder where she went, and miss your old sp.
But then you realize she isn't your sp any more she is just a women,
And it’s a gift of herself she is giving you.
Before she always seemed in control in charge, now she seems weak and vulnerable humble open, soft warm, her body language once appeared very strong now seems very supple her face radiates a mixture of peace and calm.
And it dawns on you that this is the way it should be between a man and a women.
I have no idea how many sessions I have had, lots
But how many memories will I take away from this, very few.
But the most and the most intense memories I have, are those very special moments where my sp, is no longer my sp.
She is just a women who has given me the gift of herself.
Its very amazing but also kind of sad, we have shared something but life goes on, we both have places we need to be people we have to answer for or see. We have shared something but its over, and the medium of exchange was trust, not money.

I have been lucky several sps have given me the gift of themselves.
I don’t think this hobby is wrong.
But I think you have to ask yourself

What am I buying.
 

laurel love

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You are buying whatever it is you need to fill the void.

When I was a kid I loved going to Dairy Queen. I remember standing and staring at all the pictures of sundaes and specialty desserts.

I always wanted a banana split, but, Mom said it was too much for me. I lusted after that banana split, I dreamed about eating it.

I told my Mom that when I grew up and got a job I would eat a banana split at Dairy Queen everyday. And I would eat a whole lot of other things there too. I was a pretty skinny, and, perpetually hungry kid.

So, I grew up and got my wish, as much ice cream as I could eat whenever I wanted it.

A steady diet of one thing will eventually lead to boredom and disinterest. Now, I try to keep certain things special so they never lose their sparkle!
 

Bad Santa

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What is wrong with prostitution?

The answer is, "Nothing!" It is a simple transaction, money for sexual services between consenting adults. What's wrong is our society's attitude towards it. Also, those individuals who partake who abuse the process, whether they be SPs or clients, they are what's wrong.

As long as clients and SPs respect one another, both parties get what they want out of the transaction.

Also, those whose expectations are unrealistic create a problem of their own doing. 7of9, you're paying for a sexual fantasy for a specific amount of time and that's it. I have many great memories from doing just that. If you expect anything more than that, you're the problem, not prostitution.

You ask, "What am I buying?" An hour or two of pleasure bud. What's wrong with that??
 
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There is nothing wrong with prostitution if the girl is of legal age and of consent.

But never tell anyone that because society makes out Johns and Sex workers as scum of the earth.
 

DQ Guy

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When I was a kid I loved going to Dairy Queen. I remember standing and staring at all the pictures of sundaes and specialty desserts.

I always wanted a banana split, but, Mom said it was too much for me. I lusted after that banana split, I dreamed about eating it.

I told my Mom that when I grew up and got a job I would eat a banana split at Dairy Queen everyday. And I would eat a whole lot of other things there too. I was a pretty skinny, and, perpetually hungry kid.
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I'm More then Happy to help you out when ever you need it...

As for Whats wrong with Prostitution...
well nothing if you do it right.
there are dark sides to everything. and seeing an escort can be very benificial to both parties if you remember to be kind and respectful.
I compare Prostitution to christmas..
In the old days you didn't pay for christmas. It was about the friends family and love.
Now society has turned it into an evil being. You need to get the bigger present or else.
Seeing an escort is a great thing if you can keep your boundries straight. And remember to have fun.
 

jnewton

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Just the feel of it is totally different. Her body language is totally different, her expression is different, some time its more noticeable with different sps and maybe you kind of just wonder where she went, and miss your old sp.
But then you realize she isn't your sp any more she is just a women,
And it’s a gift of herself she is giving you.
Before she always seemed in control in charge, now she seems weak and vulnerable humble open, soft warm, her body language once appeared very strong now seems very supple her face radiates a mixture of peace and calm.
And it dawns on you that this is the way it should be between a man and a women.
I have no idea how many sessions I have had, lots
But how many memories will I take away from this, very few.
But the most and the most intense memories I have, are those very special moments where my sp, is no longer my sp.
She is just a women who has given me the gift of herself.
Its very amazing but also kind of sad, we have shared something but life goes on, we both have places we need to be people we have to answer for or see. We have shared something but its over, and the medium of exchange was trust, not money.
I have experienced that once with an SP and yes, it was amazing. I had taken her on a couple days trip to a lake resort East of Vancouver. It was January but not terribly cold. Still, we spent most of the time either indoors or in the hot pools. It felt relaxed and open, like two people on a romantic escape. The first night we arrived late and were too exhausted to do much of anything but sleep but the second night was amazing. It wasn't that we did some incredibly wild sexual thing. It wasn't how many times we did it. What was so amazing was that feeling you describe, of a woman giving herself. I can't think of a greater gift a woman can give a man than to trust him enough, to feel safe and comfortable enough, to completely give herself to him. It was a night I will never forget.
 

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I pay for sex because I am a sex addict. I give a woman money and she fulfills my needs. When she is done we go our separate ways. I have no illusions that she loves me. I don't want to date her. I don't want to hurt her. I feel sorry for some of them. I pick up lo-track SW's sometimes. I have paid as little as a purple for FS. When you go to John school they tell you what a prick you are. They tell you that the woman you picked up is probably addicted to something or controlled by a pimp. So what can I do about it? Sure my 3 gr's probably fuels her drug habit or gets taken by a pimp. If I didn't give it to her what is the other option? She gets beat by the pimp in a Hasting alley and left in a dumpster. The dogooders should be helping the SW not making me sit through a stupid class. Me paying some hoe for a CBJ so she can buy crack is better than her robbing someone with a needle.
 

poonmiester

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What is wrong with prostitution,..... the word itself ,.. the word PROSTITUTION should be replaced by a more updated and more realistic term.....
The definition of Prostitution,.. has been forced upon our society by many different religions,...
Making it a sin,....
That could had its place in the past centuries,.... but nowaday,.. religion do not hold as much power over the mass.....
Sex trade should be accepted as any other trades in this universe.....
Your a good doctor,..... but you don't do it for free....
Your the best accountant,.... and yes,.. you get paid for it,....
You want to preserve law,.. and peoples rights,... and again.... you do not do it for free.....
You are the best finish carpenter,..... and of course,.. you earnings will reflect that.....
You are the best Sexual Fanatsy available,.... and therefore,.. you should get paid for it,....
Where there is a problem,.. is the abuse.... the taking advantage of,... misrepresentation of both SP's and Johns....

Sexual trade,... offers a moment of escape,.. to a fantasy world that is available to us for a determined period of time for a determined amount of money,....
It gives Johns the possibilies of spending time with a woman,..... that, in their day to day life would not even bother giving this John the time of day.....

Sex Trade also allows us to fill that sexual need we have without having to lie to a woman simply to get her to bed,.... when your time is over,.. you leave,.. with a big smile on your face,... not worries of phone calls,.. or no need to answer to anyone but yourself,.......

But sadly,... some part of the society,.... which consider it a sin,.. or dirty,.. because a woman uses her charm,.. her looks,.. and her sexual abillities to earn money...?
They would prefer the SP to get married ,.. and have only 1 John for the rest of her life....? Because no matter what,... that John,.. married or not,... he is still paying .....
 

poonmiester

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I never felt like a 'prostitute'.
There were a couple of clients who's attitude had me feeling disgusted.. But for the huge majority of time I felt like a sex expert, a lover, a friend.. A healer, a teacher... A performance artist.

I chose to feel that way, and most of the ladies I know in this work do as well.

As I said before,.... your charm, your talent and your beauty are as comaparble as any other life skills that someone else may have,...... the word prostitute,.. or prostitution were created by narrow minded individuals,... who are quick to judge others,... but never stop for a second and look in a mirror......
 

sevenofnine

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i guess for me,
i see a bigger picture, or im trying to look at the big picture.
i believe in something more then what we can see hear and touch not sure what that is,

not sure what that is at all, but i believe in something other then ourselfs
and i believe that elevates us above mere animals doing it in the fields or back allys because were in heat

i believe that sex sexuality is part of the human existence were not complete with out it.

i don't think porn is or should be our first choice to experiance or explore our sexuality

yet we do i have, and i have seen many sps
have seen an sp this week actually,

but i try very hard not to treat the sps i see as somthing i just paid for. and i may use for my pleasure,
she is a women has feelings wants and desires just like the rest of us,
i have no right to treat her like she isn't, or anything less.

yet we have both agreed to come together, for an exchange of money, im not sure that should be a persons first choice to have sex.
but well life is not perfect is it,
mine sure as hell hasn't been,
and though im winding down in this hobby,
will continue to enjoy the company of women for the exchange of money at least for awhile yet.
i did this week and it was quite enjoyable for both of us.

we did something we never had done before,
any way
that is my story and im sticking to it.
 

Dave in Phoenix

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Great thread.

In my view in private consenting adult sexwork is very beneficial to a culture and in much of the world just no big deal. The French got upset a few years ago when the work hours were extended leaving less time of the guy to visit his mistress before coming home for dinner with the wife and kinds.

In much of Asia, 2nd and third wives are common.

In Islam you have to be married (about 4 wives is ideal) but the man can declare marriage to a women for a limited period of time. I know sexworkers were men have recited the I marry you for the next two hours ritual and its in conformity with Islam.

Even in biblical times there was nothing wrong with "common" prostitution and a man could have as many wives and concubines as he could afford. Adultery was only wrong for a married women, never a married man as long as the "other women" was not owned (married) to another man.

Humans are designed to be sexual from puberty on. If we abuse our bodies by not having sexual release it can be physically harmful especially for males. I know, since I thought sex was so dirty you had to safe it for marriage and had painful wet dreams (bodies way of taking care of self if abuse by no sexual release) and first sex was painful. I later learned it was prostate blockage again by abusing my body by not having sexual release as a teen. (long ago).

Many people also enjoy variety in sexual/intimacy relationships. Monogamy is no more normal in humans as it is not normal in most other species.

At least in Canada you have the sexual rights we are denied in the U.S. for in private consenting sexual choices and variety
 
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