I didn't say 'always', but don't look at this through a man's value system. Hopefully some ladies will respond. I think the response from Sphubby is supportive of this.
what is Romantic? is romance dead?
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If I'm shopping for myself, I'll throw some of the same in a bag for her, if I know her. I sometimes bring fruit, because it's healthy and they may not have time to get for themselves. I've brought 20# watermelons in summer. No attachment to her response, either way, it makes me feel good to do that. In exchange we've shared a plate of her home made dumplings on the bed after. I've been sent home with sticky rice.
Like I said, I can't comment for others but for my SO this is true. There is no thought or additional effort in giving a tip, the thought of someone going out of their way and take the time to go into a store even if it is save on foods to get a rose and bring it with them always pushes the right button. I don't know what the odds are that this works with other SP's, you would have to figure that one out yourself.
SPH
SPs are ladies as well, and this works on most ladies, so why not on SPs? Thank you SPH
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Larry Storch
I'm assuming you've met someone? Perhaps "industry" related, perhaps not.
Romance isn't about expansive displays. Mostly it's about little things. Something out of the blue. Letting her know you are thinking of her.
When I was married my wife would make "flowers" for me. Just a piece of toast with strawberry jam. But she would cut it in the shape of a flower, put on the jam and a small dab of butter in the center. No big deal really, but the first time she did it I almost couldn't eat it. Ever see a grown man standing in a kitchen 'tearing up over toast'? She woke up covered in rose petals on more than one occasion. Talk about tears. Fridays were "spa night" for her (we both worked like dogs when we first got together). Right after dinner I'd pour her a glass of wine and draw a bubble bath with candles and her favourite music. She had the rest of the evening to relax and I'd do the dishes and clean the kitchen. Nothing big. Totally inexpensive. She loved it. So did I.
Just do something you think she'll like. Something that will make her smile. Wash her car. It doesn't have to be complicated.
I think I can be romantic...just never haD a real opportunity to be so . Send flowers to my favorites waitress ..A number of times ...never got me anywhere ...
When I did date an SP that I was friends with. Even then setting up dinner and a suit .for valentines .kind of fell flat...and like wise a weekend up island at two of the nicest resorts..Also turned into big stress events .
Personal the first time I was in some kind of relationship .I could not find the romance ...
It was only after failing and going back to seeing escorts that I was happy.
When it came down to romance with any of the escorts that are now friends .. can't say there was any..it was just more about caring and trying to show that .
Making them a bacon and egg sandwich in the morning ..is that romantic. ?
When I did date an SP that I was friends with. Even then setting up dinner and a suit .for valentines .kind of fell flat...and like wise a weekend up island at two of the nicest resorts..Also turned into big stress events .
Personal the first time I was in some kind of relationship .I could not find the romance ...
It was only after failing and going back to seeing escorts that I was happy.
When it came down to romance with any of the escorts that are now friends .. can't say there was any..it was just more about caring and trying to show that .
Making them a bacon and egg sandwich in the morning ..is that romantic. ?
That Is m'y question? What Is romantic. Setting up thèse Big évents with limo rides, helicopter rides into the Grand Canyon, carriage rides in central Park NYC, trips to the opéra in Prague, the Théâtre in NYC, or days at the spa, Private fashion stylists, makeup artist, private haïr stylists in the hotel, clothes shopping, dresses, gowns, skirts, blouses, oh the shoes and boots I bought over the years. Then the rings, braclets, necklaces, watches, spécial évents with opéra singers, actors, other SPs to Play parts, massage therapists, string quartets, pianist, a flautist, I even hired a choir for an évent.
I feel kind of foolish considering I could have got the same effect by buying windsheild washer. Damn Guy was I going in the wrong direction.
Oh I Can only Hope That some of the SPs thought it was romantic.
Very interesting the différent perspectives. I think it was for me I did thèse things. I guess it was romantic for me and I guess That was the Whole point. But I guess That Is the point for all of us. We arr not doing it for the SPs we are doing for ourself to make Our self feel good Just pretending we are doing for them.
Oh well the candle Guys and the florists were happy.
Disappointed!!!
29 comments, and only one from an SP, BC Babe. I would be nice to hear more from other escorts.
29 comments, and only one from an SP, BC Babe. I would be nice to hear more from other escorts.
What I think is missing .. is finding a women that actually is into you /us.
Romance can't be one sided . If she does not feel week in the knee's. Or have that need just to phone you any time to hear your voice.and know you are ok...Like we do ..Then there really is no chance of romance taking place ...It takes two.
Romance can't be one sided . If she does not feel week in the knee's. Or have that need just to phone you any time to hear your voice.and know you are ok...Like we do ..Then there really is no chance of romance taking place ...It takes two.
I think it Is unoh who pointes out SPs are not interested in reflecting romance. It Is all about the business transactions. There a few who like to Play Along but it Is all about the money and we are fooling ourselves if There Is any romance no matter what we do or prétend. Romance in This part of the world Is Dead.
Good to know as I Just saved my self a ton of money on the romantic évents. Save your windsheild washer and You flowers for the real deal. Unoh has got This one right.
Oh There a rare few DPs out There That does the romance thing well but the rest it Is Just a transaction. So enjoy the transaction boys.
Of course you can't find romance. The only thing you care about is your money. It's all you talk about.
Thats not necessarily true. I once knew a girl for years without really thinking of her sexually. She was married, caught her husband cheating and called me that same week because she knew me for so long and wanted to talk. We went out that night with some friends and I bring her back to my place because she didn't have much change to talk with other friends around. She gets to my place and won't shut up about her husband and what a jerk he was and what a bitch the woman she caught him with was, and on and on. So I'm getting sick of listening and I had a few drinks so did she and I'm wondering how this night will end, I'm tied of listening. Out of the blue without even realizing I made a move, we start sucking lips on the livingroom floor. Ten minutes of that and we're off to the bedroom and both naked in minutes.
That was the start of a 6 month relationship with probably the best sex I've ever had daily. Until she start thinking about forgiving her ex, so I moved on.
Perhaps its not impossible but maybe you're targeting the wrong women. Id be curious to know the age gap between yourself and the ladies you've attempted to romance. If half your age its likely mission impossible. Even if age appropriate the likely best possible outcome might be a sign of appreciation for your efforts as opposed to actual romance.
But I don't want to bust your bubble, if you have the resources to continue then why not keep trying. Don't make it such a big production and keep hopes more realistic, do events that make you feel good.
I am not Disappointed at all!!!!!
It is refreshing to me to hear real guys actually talk genuinely and openly about romance, without all the Chiquita perspective. Encouraging to hear that we men actually want a romantic connection. It is easy to get jaded into the transactional realm, but when I find the one (or more if I am fortunate enough) that I connect genuinely with, I hold onto her tight and stop being a horn dog for the next available conquest. Got to give of myself first. And to those synics out there that say it isn't possible, please consider if you are fishing in the wrong pond for you, and if your bait has gone rancid. I say the moment you believe it is not possible for you, then that is the moment it is not possible for you. But when you embrace the laws of attraction and start believing in yourself and seeking human connections first and T 'n A second, that is when you give yourself a chance at happiness, not just rocks-off delay tactics.
Forego the roses of the wallet, embrace the roses of the heart! Long live washer fluid ?
In response to UhOh's comment about finding romance with a woman half your age....I'm living proof that it's very possible.
I've had more than a few romances with 20 something year olds where more than just for fun.
In most instances, it was the hard life I live in the mountains, and the bitter winter cold that drove them away.
Now granted that they were little star struck "Buckle Bunnies", that wanted a genuine Cowboy, and I was more than happy to provide that for them.... But they were half my age, and in the beginning they had every intention to be in the relationship for the longhaul.
I do realize you were talking about SP in your comment, and I'm talking about civilian women..But age don't mean shit.
The odd thing was , when I had a 22 year old with me....I'd check out the 40 year olds.
I've had more than a few romances with 20 something year olds where more than just for fun.
In most instances, it was the hard life I live in the mountains, and the bitter winter cold that drove them away.
Now granted that they were little star struck "Buckle Bunnies", that wanted a genuine Cowboy, and I was more than happy to provide that for them.... But they were half my age, and in the beginning they had every intention to be in the relationship for the longhaul.
I do realize you were talking about SP in your comment, and I'm talking about civilian women..But age don't mean shit.
The odd thing was , when I had a 22 year old with me....I'd check out the 40 year olds.
Unoh you are busting my bubble you are just confirming what a number of SPs have told me. My romantic events are not romantic events for them. They are for me. I have to stopping thinking that these ladies are interested in the romantic event. They might play along but they are in this business to experience romance. They are doing this for the money. Our flowers end up in the garbage as soon as we walk out the door.
I suspect my events SPs remember as being a little sick. Or ay best warped.
On your comment regarding younger SPs. I try and see SPs closer to my age. Mature ladies who are good are hard to fine. Almost like looking for a unicorn. Just because you never saw one does not mean that don't exist.
It is clear this is not the place to waste romantic resources. This is a business transaction, boys. Lets get real!
I guess it is important to know when we get the next gift, flowers, windshield washer, or special event. We are doing it for us not for them. This will not bring them happiness. Is will get you a fake thank you this is wonderful but in the back of her mind they say you got to be kidding me. Just give me a tip.
