what is Romantic? is romance dead?

[Dickson]

This might not Be the place to ask This.

But in light of new Development I am curious what do people find romantic?

Personally I have warped sensé of reality So I would like to hear from the rest of the world.

 

[UhOh]

First off there is ZERO romance in paying for sex. It can be fun but its certainly not romantic.
Its also a hard one to pull off with low self esteem. If the target of you interest doesn't want to be with you no effort can be romantic.
If there is interest on both sides a simple walk in the park can be romantic.

I have a trail of pissed off girlfriends so what do I know.

 

[Dickson]

First off there is ZERO romance in paying for sex. It can be fun but its certainly not romantic.
Its also a hard one to pull off with low self esteem. If the target of you interest doesn't want to be with you no effort can be romantic.
If there is interest on both sides a simple walk in the park can be romantic.

I have a trail of pissed off girlfriends so what do I know.

A lot more than me at least You have trail.

I get it That This not the place for romance. But what Is it then? There has to Be something to create something?

Interesting.

 

[87112]

Baggage gets in the way of romance as the years go by. You think of the past and than you treat new situations with much more caution. I see a new relationship as a pandora's box. I remember being in my teens and 20s, those butterflies, I really wish I could think like that again.

 

[sybian]

For me romance starts with a single small point of light in the darkness.
In the early stages there is more interest than just getting laid, she is different, and you need more of her, and after awhile thats still not good enough.
The relationship grows to a point where it's all you may want in both your lives.

This is the sappy part...and if you knew me ,and what I appear like, you'd raise your eyebrows at this.
The normal stuff like building a campfire, walking the trails, having something to eat, or riding horses.. takes on meaning. You may spend a fortune on a trip ,and a room...and never leave that room.
The Apache believe when there is romance, the two can never feel the cold, wind, or rain, because they are the shelter for each other.
I believe in my simple Cowboy, one track mind...That you can't find, buy or force romance...It is an experience between two people that will find a life of it's own..No matter who they are, or where it happens.

 

[Real Sonny Burnett]

Romance is something that you can't buy.

 

[pro-boner]

Ha Ha sorry I just keep thinking if we were any good at romance we wouldn't be here.

But lets put that rather jaundiced point of view to the side. I don't disagree with anything said so far in this tread. First of all Sp's are people, and have the same feelings and needs as the rest of us. It is so easy to practice being romantic with an sp that you know. She will give you tons of feedback that you are on the right track, so you will know what works and what does not. For example I often bring a dozen long stem roses to call on a new girl. Many many times especially if they are young, you may be giving them there first bouquet of flowers. Imagine that. You have just set yourself apart from the crowd and you certainly have her full and undivided attention. I have friend who goes all out with ladies he knows, candles and wine and music the whole thing! If you don't think he develops close relationships with these ladies you would be sadly mistaken. We call him Magic Dave, and the girls love him. Boys when he comes a callin' you might find your appointment pushed to the back burner.

Anyway I'm just saying you can practice your romantic chops with sp's and have a really fun time doing it. I have. And I have developed close relationships with a number of sp's in my town.

So romance is not dead. Get out and do romantic things.

 

[Jetjock300]

Sorry - see post below!

 

[Jetjock300]

Romance isn't dead...

Romance to me begins with the first encounter! If I'm attracted to an SP and book an appointment, I like to do something special for her. I like to bring a dozen long stem red roses for the first encounter and then at least one other crazy gift that shows that I put some thought into it.

For example, recently along with the roses, I brought an 8 pack of Cold Shots (because she has suggested it) even though I had no idea what Cold Shots were at the time, and I also brought her a jug of windshield washer fluid for her car! Crazy gift, eh? But I knew she drove a car and I also know how much windshield washer fluid we've been going through this winter! So I thought that would be a nice goofy gift that would show her that some thought went into it and was also something quite useful.

I think that the most important thing is to show that you admire and respect their humanity and that you appreciate from the bottom of your heart what these beautiful women do for us poor wretched souls.

The are repeatedly saving my life and I want them to know how much I deeply appreciate it.

So Romance isn't dead at all as long as you put some thought into it.

Just my random thoughts...

 

[carvesg]

Romance is going out of your way to make someone feel special with a little extra effort . Can be rewarding or rewarded if that someone knows or appreciate the effort that went into it .LOL

No romance is not dead it's simply the amount of hurt increases over the years and our sarcasm stops us from thinking about what the needs or wishes of the other .

Dickson ....based on what you write normally about the planning of your dates with ladies you do not have a problem to put the effort necessary to make them feel special . Do you wish that all could be like you ? LOL Nice world that would be ?

 

[Jetjock300]

And one more thing...

Sadly, I can't count the number of times that I've been told that I'm the first person that ever brought a woman flowers. This is sooooo sad! These wonderful ladies need to know that we love them and appreciate them!

How hard is it to bring something along to your lady to show them that they are special and appreciated?

 

[westwoody]

Nice post sybian.

Romance is when everything is really great just because you are with your sweetheart.
Doesn't matter if you are at a hot dog stand or a five star restaurant, the meal is great because of who you are with.
Super expensive shoes, fuck 'em, my sweetie looks better in her Nikes than any lady in designer crap.
Sex is irrelevant, what you wear is irrelevant, the weather is irrelevant, when you are with the one you love, it's all good.

 

[87112]

Sadly, I can't count the number of times that I've been told that I'm the first person that ever brought a woman flowers. This is sooooo sad! These wonderful ladies need to know that we love them and appreciate them!

How hard is it to bring something along to your lady to show them that they are special and appreciated?

All due respect I am not going to go that far with a SP. If I was an SP I rather get a 20 dollar tip than roses cause its just a biz.

 

[Dickson]

All due respect I am not going to go that far with a SP. If I was an SP I rather get a 20 dollar tip than roses cause its just a biz.

This interesting. It confirms my réalisation after So many years. What we think Is romantic Is seen by the SP as useless or worthless. I have been told by one SP I don't need another fancy dress I need new toilets.

Uhoh might Be right There Is no romance in This Game but out side of it maybe. What do SPs want? What do women want. Big difference.

I have sent flowers to SP and first time it Is wow how Nice. Second time ok the Third time it Is like stop sending me flowers.

Interesting Guys your thoughts. I Can relate but are we doing it for us or for them?

Badger You are known ti being the ladies a little gift when You see them how does That work for You? You doing it for them or You?

I am Just curious. I like what I am hearing from the Guys. There Is a little white Knight in all of us other then unho. But like He Saïd There Is zéro romance when one Is paying. He might Be right.

Curious what the ladies might think.

 

[sybian]

Thanks Westwoody..I was a little nervous about clicking the "submit reply" on that one.
I've been asked by several ladies in this locality to arrive with some steak from my ranch, or some wine. One lovley young lady wanted to sample some of my Moonshine ...but I've never considered bringing a flower, or flowers....Something to keep in mind.
Or maybe a case of motor oil..The washer fluid idea I'll leave to my friend there, It was his idea in the first place...and thats not really my style.

 

[Sphubby]

All due respect I am not going to go that far with a SP. If I was an SP I rather get a 20 dollar tip than roses cause its just a biz.

I can't speak for other SP's but as I have previously stated my wife appreciates when a client does anything for her. Be it a rose, chocolate, bottle of wine or a tip they all make a lasting impression on her and is on her mind the next time that person books some time with her. If she knows this person has a favorite nail color she will spend a hour doing her nails both hand and toes to do something little extra for them. Same with going out to get a new pair of stockings or outfit for them.

Something small sometimes goes along way.

Cheers SPH

 

[pro-boner]

I can't speak for other SP's but as I have previously stated my wife appreciates when a client does anything for her. Be it a rose, chocolate, bottle of wine or a tip they all make a lasting imprecision on her and is on her mind the next time that person books some time with her. If she knows this person has a favorite nail color she will spend a hour doing her nails both hand and toes to do something little extra for them. Same with going out to get a new pair of stockings or outfit for them.

Something small sometimes goes along way.


Cheers SPH

Good comment sphubby. You get it because you see it from her side of the equation. Sure it is a business. I do nice stuff for my customers all the time. because it is all about the relationship. You want to do business with your friends, with people that are nice to you. It doesn't take much effort. Actually I am selfishly glad more guys are not doing stuff for their ladies, makes it far more easy for me to stand out from the crowd and be remembered. This after all IS the most human and personal of all things. Every woman whether she is attached or very independent loves to be made to feel special.

Once you get on her "wonderful guy" list you will know what I and a few others here are trying to convey.

pb

 

[UhOh]

There Is a little white Knight in all of us other then unho.

Really, everyone but me, including the guy bringing windshield wash fluid?

You might be trying too hard looking for something that doesn't exist. There comes a time when we have to accept romance may have passed us by. You're a conscientious guy, work on liking yourself first if you want others to enjoy being around you. Take care of that and you may find what you're looking for. I wish you luck.

 

[hornygandalf]

All due respect I am not going to go that far with a SP. If I was an SP I rather get a 20 dollar tip than roses cause its just a biz.

And as someone who worked for a while in the motivation and incentive industry, I can assure you that often a small appropriate gift will frequently carry more 'perceived value' than money. A rose is highly likely to carry more value than a $20 tip, even though it costs a fraction of that.

 

[UhOh]

A rose is highly likely to carry more value than a $20 tip, even though it costs a fraction of that.

I seriously doubt that.