What if your partner was an escort?

[Q0s]

I'm omitting some details so someone here doesn't figure out my identity, but I wanted to post this anyway, now that a bit of time has passed since I broke off the relationship.

My ex-GF spent some time working at Fox Den early this year, and while that's not the reason for the break up, it was a tough thing to swallow, especially since I felt guilty I wasn't bringing in enough money and she felt compelled she had to do that to meet all her financial obligations. I have to say this: it sure gives one a different perspective, especially since I had done a bit of pooning here and there in years past. Rationalize it any way you want, it can be a harrowing experience emotionally for a relationship, regardless of the money she made. I felt especially bad since, if I had saved the money otherwise spent on my pooning indiscretions, that might have been enough to meet our financial needs at the time. Despite the relationship being a thing of the past now, I still have a bitter aftertaste. Though I intend to get back to the hobby, given that I'm getting too busy and, at 30, too old, to pick up in bars etc., I'm sure this will be in the back of my mind...

Anyone else having such an experience where you had a relationship with an SP?

 

[shockley]

Anyone else having such an experience where you had a relationship with an SP?

Short answer no. I wouldn't allow myself to have a relationship with an escort. I believe in exclusive relationships.

 

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I haven't yet had a relationship with an SP. From my perspective, it takes a unique spirit to have the fortitude to go against the societal current, and chooses to do and enjoys what an SP does. I understand this is not too common but find this incredibly attractive.

Any SP who exudes such characteristics is definitely one whom I deeply respect and would like to get to know better on a more profound level.

So, the answer is yes, I would be very proud and lucky to have such an SP as my partner.

 

[supernewbie]

I know a few SP personally and they have their BF. Yeah, their BF is always pissed off at them still in the business. But, the only thing the SP can do is to have less ads and lie to their BF.

 

[mercyshooter]

who's your ex-gf? let me explore her skill!

 

[princeofdarkness]

Short answer no. I wouldn't allow myself to have a relationship with an escort. I believe in exclusive relationships.

Likewise.
I fell pretty hard over one lovely lady but I had no idea of her services until the truth was revealed after seven weeks of blissful dating.
It cracked my heart a little. In the end, I had to make the painful decision to move on. We are still friends and to this day, she is one of my best "wing-girls".

Peace.

 

[vancity_cowboy]

...at 30, too old, to pick up in bars etc...

ummm... i don't quite see your point here. obviously you haven't figured out the trick of letting a c-note hang out of your wallet or a packet of powder. 30... too old? bullshit!

 

[Pirate Code]

What is all this stupid guilt about?

SHE put herself in that financial position and YOU have every right to spend your money as you wish- especially before you even knew her!! What is this retroactive guilt bullshit? Lol you're guilty because you didn't see the future?

 

[das boot]

Though I intend to get back to the hobby, given that I'm getting too busy and, at 30, too old, to pick up in bars etc.

There are plenty of bars where you would fit right in....the Roxy comes to mind. Still though, a rub and tug is always the better option.

 

[LADY-VIA]

I'm omitting some details so someone here doesn't figure out my identity, but I wanted to post this anyway, now that a bit of time has passed since I broke off the relationship.

My ex-GF spent some time working at Fox Den early this year, and while that's not the reason for the break up, it was a tough thing to swallow, especially since I felt guilty I wasn't bringing in enough money and she felt compelled she had to do that to meet all her financial obligations. I have to say this: it sure gives one a different perspective, especially since I had done a bit of pooning here and there in years past. Rationalize it any way you want, it can be a harrowing experience emotionally for a relationship, regardless of the money she made. I felt especially bad since, if I had saved the money otherwise spent on my pooning indiscretions, that might have been enough to meet our financial needs at the time. Despite the relationship being a thing of the past now, I still have a bitter aftertaste. Though I intend to get back to the hobby, given that I'm getting too busy and, at 30, too old, to pick up in bars etc., I'm sure this will be in the back of my mind...

Anyone else having such an experience where you had a relationship with an SP?

its difficult... thats why im single... i was working when i got together with my ex.. then i quit because it was so hard on him. He knows im working againg, and it probably tortures him. we are not together. i think he feels the same as you. That because we broke up i decided to re enter this industry. I think it hurts him and makes him feel responsible as well. !!! this is why im single. i dont want to hurt anyone

 

[sweetiepie1]

I felt guilty I wasn't bringing in enough money and she felt compelled she had to do that to meet all her financial obligations.

There's more to this than meets the eye. Not sure of why you felt responsible for meeting her financial obligations and why she had them and why she chose not to take other steps to meet them, but I suspect you were drawn into a bit of a mess that you're not responsible for and might not have been able to change anyway. I don't blame you for feeling sad about it, obviously you cared a lot. But don't feel responsible for it. There is a big difference.

 

[uncleg]

What is all this stupid guilt about?

SHE put herself in that financial position and YOU have every right to spend your money as you wish- especially before you even knew her!! What is this retroactive guilt bullshit? Lol you're guilty because you didn't see the future?

What the Pirate said...........sounds like you should be glad it's over. Her debts are hers and there is no reason why you should have felt obligated to pay for shit she bought before you even knew her. If she was still spending like a drunken sailor after you met because she figured she now had your pockets to pick as well, then she wasn't going to hang around anyway. As for 30 being to old to pick up girls in bars, get your head out of your ass, for me 30 was prime time to be charming the ladies. Old enough to have some financial security and maturity, young enough for it not to be creepy when picking up some 19 / 20 year old.

 

[sevenofnine]

its a tough one to be honest with you,

i don't know of any sp who is in a long term happy relationship, they all seem to struggle with relationships for whatever reason.

me personally,
i don't think i could deal with it, retired yes but not a working escort.

i work, if were that close she can move in with me and i would support her. im not rich but i live comfortable and she can or could have everything i have so, if she didn't need to escort to pay the bills, but still insisted on it,
yeah i guess i couldn't handle it.


that all being said,
i ran across a web site, of a distant family member who is an sp.
i don't really have a problem with it,
honestly i thought good for her, and it is with out going into details.

um but again, the lifestyle isn't for everyone, but for some people it just makes sense, whether your a pooner or an escort it just makes sense,
but just like everything you can abuse it and there is a down side.

to be honest with you, im glad im a pooner, the family member i know told me well her close friends and family aren't dealling with it well. and i suppose i wouldn't eitehr, but i have been in this for almost ten years now.

and to me being an sp or a john is just a label
there is a lot more to a person then she is an escort or a john,
it doesn't make them a bad person, or make them anything for that matter

 

[LADY-VIA]

i always say

im not an escort with a personality.. im a person who happens to escort.. in real life.. i could be the most calmest person you could meet. I do throw parties, however im drug free, and generally pass the time drinking tea, and watching the birds. I like peace and quiet. I came back after three years, because my first investments wasn't smart, and it was out of the country... now im looking at fort langley its kind of more like country out there. I'd love to have a horse i spent three years all over the map. My ex wasn't the best bf. Now I'm thinking about me and my family and my future.

 

[pervirgin]

Not possible until they are ready to retire from the business plan and simple. Speaking from experience do not force her to quit unless shes ready. And you must have the means to support them in a way she has become adapt. Plus you have to deal with trust issues. Once they are in the business not all but most will never trust you 100%. Think about it most clients are married or single with girlfriends. You will be placed in the same category as every other man paying for their time. No matter how loyal or faithful you are, she will never trust you.

 

[LADY-VIA]

it's men who do not trust us .. i didn't cheet on my boyfriend, but thats all he accused me of. I had to bring reciept home to prove i was where i said i was. men have a harder time trusting us.

 

[Tugela]

it's men who do not trust us .. i didn't cheet on my boyfriend, but thats all he accused me of. I had to bring reciept home to prove i was where i said i was. men have a harder time trusting us.

If you have to prove where you were the relationship is pretty much over IMO.

 

[newatit]

I have an ongoing relationship with an SP for several years now, almost five, and not sure I would call it a marriage, nor GFE, nor close type of relationship. We share a lot of secrets. But I feel close to her, it is not returned. She is honest about telling me that I am a very special friend, but it stops there over some issues. When we date it is wonderful, when we don't I wish she was with me. But she has chosen this line of business, and while she is finding it tough with the fraud she has to commit to family and friends, is quite down some days. But so be it. She will always be something special to me, but i know she will move on.

 

[87112]

I dated a ex SP, most psycho chick I ever meet, if You reading this I think youre still psycho

She wants to retire at age 27, has to have her man pay cash for a Vancouver house, spend the rest of her days as a volunteer at age 27!!, order way more fun than 2 people can eat at resturants cause its not her ass paying the bill. So guys I highly suggest date a bank teller, hair dresser, office clerk, most SPs are damaged goods in the head because of the money they have made.

 

[juniper]

But the money is easy given the amount of preparation and education required to be an SP. As with anything else, the easy money, over the long term, creates a perverted sense of reality which lasts long after the SP retires. How do I know? It's the same for other means of earning money the easy way. Few people can remain intact as a result. Actual change requires determination, an increasingly clear view and time. Many escorts (not all) are so entranced with themselves that they cannot see what the easy money has been doing to them. In fact, many would argue that it isn't "easy money" yet few, very few, could have earned this kind of money and live the kind of lifestyles they have become habituated to based on their level of skills (other than SPing), education and experience. It would be better if all people were aware of the possible debilitating effects of "easy money".