what does this mean??

[joe45]

went out with this girl i met off a dating site. we went out total of 5x's. 3 wks ago she told me i could come over to her house and have a sleepover--since her parents are staying overnight in seattle for the day(we dont have privacy in the place with live at), well 4 days came close to that date and said maybe maybe-when i phoned her if i could come over, well 1 day before and she says No.

when i told her shes just a tease for doing what she did-she said no and said she didnt want to rush into things-since she rush into a lot of things before and they never worked out.

if your going to say it then stick with it.

another thing i notice about her is she harassed me to get a phone plan(this one the 2nd date) since i was on prepaid minutes before. she said so we can talk and get to now each other better.

well when i told her i got a plan-u think she would phone more, but she doesnt. she only calls me if i call her first.

also everytime i call her she'll talk for like 3 minutes and then say oh i'll call you back. sometimes she will other times she wont and if she does its like 2hrs or even more afterwards.
she tell me to make her a apple pie, or bring some cakes so she can taste them-all this on 2nd date. lol -i work as a chef

what do you think of this??

 

[juniper]

Based on my longtime experience in these matters, it's pretty obvious that she allows you intermittent reinforcement, the worst kind, so that she keeps you around hoping to have her, remains unpredictable, but doesn't "deliver", so to speak. I know you won't desist because you already appear to be "hooked" but this girl will make you eat your heart out, continue to humiliate you and, as a result, your self-esteem will wilt and probably drive you into depression. The one way to alter the balance is for you to pay her no mind. She'll start calling and, if you respond in a disinterested way, she'll be the one who "stalks" you. At any rate, this is going to continue to be an unhappy relationship for you, the handwriting's on the wall. It's easy to tell you to get out now before you pay an even higher emotional price. I don't suppose you'll do it.

 

[johnperb]

Shes playing games on you. She has you wrapped around her finger enough for you to buy a phone plan after 2 dates? Man suck this one up as a loss and break it off.

The lesson to learn from this one is never conform for a girl that you barely know and don't let them make any of the decisions except for little stuff like what seats you sit in the theatre at.

 

[johnperb]

went out with this girl i met off a dating site. we went out total of 5x's. 3 wks ago she told me i could come over to her house and have a sleepover--since her parents are staying overnight in seattle for the day(we dont have privacy in the place with live at), well 4 days came close to that date and said maybe maybe-when i phoned her if i could come over, well 1 day before and she says No.

When she said maybe to you thats because she didn't want to say no. Its because she found something or someone better to do. Shes using you as a backup plan, any girl that is really interested in you wouldn't say maybe. Next time a girl says maybe tell her "yes or no", and say "its no than, I'm too busy for maybe" Don't let her run your life man.

when i told her shes just a tease for doing what she did-she said no and said she didnt want to rush into things-since she rush into a lot of things before and they never worked out.

Shes saying that you don't look good enough to be a "omg i must fuck you" your only a average guy to her

if your going to say it then stick with it.

another thing i notice about her is she harassed me to get a phone plan(this one the 2nd date) since i was on prepaid minutes before. she said so we can talk and get to now each other better.

You actually let her control you like that? Dude grow some balls. She knows she has control over you now.

well when i told her i got a plan-u think she would phone more, but she doesnt. she only calls me if i call her first.

Shes making you play the game or she isn't interested enough in you to make the call

also everytime i call her she'll talk for like 3 minutes and then say oh i'll call you back. sometimes she will other times she wont and if she does its like 2hrs or even more afterwards.
she tell me to make her a apple pie, or bring some cakes so she can taste them-all this on 2nd date. lol -i work as a chef

Tell her your to busy for that shit, tell her to invite you over and for HER to cook dinner and that you'll bring a homemade desert(non-sexual innuendo)

what do you think of this??

bold is what I think

 

[HeMadeMeDoIt]

Grow a pair and tell her to go fuck herself!

 

[bcneil]

went out with this girl i met off a dating site. we went out total of 5x's. 3 wks ago she told me i could come over to her house and have a sleepover--since her parents are staying overnight in seattle for the day(we dont have privacy in the place with live at), well 4 days came close to that date and said maybe maybe-when i phoned her if i could come over, well 1 day before and she says No.

when i told her shes just a tease for doing what she did-she said no and said she didnt want to rush into things-since she rush into a lot of things before and they never worked out.

if your going to say it then stick with it.

another thing i notice about her is she harassed me to get a phone plan(this one the 2nd date) since i was on prepaid minutes before. she said so we can talk and get to now each other better.

well when i told her i got a plan-u think she would phone more, but she doesnt. she only calls me if i call her first.

also everytime i call her she'll talk for like 3 minutes and then say oh i'll call you back. sometimes she will other times she wont and if she does its like 2hrs or even more afterwards.
she tell me to make her a apple pie, or bring some cakes so she can taste them-all this on 2nd date. lol -i work as a chef

what do you think of this??

um....... if this is the worst thing that has evern happened to you in your dating life. You are either very very young, or never dated much.

I'd say she isn't into you, she might have been for the first couple dates, but has lost interest since.

I'd take a guess that the first couple dates you were really "pushy" sexually, she wasn't ready.
So she told you about the perfect night where her parents were away, so she could push it into the future.
Now she has decided, nope I don't like him.

 

[storm rider]

All I can say...from my experience in life thus far.Is that a woman/all women decide in the first five minutes of meeting you if you are "sponge worthy" (Seinfeld) and that is it......if the sparks are not there then it is not going to happen.Guys play women and women play guys....both are guilty of stringing the other sex along.That same type of thing spills over into this pastime in the form of YMMV...in that the gal WILL have sex with you for money....BUT.....you wont get the same attention/service from her that she gives to a guy that she finds attractive who is paying her the same rate.....it does suck yes....but it does happen.If I were in your position I would cut her loose and move on.

SR

 

[athaire]

I'd just quietly go away man. Don't tell her to go fuck off, just quietly stop calling and say you're not interested. Don't clutter your life with people like that (they come in both the female and male varieties too)

Great advice.....though I wouldn't even bother telling her you're not interested, just leave it hanging. Move on to someone that actually wants to be with you. No need to fool around with nonsense like this.....

 

[Krustee]

The rest of these peeps don't know what they're talking about there Joe so wipe off their white wash & follow my prescription for redemption.

It's quite simple really, she is givin ya the shine so that's fine just add some polish of your own!

When the bitches get all high on themselves sometimes it helps to give em a reality check.

So here's what ya do there Dexter!

1. Go to the grocery store & buy some fresh veggies like you normally would except some tomatoes (5 of em) & a head of cabbage that you will set aside & not eat.
   
2. When you you go to check out make sure you get at least one of the bags in paper.
   
3. Go home & set the 5 tomatoes & cabbage aside on the back porch or balcony or wherever outside.
   
4. Leave the tomatoes & cabbage out there for at least 4-5 days.
   
5. Once the cabbage & tomatoes have sweltered in the sun for that long take em & cut em up & throw it in a bowl.
6. Then add some dog food & mix it together with the veggies & feed it to your dog for the next 2-3 days.
   
7. Whenever your dog goes out for a nature call make sure you collect that crap & put in in a plastic bag.
9. Once you have about 3 pounds of the dogs droppings take them some lighter fluid & the paper bag & go over to your soon to be ex-girlfriends house.
   
10. Put the dog doo in the paper sack pour the lighter fluid all over the bag then light it on fire.
    
11. Ring the door bell & RUN!!!

If the parents answer the door come back on another night when you are sure she will answer.

If you do not have a dog ...
you will have to eat the tomatoes & cabbage then follow steps 7 - 10.


Let me know how that works out for ya!

 

[massageobsessed]

went out with this girl i met off a dating site. we went out total of 5x's. 3 wks ago she told me i could come over to her house and have a sleepover--since her parents are staying overnight in seattle for the day(we dont have privacy in the place with live at), well 4 days came close to that date and said maybe maybe-when i phoned her if i could come over, well 1 day before and she says No.

when i told her shes just a tease for doing what she did-she said no and said she didnt want to rush into things-since she rush into a lot of things before and they never worked out.

if your going to say it then stick with it.

another thing i notice about her is she harassed me to get a phone plan(this one the 2nd date) since i was on prepaid minutes before. she said so we can talk and get to now each other better.

well when i told her i got a plan-u think she would phone more, but she doesnt. she only calls me if i call her first.

also everytime i call her she'll talk for like 3 minutes and then say oh i'll call you back. sometimes she will other times she wont and if she does its like 2hrs or even more afterwards.
she tell me to make her a apple pie, or bring some cakes so she can taste them-all this on 2nd date. lol -i work as a chef

what do you think of this??

Just be clear what you want from this and any other relationship you may have in life. There is too little time and too many gals to get jerked about like this. My advice is to move on, she's just not that into you.

If you do end up bangin' her a$$, then you owe the rest of us guys a review, then PM her number.

 

[streetskid]

what does this mean, joe45? it means you need to grow some balls. also, be kind and bring me some cake too ok?

 

[Moderator-1]

Do we need to close this thread?

Pretty much everybody has come out with unanimous advice. Give the OP a chance to respond.

In general there have been too many food comments and jokes coming from Edmonton. Only about 10% of them are funny. The other 90% of you - know who you are.

Mod recommendation: get a life or go try your humour on twitter!

 

[tontos]

10 votes for krustee. the man with a great dry sense of humour!!!

 

[Juicer]

What's her review? L/A/S?

 

[Stadley]

www.idump4u.com ... Just do It!!!

 

[zeineguy]

I would say it is time for you do play hard to get. call her up and set up a date with her.. something you know she wants to go to.. like a concert or movie.. and then that day.. txt her or call her and say sorry... you have to cancel. and then leave it at that.. if she gets back to you.. set up another date.. go out with her on it and start talking about the dating site you met on... and how many girls you have connected with. if she wants you.. she will put out... and if not then just laugh away..

 

[FloridaGuy]

Well I will be the voice of dissent here. Its pretty clear you are both young. I don't think any of what she's "doing" is all that far out in left field for a young girl (under 25) who still lives at home and is still in the party girl stage of her life. You are one of her options for entertainment. It sounds as though you would prefer that you were her only option. Unfortunately for you that is not the case. You are only one very very very small element in the life of a girl who appears to have a lot of other social opportunities.

So.....lay off it a bit. You need to scale down your expectations for the relationship. Although you are looking for an SO, she does not appear to be doing so. So, if you like her or even if you just want to fuck her and be done with it, you are going to have to ease off. Mentally, accept that she is not going to make a commitment to her. Practically, let her know you want to see her sometime, and when you do see her, just do fun things with her. Show her that you aren't some headcase who wants to marry her after 5 dates and some phone calls. She told you outright.....she wants to take some time to get to know you better. My guess is that you sent some signals saying that you want a commitment, and that turned her off. Show her that you are just in this for fun, and you may have a shot at a) nailing her if that's all you want now or b) dating her enough more times that you can make a positive impression on her and actually convince her that you are worth a commitment.

Either way, slow the fuck down.