What do you do when....

[CalgarysGirl]

A "client" wants more and won't leave you alone about it?
By this I mean a relationship and there was even talk of marriage...

He's one of the very first people I started seeing as an SP, he's really sweet and nice and super generous...
But that's not what I want right now!
I've tried telling him this, but its strange he acts like I'm kidding and laughs it off! Then starts talking about it again...

SP's: Have you ever had this happen to you? And if so what did you do?


Should I stop seeing him?

Tell me what you think...

 

[Rockman59]

Run...run away...run silent, run deep...run like the wind. Guy is a kook and, if he's ignoring you, on the way to becoming a genuine stalker. This is a fun game, but there are rules.

 

[CalgarysGirl]

I never really thought of it that way... But yeah he does kinda act like a stalker! Uh oh!!

 

[Rockman59]

Just trying to help.

 

[Stone]

I have to agree with Rockman, this is one of the classic signs of a stalker. I mean no disrespect to the gentleman in question, I don't know him as well as you do. Next time this comes up make your position Crystal Clear, let him know you aren't comfortable with this kind of talk. If he persists break off contact all together.
However be careful how you do it. Maybe finish that session and never be avalible for another. Look out for the Dr Jekyl/Mr Hyde to show itself.

Safety in all things,

Stone

 

[SlimShady]

Just marry me will you. I love you. Why don't you love me.













Ok. Just kidding but I do agree with Rockman59. RUN!

 

[Amor de Cosmos]

And that ties in nicely with dufferin's recent Lounge thread about "what comes after GFE?" Both SP and client need to be clear about the boundaries. Several SPs here have mentioned getting marriage proposals from guys they hardly know, and it helps to see it in a humorous light. If he's a decent guy, he'll cool off and come to his senses soon enough without any extra action required on your part.

 

[walrus]

Run RUn RUN.

It should never ever take a second splash of cold water from you for him to recognize reality. Where is his respect for you or for your boundaries. I believe that no SP should ever see a client who does not show respect and appreciation.

I have heard too many storries here on PERB and directly from the ladies about stalking. None of them made the ladies feel good.

 

[CalgarysGirl]

Thanx everyone for all your advice here and through your PM's

I kind of knew what I had to do, but having that "push" in the right direction makes me feel better about it.

I'm going to stop seeing him all together, that seems to be the best way to end this.

Even though this would've be a fun way (for me) of ending things:

"* Start giving crappier service to him. Start talking about groceries or something while you're doing the deed. "

I just don't think he'd get the hint, he'd probably ask if I wanted him to go with me! So I think ending all contact would be best!

Thank you again everyone!

 

[Shortie]

Why not tell him you're already involved. Cutting off cash flow for a good customer is not the answer, nor is crappy service.

Put it in his hands to decide - you can still see him professionally, but you're with someone else on a personal level. In fact - next session you book - get a guy friend over to pose as your significant other. When your client arrives, have your fake boyfriend at the door when you greet the other and kiss him goodbye. Your client should get the hint!

That should be enough - if not, a restraining order is fairly easy to issue.

 

[Phoenix]

Cutting off a little cash flow IS the answer if her personal safety is involved.
Stone & Grendleaxe make very good points. You have to walk gently and as far away as possible and as discreetly as possible.
A restraining order is good for jack shit and you don't even want it to get that far.

 

[BS Detector]

HAHA...I can see it now...

have your fake boyfriend at the door when you greet the other and kiss him goodbye.

Everyone here will wanna be the "fake" boyfriend (myself included) and want to get a goodbye kiss from this lovely lady. Once she kisses him, She will have the same problem all over again but now with BOTH of them (if the first one doesn't get the hint).

I must admit, I have gotten to REALLY like a few of the ladies I have seen over the years and I sure hope none of them ever thought of me as stalking them.