what do you believe in what makes you happy

[sevenofnine]

i think this topic has been out there before,
but you know there was something in a thread awhile back that got my thinking
it was about feel good sentiments in life or sayings
and one was
when its all over and done the only thing that matters is that you have loved.

not that you have been loved but you have loved

and you know,
i had a rough child hood it messed me up, pretty fuckng good, aand a few people on this board think im rather dysfunctional
but oh well.

but you know i was searching for all my life for some one to love me, it was important to me to be loved and have friends and all of that.

but you know, its backwards.\\

its important to love and care and have friends with out and desire for anything in return
i can't control what some one else thinks and feels.
i can only control and be responsible for me
and you know i get the greastest pleasure in my life,\
by making some one else happy,

its funny but we need to be loved because were afraid insecure,\
but caring loving some one requires nothing
except that were at peace with oneself

i think i have understood that all my life, but never really had the courage to well put it into action, i was to insecure with my self i wanted needed to be loved, instead of giving it

 

[Robert Upndown]

Crash Davis summed it for me
"I believe in the soul, the cock, the pussy, the small of a woman's back, the hanging curve ball, high fiber, good scotch, that the novels of Susan Sontag are self-indulgent, overrated crap. I believe Lee Harvey Oswald acted alone. I believe there ought to be a constitutional amendment outlawing Astroturf and the designated hitter. I believe in the sweet spot, soft-core pornography, opening your presents Christmas morning rather than Christmas Eve and I believe in long, slow, deep, soft, wet kisses that last three days."

 

[Flanders]

SoN, Love needs to start with yourself. If you don't love yourself, you will be looking for it in others, either giving it or seeking it, and you will continue to be dysfunctional.

There is a huge difference between isolation and solitude. People who feel isolated and lonely generally do not love themselves, and seek it from others. Solitude=peace and contentment when alone; not relyong on others to "complete me" I like people in my life, but they are icing on the cake. I am complete and whole on my own. And much happier once I figured that out.

Gotta love yourself man. It's the longest relationship you will ever have...

 

[tokugawa]

SoN, Love needs to start with yourself. If you don't love yourself, you will be looking for it in others, either giving it or seeking it, and you will continue to be dysfunctional.

There is a huge difference between isolation and solitude. People who feel isolated and lonely generally do not love themselves, and seek it from others. Solitude=peace and contentment when alone; not relyong on others to "complete me" I like people in my life, but they are icing on the cake. I am complete and whole on my own. And much happier once I figured that out.

Gotta love yourself man. It's the longest relationship you will ever have...

Well said!

 

[Ms. Yoko Anna]

SoN, Love needs to start with yourself. If you don't love yourself, you will be looking for it in others, either giving it or seeking it, and you will continue to be dysfunctional.

There is a huge difference between isolation and solitude. People who feel isolated and lonely generally do not love themselves, and seek it from others. Solitude=peace and contentment when alone; not relyong on others to "complete me" I like people in my life, but they are icing on the cake. I am complete and whole on my own. And much happier once I figured that out.

Gotta love yourself man. It's the longest relationship you will ever have...

I don't know, Flanders.
I think one needs to be loved first to love yourself.
It is so freaking hard to accept who you are and love yourself when no one has showed you how first.

I love myself.
I love this small figure, small breast, big forehead and big head.
I went through insecure moments when I was younger, but as I get older and experienced love from family, friends and lovers, I started thinking I'm not that bad after all.
Now, I love myself including a few aspects in me that needs to be faced and rethought.

I personally think one needs to be charged with love.
You are one empty pool that needs to be filled. My pool is overflowed with love, and I have to give a lot away to other people to balance out myself.

Love and compassion is nurtured, I think.
You have to be taught to do so.

Now, I'm very fortunate that I have family and friends who love me.
You guys adore me and gives me warm feeling.
I really don't know if you have unfortunate life condition that you cannot find anyone to spair love and compassion.
Religion may be there for you (although religion even seems to be selective).

I always hope when I deal with people with compassion, the person will spair the compassion with others and cause some butterfly effect. And I hope the chain reaction will reach those who needs compassion and love the most at one point.

 

[Dgodus]

I don't know, Flanders.
I think one needs to be loved first to love yourself.
It is so freaking hard to accept who you are and love yourself when no one has showed you how first.

I love myself.
I love this small figure, small breast, big forehead and big head.
I went through insecure moments when I was younger, but as I get older and experienced love from family, friends and lovers, I started thinking I'm not that bad after all.
Now, I love myself including a few aspects in me that needs to be faced and rethought.

I personally think one needs to be charged with love.
You are one empty pool that needs to be filled. My pool is overflowed with love, and I have to give a lot away to other people to balance out myself.

Love and compassion is nurtured, I think.
You have to be taught to do so.

Now, I'm very fortunate that I have family and friends who love me.
You guys adore me and gives me warm feeling.
I really don't know if you have unfortunate life condition that you cannot find anyone to spair love and compassion.
Religion may be there for you (although religion even seems to be selective).

I always hope when I deal with people with compassion, the person will spair the compassion with others and cause some butterfly effect. And I hope the chain reaction will reach those who needs compassion and love the most at one point.

There is no one size fits all method. Some people need to get there on their own first, some need alot of help and others may even mix and match the two to varying degrees. It really is like nearly everything in life and boils down to people are different from one another.

Good for you for finding what has gotten you far in good spirits. It is always good to see genuinely happy people spreading the wealth so to speak.

 

[lenny]

Crash Davis summed it for me
"I believe in the soul, the cock, the pussy, the small of a woman's back, the hanging curve ball, high fiber, good scotch, that the novels of Susan Sontag are self-indulgent, overrated crap. I believe Lee Harvey Oswald acted alone. I believe there ought to be a constitutional amendment outlawing Astroturf and the designated hitter. I believe in the sweet spot, soft-core pornography, opening your presents Christmas morning rather than Christmas Eve and I believe in long, slow, deep, soft, wet kisses that last three days."

I believe "It is death who should be afraid of us" (Clash of the Titans).

And it is my intention to put the fear of lenny into God.

 

[luvsdaty]

Yup, forgive yourself, love yourself,respect yourself.Until you can do that,chasing love is just spinning your wheels bro.

 

[myselftheother]

Yup, forgive yourself, love yourself,respect yourself.Until you can do that,chasing love is just spinning your wheels bro.

Yep. Exactly.

 

[the old maxx50]

Happiness ?

Laying by the lake , a naked women beside you ,, The warm morning breeze and the rising sun reflecting in the still water.
An eagle swoops down to catch a fish .
I lean over and kiss the one i love .. At that moment there are no other cars in the world but our love for each other..

Love your self , Love others unconditionally .. But with out being loved by others you will never truly be happy .

 

[sevenofnine]

interesting comments from people you have to love yourself

a few years back i met an sp for drinks, never saw her professionally ok


her comment was if you love your self you don't sell your self

and i guess for me everything in this has a counter part.

i mean if you love your self well you don't sell yourself
well if you love your self then you don't buy some one either,


in many ways its all twisting of words and perception,
the comment that im dysfuncional, well if you know me the only thing i have done that is dysfunctional
is pay for an escort
im this squeakey clean guy

so i kind of just laugh and wonder

but like i said,
most of my life i wondered why doesn't any one love me, or judged them by there actions, of not loving me,
but people get messed up, and well love different ways, and show it different ways.

now i guess, it doesn't matter i enjoy just feeling and caring and putting a smile on some ones face,
whether a stranger or some one close to me,
that is what gives me happiness and sort of an inner peace

 

[Dgodus]

When it comes to giving love do not forget that you don't have to specifically love a person. A pet can be love or an inanimate object. An artist loves his/her medium and what they create. So to a master craftsman. Im also certain activities can receive love as well (think athletes like Jerry Rice who devoted so much to being the best, can you not say he Loved football?). When you think of love in a broader context of devotion to a purpose I'm sure you'll find nearly the same rewards from focusing on another human. In all senses the need for love/loving can be fulfilled nearly anywheres provided the intentions are pure without selfishness or exploitative nature. Perhaps through that you can find confidence and happiness to progress to more complicated situations of love ie with another human as building a cabinet is a controllable situation with stages which are clearer and better defined; whereas the lines of loving a human can become vague and hazy with changing situations (aka alot more difficult to read). Just a thought.

 

[luvsdaty]

Once you come to realize that you are essentially alone in the universe and everything and everyone in it is just a bonus rather than a priviledge or a fullfilment of expectation, things become that much brighter.

Fulfill your own passions, dreams and goals first and if your cup overfloweth* then give that to someone else. Otherwise you become a drain on others and them to you.



*Man how ridiculously dramatic and prophetic is that bit of prose? I sound like Moses popping down from the mountain or something with God's proclamation. Its true though I tellz ya.
But with all that being said, always ho's before prose.

When it comes to giving love do not forget that you don't have to specifically love a person. A pet can be love or an inanimate object. An artist loves his/her medium and what they create. So to a master craftsman. Im also certain activities can receive love as well (think athletes like Jerry Rice who devoted so much to being the best, can you not say he Loved football?). When you think of love in a broader context of devotion to a purpose I'm sure you'll find nearly the same rewards from focusing on another human. In all senses the need for love/loving can be fulfilled nearly anywheres provided the intentions are pure without selfishness or exploitative nature. Perhaps through that you can find confidence and happiness to progress to more complicated situations of love ie with another human as building a cabinet is a controllable situation with stages which are clearer and better defined; whereas the lines of loving a human can become vague and hazy with changing situations (aka alot more difficult to read). Just a thought.

Words well said, i love carving,i'm a commercial fisherman & i can't wait to get out every year.I'm a tradesman,i enjoy it when it's challenging but it bores me to tears when i'm doing the maintenance part of it.
I love a challenge,i like it when somebody tells me i can't do it......Unconditional love? dogs give you that, i use to think humans did, now not so much.