What can we afford

[goarmy.com]

Ok, call me on this

Normal guys over 50, love to poon, what can we afford.

I have added comments on another thread, same deal.

I was looking for input on after tax donations.

Am i wrong on saying that hey ladies, we cannot afford our after tax dollars at this time to go past the affordabilty rate of 100 for the hour.

Maybe for the young bucks who have lots of after tax dough, however i am speaking for the lads my age 50 plus, that need the extra time to relax, who find that 100 is 5 hours of work after taxes.

Ok gentlemen, now is your time for input.

next....

 

[FortunateOne]

Then compromise. Don't ask for, expect or demand an hour for 100 if what you are asking for is fs. Compromise. If you cannot afford the rates for fs, find out what she offers that you can afford. When you want to go cheap, for 100 even a micro isn't going to give you an hour, so at least be reasonable. After all for every potential client who wants a lower rate for more service, there are 2 guys who will lower their expectations for the same amount (hh, or r&t instead) and another 2 guys who pay full price.

 

[JohnnyBlue]

Then compromise. Don't ask for, expect or demand an hour for 100 if what you are asking for is fs. Compromise. If you cannot afford the rates for fs, find out what she offers that you can afford. When you want to go cheap, for 100 even a micro isn't going to give you an hour, so at least be reasonable. After all for every potential client who wants a lower rate for more service, there are 2 guys who will lower their expectations for the same amount (hh, or r&t instead) and another 2 guys who pay full price.

Exactly. I don't know any girls that would give $100 for an hour.

 

[melissa.in.abby]

Maybe for the young bucks who have lots of after tax dough, however i am speaking for the lads my age 50 plus, that need the extra time to relax, who find that 100 is 5 hours of work after taxes.

Hey, I have a good idea - a date, girlfriend, friend with benefits

 

[big_bear]

I heard there's one AMP in Surrey
that offers $80 to $100..FS

 

[melissa.in.abby]

Right now I have had a cancellation so if anyone can get to me in gastown asap - 20 minutes bbbj, fs etc for $100

 

[FortunateOne]

I heard there's one AMP in Surrey
that offers $80 to $100..FS

I doubt if this is what he is talking about since he is specifically saying 100 and specifically saying -- an hour. I think he already knows there are fs options for 100, and non-fs options for 100, but to me it sounds like he thinks he is going to get an hour for 100 for fs. It seems like a lot of wasted energy trying to hook that up. Even SWs aren't going to do an hour in the car for 100.

 

[lenny]

If he puts in the time & effort he should be able to find providers
that give 1 full hour for $100 with FS & lots more. Certainly $120
for the single hour is out there, and with little effort i found two
ladies willing to give me 2 hours sessions for $200.

As far as a GF w or w/o benefits is concerned, or a fuck buddy,
i question whether it is necessary to shell out for the dinner and
a movie tradition. If women want to be equal, let them pay ;
It will, however, probably require more effort than a $100/hr SP,
both in time and energy invested.

 

[high-end hottie]

You know, I've seen several comments like this on perb in the past, and they have always puzzled me. I wonder if it's a generation thing (I'm 22), because I have never had a boyfriend who paid for my expenses on dates. It has always been 50/50.

I think it's partly generational, but you'd have to go back quite a bit (maybe 1960's or earlier?). I think it has more to do with the personality of the female. There will always be the "I expect to be treated like a princess" women who expect the man to pay for everything, and there are also women who prefer being treated as equals--including covering expenses. When dating I liked to alternate (you pay this time, my treat next time) instead of both people pulling out their wallets and splitting the bill each time. It would make sense to consider the income of each person and do what was fair accordingly.

And as far as cost goes, it depends what you're looking for I guess. The old adage "I can't afford to buy cheap" makes a lot of sense these days, i.e., there's more value in quality even it costs more initially. No one wants to feel he's wasted his money on a negative experience.

 

[wilde]

When dating I liked to alternate (you pay this time, my treat next time) instead of both people pulling out their wallets and splitting the bill each time. It would make sense to consider the income of each person and do what was fair accordingly.

So you pay for McDonalds and he pays for Joe Forte or something like that, right? Yeah that sounds fair.

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[JFF009]

Ok, call me on this

Normal guys over 50, love to poon, what can we afford.

Am i wrong on saying that hey ladies, we cannot afford our after tax dollars at this time to go past the affordabilty rate of 100 for the hour.

Maybe for the young bucks who have lots of after tax dough, however i am speaking for the lads my age 50 plus

Sorry, but I am almost in this age range and I am a little puzzled by this.

I would think anyone in this age bracket has enough sense to realize people can charge what they want for whatever services they are selling and as consumers we can choose to either buy or move on.

I think your choice is fairly simple...if you can't afford to pay what is being asked then it is time for a new hobby.

BTW...there are SP's out there that charge $100 for an hour...good luck with that.

 

[Sly Devil]

Ok, call me on this

Normal guys over 50, love to poon, what can we afford.

I have added comments on another thread, same deal.

I was looking for input on after tax donations.

Am i wrong on saying that hey ladies, we cannot afford our after tax dollars at this time to go past the affordabilty rate of 100 for the hour.

Maybe for the young bucks who have lots of after tax dough, however i am speaking for the lads my age 50 plus, that need the extra time to relax, who find that 100 is 5 hours of work after taxes.

Ok gentlemen, now is your time for input.

next....

I would love to travel all the time...but can only do it once in a while.

Save your pennies, collect your bottles, sell your car to reduce your expenses and bicycle for transportation. If you want to play in this game, you will need to compromise your lifestyle because that's what it takes when you are on a BUDGET.

Sly

 

[JFF009]

What you can get for what I believe or think your asking, you'll get with the east end street gals.
Wont happen on here.

Or in some cases Richmond based CL ads...

 

[high-end hottie]

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So you pay for McDonalds and he pays for Joe Forte or something like that, right? Yeah that sounds fair.

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Huh? That's a strange interpretation of what I said.
I was saying that some women like to pay equally when dating if incomes for each party are similar. So why would you think I (or the type of women I was talking about) would only pay for cheap places and expect the man to pay for expensive ones? That sounds more like the opposite type of scenario I was referring to (the "treat me like a princess" types).
But if you want to think ALL women are exactly the same, i.e., greedy, sneaky bitches, fine by me.

 

[wilde]

Sadly our younger generation has no comprehension of the art of sarcasm, but I thought they would at least understand what means (sigh).

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[melissa.in.abby]

Sadly our younger generation has no comprehension of the art of sarcasm, but I thought they would at least understand what means (sigh).

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I thought what you said was rude to

 

[wilde]

I thought what you said was rude to

Thank you very much for proving my point.

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[nd1]

Now That I Am from "Another Generation", I Feel Old...

I think it's partly generational, but you'd have to go back quite a bit (maybe 1960's or earlier?). I think it has more to do with the personality of the female. There will always be the "I expect to be treated like a princess" women who expect the man to pay for everything, and there are also women who prefer being treated as equals--including covering expenses.

It's both generational and cultural. And you don't have to go back THAT far...

Although no Prince Charming by any means, I do treat all my dates like princesses. I was simply brought up to do that. As such, what causes puzzlement in me is exactly this "preference to be equal" -- I thought I was treating my dates preferentially, only to be perceived as treating them as non-equal, and not in a positive way at that. Womyn's Lib having brought many good progress, I am not so sure about just this one.

On the other hand, Womyn's Lib or not, smart ladies (and dates) are always those who, even when they are treated like princesses, do not come to EXPECT it or take it for granted. They are the ones who, after gracefully and graciously accepting all that pampering from their men, would reciprocate with favours once in a while. They just cannot imagine how big an impression that leaves on us.

So, Ms. Holly Taylor, if your dates have been spliting the checks with you, you are hanging with the wrong crowd...

When dating I liked to alternate (you pay this time, my treat next time) instead of both people pulling out their wallets and splitting the bill each time. It would make sense to consider the income of each person and do what was fair accordingly.

The principle of "fairness" only goes into effect the morning AFTER the wedding. In the dating stage, I believe we guys are at the complete mercy of the fairer sex.

The income/wealth disparity is a tough one, however. If all I can afford is McDee and my date has Joe Forte on her speed dial, I probably am due for a reality check and re-arrangement of priorites, not to mention finding a second or third job. All that notwithstanding, if she has one too many cheeseburger or bag of fries and wants to treat us both to some shucked oysters and caviar, I can go along with it. After all, that means I get to spend yet another couple of hours with her, which is the whole point of dating, isn't it?

And as far as cost goes, it depends what you're looking for I guess. The old adage "I can't afford to buy cheap" makes a lot of sense these days, i.e., there's more value in quality even it costs more initially. No one wants to feel he's wasted his money on a negative experience.

I too am finding that to be true. Nevertheless, not all that glitters is gold -- high price does not necessarily indicate quality -- and one must be very discerning to find those value in quality. When something (or someone) really IS hot, then, and only then, it is more than worth one's while even though it might be on the "high-end".

 

[high-end hottie]

some good points nd1

It's both generational and cultural. And you don't have to go back THAT far...

Although no Prince Charming by any means, I do treat all my dates like princesses. I was simply brought up to do that. As such, what causes puzzlement in me is exactly this "preference to be equal" -- I thought I was treating my dates preferentially, only to be perceived as treating them as non-equal, and not in a positive way at that. Womyn's Lib having brought many good progress, I am not so sure about just this one.

On the other hand, Womyn's Lib or not, smart ladies (and dates) are always those who, even when they are treated like princesses, do not come to EXPECT it or take it for granted. They are the ones who, after gracefully and graciously accepting all that pampering from their men, would reciprocate with favours once in a while. They just cannot imagine how big an impression that leaves on us.

So, Ms. Holly Taylor, if your dates have been spliting the checks with you, you are hanging with the wrong crowd...



The principle of "fairness" only goes into effect the morning AFTER the wedding. In the dating stage, I believe we guys are at the complete mercy of the fairer sex.

The income/wealth disparity is a tough one, however. If all I can afford is McDee and my date has Joe Forte on her speed dial, I probably am due for a reality check and re-arrangement of priorites, not to mention finding a second or third job. All that notwithstanding, if she has one too many cheeseburger or bag of fries and wants to treat us both to some shucked oysters and caviar, I can go along with it. After all, that means I get to spend yet another couple of hours with her, which is the whole point of dating, isn't it?



I too am finding that to be true. Nevertheless, not all that glitters is gold -- high price does not necessarily indicate quality -- and one must be very discerning to find those value in quality. When something (or someone) really IS hot, then, and only then, it is more than worth one's while even though it might be on the "high-end".

Very good points, nd1. And yes, you do treat ladies very well, and it is very much appreciated. I hope you are treated as well by them in return.

 

[wilde]

I too am finding that to be true. Nevertheless, not all that glitters is gold -- high price does not necessarily indicate quality -- and one must be very discerning to find those value in quality. When something (or someone) really IS hot, then, and only then, it is more than worth one's while even though it might be on the "high-end".

Excellent point nd1. I was shopping for some home appliances last week. There was a young couple there who were arguing bitterly about one refrigerator over another. The refrigerators looked pretty similar to me. Partner A (I want to leave gender out of this), list all of the perceived advantage of refrigerator 1 over refrigerator 2. Partner B simply cut Partner A off mid-sentence and stated as a matter of fact that refrigerator 2 was better simply because it was more expensive.

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