What advice would an SP give to a lady thinking about entering the industry?

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PlayfulAlex

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As often happens in this forum, the original point/question has somewhat been lost. I think the link shared by Susi was one of the best pieces of advice given, though.

So what advice would I give to a lady thinking about entering the industry? I will preface this by stating that I invited a friend from CA to join me here. I offered to show her the ropes. She was between jobs during a slow time in her industry and she needed to find a financial solution. She loved it, it worked for her, and she made enough money to rent her own apartment here, pay her bills back home, travel home twice, and send money home to her family.

Here's the advice I gave to her, and I found that most of it comes naturally, if you're a fit for this type of work:

Be really nice, your visitors are normal people.
Advertise to the type of individuals that you want to attract. Be honest in your advertising.
Be good on the phone; learn some sales skills, so you can close on getting the appointment.
Be impeccable in the cleanliness of your place and yourself; be prepared; be well-stocked with the important things related to love-making and entertaining.
Remember that you're a hostess; treat every visitor special, even if you have to use your best acting skills.
Smile a lot, be gracious, kind, forgiving, understanding. Work on your observation and listening skills.
Watch the clock, and graciously figure out a routine, so you will finish on time, like any professional would.
Buy a few sexy pieces, and add to your inventory slowly, as you can afford it.
Hold onto your money, because a lot of visitors can quickly be followed by a shortage of visitors.
Be super private in your space, your hallways, on the intercom. Don't give anyone a reason to be suspicious about your activities. Have safety measures in place.
Develop good boundaries, so you can be gracious, but still get the job done.
If you're not having any fun, quit. If you don't look forward to your phone ringing, quit. if you're sick of doing laundry, quit.
Otherwise, you may just have hit pay dirt and found the best job in the world.
 

vanperb

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Be prepared to make one huge sacrifice: your own private intimate relationships. It's very difficult for an sp to maintain a relationship with a man. Some guys can't handle it at all, & others who can handle it at first it usually eventually wears on them to the point where you have to make a choice him or your career.

Even in an open relationship ...it's a lot of work to maintain. And only a certain breed can handle them.
The Ethical Slut & Opening Up are 2 good books on open relationships.

To avoid complications altogether it's best to remain single, but it can and probably will get lonely.
This is something I cannot emphasize enough because

1. It effects someone other than you.
2. Everyone is hungry.

You start something that would basically be broken to begin with. If you have a real chance at love, make the decision to which one you want: escorting or love. You rarely rarely rarely have both. It's selfish, bordering on evil when you know the time you spend with that special someone is wasted time and can never really go anywhere, while they're trying to build a life with you.

You can always return to escorting, that special someone on the other hand...
 
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Cami Parker

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This, this so much this!!
In my previous post I discussed only the cons because if you can't handle the cons the pros aren't worth it. Sure, at times you may feel burned out, like any job, so you can take a trip or break. The only way you really get disillusioned ( or awakened ) is with the realities of the world and sex. It can be confusing as a 22 year old to realize most men see prostitutes even when you are bearing the benefit. And that it's actually really good men that see prostitutes not just seedy dudes. And even more shocking is when at first you find out a number of guys you know see prostitutes because they don't realize they are talking to "you".

I kind of take offence to say that we are all disillusioned and unintelligent. Some of us really like this choice and making people feel great, and less stressed and happy. The positivity we create in a session can be really uplifting and energizing for our own selves as well. There is definitely a learning curve but one your on the other side of it this business can be great fun and the relationships you build very rewarding.

As for girls shouldn't talk on a review board, my opinion as someone who values equality and wishes to spend my precious time on earth with people with like minded values, good riddance to those guys. The world is full of great people why waste your time with guys who hate everything about you but your vagina. Fuck em, well actually don't ;) Money isn't worth spending time with these haters. Spend your time with the lovers of life and women, the guys who want to empower you and create positive experiences together. Appreciate and enjoy the clients who would rather spend time raising each other up and don't lose sleep over a couple men who will never value you because you gave your sex worker opinion on a board about sex workers.

Your success will never be affected by a few dudes who never gave a shit about you in the first place... I promise :thumb:
 

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As often happens in this forum, the original point/question has somewhat been lost. I think the link shared by Susi was one of the best pieces of advice given, though.

So what advice would I give to a lady thinking about entering the industry? I will preface this by stating that I invited a friend from CA to join me here. I offered to show her the ropes. She was between jobs during a slow time in her industry and she needed to find a financial solution. She loved it, it worked for her, and she made enough money to rent her own apartment here, pay her bills back home, travel home twice, and send money home to her family.

Here's the advice I gave to her, and I found that most of it comes naturally, if you're a fit for this type of work:

Be really nice, your visitors are normal people.
Advertise to the type of individuals that you want to attract. Be honest in your advertising.
Be good on the phone; learn some sales skills, so you can close on getting the appointment.
Be impeccable in the cleanliness of your place and yourself; be prepared; be well-stocked with the important things related to love-making and entertaining.
Remember that you're a hostess; treat every visitor special, even if you have to use your best acting skills.
Smile a lot, be gracious, kind, forgiving, understanding. Work on your observation and listening skills.
Watch the clock, and graciously figure out a routine, so you will finish on time, like any professional would.
Buy a few sexy pieces, and add to your inventory slowly, as you can afford it.
Hold onto your money, because a lot of visitors can quickly be followed by a shortage of visitors.
Be super private in your space, your hallways, on the intercom. Don't give anyone a reason to be suspicious about your activities. Have safety measures in place.
Develop good boundaries, so you can be gracious, but still get the job done.
If you're not having any fun, quit. If you don't look forward to your phone ringing, quit. if you're sick of doing laundry, quit.
Otherwise, you may just have hit pay dirt and found the best job in the world.

Sound advice from one of the wizest . She did follow those points and was grateful to you long after going back home .
 

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Every SP I've gotten to know personally, regrets entering the industry. Most end up being exposed and humiliated. The posts by ladies are personas. Don't dig to deep into what they're saying, they're disillusioned. This industry will leave you burned out in a few years. Be intelligent and look elsewhere for work.
Troll post. Don't bite.
 

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It's the easy way out in my opinion. It's like if a man starts selling drugs or something illicit for cash.
Sure you have lots and its a fun job but I can't imagine sex work is very fulfilling especially seeing escorts doing it year after year after year after year. Don't waste your 20s sleeping with strangers for $250 an hour I feel it is not worth it. I mean waiting tables and working retail isn't the best but you can still move up in the ranks and have something to be proud of. Why would you have to lie to your family about what you do? Do you really think your mother and father would like you to become a sex worker during the prime years of your life? I feel it's just not worth it from any point of view besides you'll make a lot of money. Times are changing though. Thanks to Kim K and Amber rose it's cool to be a "whore" and "slut" now.
 

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I think alot of ladies that havn't planned well usually end up pretty bitter after their looks fade and they can't make the same amount of money.
However someone who works part time sp in her 20's while working towards a degree or career in another field that will make her similar money when she retires from being an sp will feel MUCH better about themselves.
Those are the kinda ladies i'd like to meet :)
 

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I think alot of ladies that havn't planned well usually end up pretty bitter after their looks fade and they can't make the same amount of money.
However someone who works part time sp in her 20's while working towards a degree or career in another field that will make her similar money when she retires from being an sp will feel MUCH better about themselves.
Those are the kinda ladies i'd like to meet :)
Ugh, your comment made me cringe. Who says looks have to fade once you reach a certain age? I personally think I am the sexiest I have ever been and having thee best sex life in my personal life as well as in this industry. And I am 35+, Fine, Fit, Fabulous and love the hell outta myself!!
In fact I began my modeling career in my late 30's and have been published in a couple male magazines. Comments like yours are so jaded and cynical.
I had to say that. Sorry as it has strayed off topic.
 

Ms Erica Phoenix

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It's the easy way out in my opinion. It's like if a man starts selling drugs or something illicit for cash.
Sure you have lots and its a fun job but I can't imagine sex work is very fulfilling especially seeing escorts doing it year after year after year after year. Don't waste your 20s sleeping with strangers for $250 an hour I feel it is not worth it. I mean waiting tables and working retail isn't the best but you can still move up in the ranks and have something to be proud of. Why would you have to lie to your family about what you do? Do you really think your mother and father would like you to become a sex worker during the prime years of your life? I feel it's just not worth it from any point of view besides you'll make a lot of money. Times are changing though. Thanks to Kim K and Amber rose it's cool to be a "whore" and "slut" now.
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And what if what she really really wants to do is graduate from law school/complete her MBA without crippling student loan debt? Would that be OK or should she stick to something suitable like waitressing or folding t-shirts?
 

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Ugh, your comment made me cringe. Who says looks have to fade once you reach a certain age? I personally think I am the sexiest I have ever been and having thee best sex life in my personal life as well as in this industry. And I am 35+, Fine, Fit, Fabulous and love the hell outta myself!!
In fact I began my modeling career in my late 30's and have been published in a couple male magazines. Comments like yours are so jaded and cynical.
I had to say that. Sorry as it has strayed off topic.
No, his comments are fine. You think you're the exception, which is good.

Your comment makes you sound jaded and cynical. Nothing in InnocentBoy's comment is directed at a single individual but subconsciously you feel like it's a shot at you. Not a good mentality to have. Learn to roll with the punches.
 

Elm

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And what if what she really really wants to do is graduate from law school/complete her MBA without crippling student loan debt? Would that be OK or should she stick to something suitable like waitressing or folding t-shirts?

School in Canada is cheap with easy access to loans. Student loans are not crippling if you have any sense of personal finance. This is basically a cop out. If you need to whore to go to school than you'll probably need to whore for other things.
 

Caramel

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This response is beyond 'troll like', it's reptilian.
Totally disrespectful and poisonous to the civility of this Forum.


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which is why it was not worth responding to! I totally forgot, perb does not tolerate that type of offensive stuff, I shall keep that in mind and report something next time, I've seen some incredibly offensive and horrific stuff written in reviews and thought that it was allowed.
 

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I agree with elm. Maybe not as blunt as that but I do agree none the less.
Whoring for school turns into a life time of whoring by the looks of it. I don't see many girls leave the industry with an MBA or law degree but I do see maybe "retiring" only to return a few months later with a new name, new number and new look.

I also see a lot of ads where girls claim to be "college educated" as a selling point, which college offers classes in Internet escorting.

In all seriousness my advice would be to take your job seriously. You should want to be remembered as a good escort in the same way any trade or art should be handled. You should wanna be a better escort them the gal over next block.
 
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