As summer heads this way,, weddings coming.. Whats appropate for money as a wedding gift .. Thanks All
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Ive always been told twice the cost of the meal. I have had friends that I barely talk to that expect more like the world owes them something, but they can go pound sand.
I think it depends on how well you know the couple, and how much you can afford!
I have friends who got married recently and they received gifts ranging from a bottle of wine, to a $5,000 cheque!
I would say that if you don't know them that well, then a cheque for $100 should be fairly safe.
I have friends who got married recently and they received gifts ranging from a bottle of wine, to a $5,000 cheque!
I would say that if you don't know them that well, then a cheque for $100 should be fairly safe.
I have a few friend thats getting married this year. One of them is in town, the other one a destination wedding.
The one thats getting married in town, I have known for years and expects me to show up for his wedding. Nothing more, nothing less, but he does want me to show up with a date:doh:. He said if I wanted to get him anything, an ikea gift card would be great, but isnt needed.
The one that is having a destination wedding, I have also known for years. He expects me to take time off work, spend $1600 using his travel agent when other travel agents are only charging $1100 for the same resort and time frame, and on top of that, give him money as a gift. When I told him I may have employment obligations, he thinks his wedding deserves a higher priority.
$100/seat would be a safe bet if you dont know the couple that well. I believe how reasonable and understanding the couple is with the attendance should also be another deciding factor. Everybody sits on a different boat in this situation. I would be more inclined to give more to the in town couple that wanted me to show up for their special day, over the couple that insist I spend money, lose money, and give away money for their special day(or week).
Yeah the reason it cost $500 more through their agent is because theirs is covered.
My sister did this. Their airfare, hotel and a free trip airfare and week hotel on their 1 year anniversary.
Not only that, they extra money each guest was paying, included the dinner and bar.
So people that were giving extra to cover the meal and drinks were doing it twice.
I think the only wedding costs my sister actually had was her dress.
I would be open about it. "Dude its $500 less for the same resort and flight on expedia............if you want me to use your agent...thats your gift man."
The resort covers all the meals and drinks for everybody that attends. Im not sure if theres a deal to be had behind everybodys back, but for such a big price difference, its hard not to imagine so. My sisters been to that resort numerous times through a few different travel agents and online bookings, for what you pay, its all inclusive. Regardless, my friend was pretty pushy to try and get me to go. Im more surprised he isnt having a second party for those who could not attend the wedding in Mexico.
There was a news story about destination wedding on Global recently that reflects the information above. It pointed out that 16 % of the weddings were this type and costs were less for the families. But obviously not for the guests. The guest ends up footing the bill and correctly so that can be regarded as the gift. In addition these weddings throw tremendous stress on some guests who can't easily accommodate the costs or schedule. Usually less than 50 attendees were reported by GLOBAL news. I know of one situation were one family member had to make a choice between the wedding or a career. So if it's a destination wedding your presence is more than a gift. Otherwise the gift is a friendship item and twice meal costs is approximately correct.
Couldn't have said it better myself. These destination weddings are nuts.
I have a business acquaintance who is invited to three weddings this summer. Not one is in North America. Madness. He feels compelled to go but even though he is a well paid guy, three weddings with huge personal expenses makes him feel the pinch. If ever there was a time to send a cash gift this is the time I said.
