violence thoughts.

[sevenofnine]

i was assulted today at work,
not a big deal it was minor,
but what is it about rage and violence what the fuck is it with some people that they think they have the right to abuse people physically or emotionally,

does it make them feel big to throw their weight around, i have never understood it,
is it fear, or just no control of their emotions,

in my honest opinion it takes a bigger man to walk away,
there is a time to fight, but im almost sixty and i have never found that moment that right moment to hit some one, i have never hit anyone in my entire life.
but i could given the right situation, just have not found it.

and im almost sixty the guy was like thirty something and looked like he lived in the gym and pumped iron,
a really tough guy to through his weight around at a sixy year old guy.
i would hate to be his kids or his wife or girl friend.

even though i felt it was very minor, my work place has a zero tolerance for that sort of thing
the guy is charged not even my decision.
it will be a slam dunk video cameras and witnesses
the guy is going to have a record for being a hot head and a assult charge, to carry with him for the rest of his life, try getting a decent job or crossing a border. good luck with that.

in some ways he is lucky, some people carry knifes
and a few guys have martial arts studios they run in there spare time, they told me the guy would never walk the same again and never reach for a beer with out pain in his shoulder for the rest of his life if he did that with them.
i don't know its just fucking stupid,

violence abuse of any kind is just fucking stupid. and it is so pointless
forgive my rant, time for a drink.

 

[GATSBY]

It never crossed my mind that you were 60 from your posts You be might too kind to think that it was a minor incident and possibly let it slide, but I think to protect others in the future from this douchebag, he needs to be punished.

 

[Kali.Kaos]

I applaud you in how you handled the situation sevenofnine! Violence is never the answer no matter how good you know it would probably feel to just pop the guy once. Karma is a bitch and he is clearly going to be on the receiving end now.

I agree with Hoff though, raise your situational awareness for a while. In my experience, people who get punished for their own wrong doing but blame you as the cause, do tend to retaliate and you seem so sweet. There will always be dickheads, just keep in mind that it's always best to remain the better man! Stay safe and keep your head up!

xx

 

[Hoops]

violence abuse of any kind is just fucking stupid. and it is so pointless
forgive my rant, time for a drink.

Okay I'll forgive your thoughts on violence. Nothing particularly illuminating.
Yes abuse of any kind is stupid, but we're all human.
We've all lost our temper.
You put this out there so I think it's fair to ask. what did you do to provoke him?

 

[sexytime]

Seven. I'm sorry to hear about your mishap today. It's definitely unacceptable in the workplace and doubly not cool to hit a man of your age.

Your first two guesses are each correct in a general sense. The guys who like to throw their weight around or feel like a big man for doing so are none other than bullies. Others though, who don't really feel the need to carry a tough guy image, simply have lack of control. If the guy looked like a gym rat, he could very well have been taking anabolic steroids or other substances which increase testosterone levels, hence the loss of control. Or maybe he just has a small dick.

Violence is stupid, sure; naturally it only requires the most basic of brain functions (although there is the concept of intelligent combat, which differs entirely from taking a swing out in anger). However, it's not easy for some if that's all they know, so it also comes down to environment and history. Some people's parents never taught them to be civil. Some people are born into the lower levels of society, by no fault of their own nor their immigrant single parent trying to make it in the western land of opportunity, and have to deal with the said persons from the former group.

There are neighbourhoods in Canada where violence is constantly thrust upon its dwellers, by its dwellers. Sure, learning to deal with bullies and the like is a part of growing up, but when every other person wants to be a tough guy, and some of them grow up to be murderers, murder victims and anything you can imagine in between, your world becomes chaos and you think it's normal because you don't know anything else. It's like having tunnel vision with no light at the end.

I'm not ashamed to admit I've spilled my blood and the blood of others on occasion to push back; it showed that I wasn't an easy mark. In the fucking jungle, sometimes you have to assert yourself. Not only that, but putting someone in their place can sometimes stop a bully from transforming into a complete monster. I am ashamed to admit however that I did more than I "needed to" at times. As I grew older, I learned restraint (to a certain point), but my unwillingness to fight unless absolutely necessary wasn't favorable in this environment. This will sound completely backwards to you normal folk, but I was respected much less for that than when I was a menace. Luckily I stuck with the no-fighting thing until I was old enough and educated enough to move a thousand miles away.

Call me on alpha/macho bullshit or for being stupid or whatever, but I'm a nice guy and I haven't hit anyone in over 12 years, which is the same age of this single malt Scotch that I'm sipping on right now, living in a paradise called Vancouver. If you have never had to hit someone in your entire life, then you are truly blessed and should appreciate that fully.

 

[sevenofnine]

what did i do to provoke him

i guess my job,
im sorry i don't want to give to much information away, but only my job,

and i guess its fare to say, he tried at first to intimidate me, or bullly me,

years ago, i would have given the guy the finger or get into some sort of verbal shouting matching
but honestly the only thing i did wrong perhaps is not run when he started getting agressive with me,
or not back down
i used to be a pretty intense guy
years ago, i made myself a promise i would never get mad or raise my voice at anything
it took years but im a very calm guy,
boxing day i had a road rage incident and i just wished the guy a merry christmas
yesterday the guy got all bent out of shape and i just stood my ground calmly and shrugged my shoulders. it is what it is

my calmness just made him more angry


its what i believe i grew up in a home with a lot of abuse, physical and emotional.
and i don't believe any one has the right to abuse anyone, either physically or emotionally
there is no reason for it none, period. you simply don't have the right.
my mother would show me her bruises before she sent me to school in the morning,
well i never went to school.

i have very strong feelings on violence emotional and physical, they will never change,
perphaps that explains some of my posts,
but that is where i come from, and my thoughts on physical and emotional abuse

and the guy will be charged, like i said my job is such that its automatic, the process the policy is in place he gets charged without my having to do anything,
it was not a bid deal really
but when i got to my office and had a chance to think, i saw my mothers bruises
i had a very emotionally sort of few moments.

thanks guys and this board for being here, some times you just need to vent,
again my thanks to this board and to you guys for putting up with me

 

[pokemon]

I also have a job that has resulted in threats but never violence. Take care Seven. Bullies like this guy tend to be mad at everything. It's often not even personal against you.

 

[sexytime]

Your level of restraint, sir, is nothing short of saintly, in comparison to my former brutish ways. It takes a lot more to break the cycle than to perpetuate the cycle, and from what I've seen not everyone is mentally strong enough to do so, were they put in such an environment. Hats off to you.

 

[Cock Throppled]

Okay I'll forgive your thoughts on violence. Nothing particularly illuminating.
Yes abuse of any kind is stupid, but we're all human.
We've all lost our temper.
You put this out there so I think it's fair to ask. what did you do to provoke him?

You must have never encountered these kinds of jerks.

You don't have to do anything to provoke someone with a "what the fuck are you looking at" mentality.

Talk to battered wives and children. They can do everything perfectly and still get a punch upside the head. It's bullying behaviour that makes weak, frightened people think they are somebody through intimidation.

 

[jesuschrist]

Its terrible to be assaulted, especially when you did nothing of the sort to him.
It's more than just physical pain, it's psychologically abusing too.
You should sue him and at least force him to lose his job.

But if real life could be the movies, I'd advocate dousing him with gasoline and setting him on fire. But hey, that's not real life.

 

[Arrrg]

It's only going to get worse boys and girls. Everyone is angry these days and while before we may have felt powerless, with all the revolts and riots and demonstrations these days it's showing that if you shout loud enough, sacrifice enough, get enough numbers, you will get your way regardless of right or wrong. Scary,... hope I'm wrong.

 

[PlayfulAlex]

It's only going to get worse boys and girls. Everyone is angry these days and while before we may have felt powerless, with all the revolts and riots and demonstrations these days it's showing that if you shout loud enough, sacrifice enough, get enough numbers, you will get your way regardless of right or wrong. Scary,... hope I'm wrong.

Yes, people are angry out there...

http://en.ria.ru/crime/20120817/175282470.html

"Mass Shootings Reignite U.S. Gun Control Fight"

How many shootings, just in the last few weeks?