Vanilla Sex

[bmwdriver]

Recently I was talking with a friend and I brought up the term "vanilla sex." To me oral sex, including 69, falls under the category of "vanilla sex." ie. ordinary sex. My friend disagreed with me. So my question is, what do you consider "vanilla sex." I mean as far as people that enjoy having sex goes. Obviously, if one views sex as something only to be done with a spouse, and mainly for the purpose of procreation, then your idea of vanilla sex will differ from mine.
To clarify further, Vanilla sex to mean means doing something which I considered ordinary. Although CIM or COF may not be done that often, I include that in vanilla sex, as an extension of oral sex.

 

[wilde]

Why don't you tell us what you would consider non vanilla sex?

 

[Mclovinit604]

Uh, when you do it with chocolate...

 

[bmwdriver]

Why don't you tell us what you would consider non vanilla sex?

These are not necessarily things that I do , or would like to do, but are examples of what I consider non-vanilla sex: threesomes, face-fucking, rimming, bondage, anal play, and spanking.

 

[NM69]

I am in the swinger lifestyle, and vanilla sex to me is sex between only two people any positionetc......non vanilla is is when a couple play with other couple, does bondage and kink kind of stuff

Anything between two people that doesn't involve toys or any other objects is vanilla

 

[clu]

I once dated a girl from Eastern Europe and she claimed that oral was more of a Western fetish. Don't know if she was telling the truth but either way she'd dispute that oral was vanilla. I'd say it depends on your background. Is it still vanilla if less than 50% do it?

ETA: for what it's worth, she made this claim in response to me offering to go down on her, not the other way around.

 

[Cami Parker]

It all depends on who you ask. What's "vanilla" for me, may not be vanilla to somebodies wife of 20 years...

 

[NM69]

Totally true depends on the person/couple

 

[bmwdriver]

It all depends on who you ask. What's "vanilla" for me, may not be vanilla to somebodies wife of 20 years...

I'm just curious what people on this board consider vanilla.

 

[badbadboy]

In BBB's opinion, Cami is not Vanilla Unless of course you want her to be Vanilla.

I was asked that question when I met an SP for the first time this past summer. By my appearance, she may have assumed Vanilla is how I roll.

I guess she wanted to tailor the visit to something I might enjoy and the date was a great introduction. I've seen her four more times since.

To me, Vanilla with an SP or a Civilian for that matter would be some oral followed by a few positions. Kiss goodnight honey and roll over.

Non Vanilla would be pushing each other's comfort zones and trying some new things and finding each other enjoy it.

 

[wilde]

These are not necessarily things that I do , or would like to do, but are examples of what I consider non-vanilla sex: threesomes, face-fucking, rimming, bondage, anal play, and spanking.

Thank you but I would categorize those activities as porn sex. I particularly don't get the popularity of face fucking, making a girl gag does not turn me on at all.

 

[ReedRothchild]

Although an argument could be made that sex with a prostitute is by definition not vanilla, basically activities offered in gfe = vanilla while offerings categorized by pse = much less vanilla.

In everyday terms....
One man, one woman, any combination of one mouth, one penis, one vagina usually equals vanilla.

Some fetishes are vanilla, many are not...

Anything requiring a safeword equals not vanilla.
More than two participants = not vanilla
More than two 'holes' = not vanilla

 

[badbadboy]

Although an argument could be made that sex with a prostitute is by definition not vanilla, basically activities offered in gfe = vanilla while offerings categorized by pse = much less vanilla.

In everyday terms....
One man, one woman, any combination of one mouth, one penis, one vagina usually equals vanilla.

Some fetishes are vanilla, many are not...

Anything requiring a safeword equals not vanilla.
More than two participants = not vanilla
More than two 'holes' = not vanilla

^^^

This is a great definition Reed

:thumb:

 

[booblover]

I can agree with Wilde. Facefucking etc is more a porn thibg

 

[badbadboy]

These are not necessarily things that I do , or would like to do, but are examples of what I consider non-vanilla sex: threesomes, face-fucking, rimming, bondage, anal play, and spanking.

Those are all the food groups I enjoy :thumb:

With the right partner it's a lot of fun

 

[Equity Market investor]

In my view, vanilla sex is opposite to what porn stars act out.The talk dirty or acts vanilla woman would find offensive . And....combine that with what Dominatrix chics do.....that would be the cherry on the cake ound:

In sum....Ashley Temple meets a Pro Domme all in one. That...IS NOT ..vanilla sex your average woman would rock out with.

The unforbidden.

 

[wilde]

Would getting a BJ on a popular dog walking trail counts? I liked the thrill of almost getting busted.

 

[Equity Market investor]

Would getting a BJ on a popular dog walking trail counts? I liked the thrill of almost getting busted.

That's playing out fantasy along with living on the edge . Good one :thumb:

I've always wanted to ride on a bus with a lady wearing a dress and her sitting on my lap. The wild edge would be that she would have junior inside her grinding away going along with the bounces :nod:

 

[hornygandalf]

Vanilla is whatever you and your partner consider to be vanilla... what you consider to be 'normal.'
My first wife hated oral sex... for her that certainly wasn't normal. My second... beyond one orgasm was too much (and now even thinking of that or having sex is too much).
Guess that's why I'm here, 'cause I don't think I was pushing any boundaries outside the very average and normal with either... and I want to stretch the boundaries...

That said, wife #2 was willing to indulge in sex in a public place early on (on more than one occasion)... before we were married and had a child.

 

[Lo-ki]

Vanilla is whatever you and your partner consider to be vanilla... what you consider to be 'normal.'

NORMAL is only a setting on the dryer honey...