Using PERB as a weapon will not be tolerated

[sybian]

Each individual woman should stand up for herself. Having a thick skin and strong boundaries is an asset to survive in this line of work. It’s not all money, gifts and fabulous sexual encounters. There is a dark side, and always will be. It’s just human nature.

And learning some form of self defence is very important as well!!! There’s so many douchebags out there who will try to prey on an sp. Shady pooners, pimps, lazy ass boyfriends, even other women.

Human pecking order... when they try to peck at you, peck back.

When I entered the industry I was “turned out” and trained by women who worked track. (It was still common back then for mid range and high end ladies) So I was taught at times being a bitch is necessary to hold your ground. And do whatever the fuck you have to do to defend yourself when shit goes sideways.

There is always an escalation of events, and an allowance of gradual power over another human being.
Most will shy away from violence, to avoid it, particularly if they are not used to it, but your right, there is always a pecking order.....Unless there is something the aggressor has missed, or hasn't considered.

Like the big scarred up quiet cowboy,sitting at the bar.....and there are more of us than them.

 

[LovesGourmetDining]

A few years ago, there was a person making appointments outside of this board, and early in his appointment, was asking for better, or enhanced service.....claiming to be myself.

Hmm... Does this open up the possibility of ongoing impersonation of others on PERB. I someone were less active and connected on PERB they could easily be impersonated by someone just using their handle as a reference with the result that the impersonated party gets blacklisted or what not.
I wonder how often that happens.

 

[MB Mod]

Hmm... Does this open up the possibility of ongoing impersonation of others on PERB. I someone were less active and connected on PERB they could easily be impersonated by someone just using their handle as a reference with the result that the impersonated party gets blacklisted or what not.
I wonder how often that happens.

A simple PM would confirm somebody’s identity.

 

[LovesGourmetDining]

Sps should PM the board member to make sure it really is him before the session.

Of course. But Sybian's post https://perb.cc/vbulletin/showthrea...be-tolerated&p=1828952&viewfull=1#post1828952 (and I may be reading this wrong) alludes to the person having done it multiple times but he only got PM'ed once. So despite a PM to a board member being the sensible thing, his post still makes me suspect this happens maybe more than we think.

 

[sybian]

That apparently happens or so I've been told.

#ALERT. If you're ever approached by someone saying they are YVR hacker looking for a *date* it's not me.

Useless fact: An escort is a "964" in local police lingo.

Another useless fact.....10-10 means no warrants.

 

[JonnyBoi]

Thank you very much PerbMod!

While I really dislike "virtue signalling" or "jumping on the bandwagon", I do feel that you've been consistently fair and offer great value to this board. If I can buy a beer via this board I definitely would.

It's great to know that we got people that are working hard to keep this place civil and fair so the actual adults can enjoy themselves.

 

[sybian]

Hmm... Does this open up the possibility of ongoing impersonation of others on PERB. I someone were less active and connected on PERB they could easily be impersonated by someone just using their handle as a reference with the result that the impersonated party gets blacklisted or what not.
I wonder how often that happens.

I can only absolutely confirm it happened once for sure......the other few times I can't.
Although I have no reason to question it, other than a few of the ladies back peddled a little when I tried to flush the guy out.
I admit I was being aggressive.
Let's just say, they were afraid how I might react, and / or what I may have done.. if I ever got my hands on the pencil neck.
Apparently I'm kinda scary to some....which is ridiculous.

 

[Mr Quim]

The definition of Irony ? LOL

https://perb.cc/vbulletin/showthread.php?243099-Bad-client-warning&p=1829619#post1829619

Kudos to the Mods, and PERB Management !

Cheers

 

[Reference3A]

It's really shitty that manipulation
or extortion through reviews is
a problem.
Sadly it happens probably more
than most realize. Hence why
a lot of ladies don't use review
boards or are on here but don't
really like it so much.

 

[LovesGourmetDining]

Hence why
a lot of ladies don't use review
boards or are on here but don't
really like it so much.

I imagine there are other reasons too. Like reading a review of yourself and see you got rated L 5 B 5 or whatever. Obviously the intent is not the same but I can imagine that being read as a put-down, to put it mildly.

 

[Ninjakitty]

so much drama has happened in the recent week and what I'm see being written is , that the majority just want to have fun , discreet conversation , To seek information on others experiences , to inform those of potential harm , and to fish out those that really waiste time for the gents!
In order to keep this a fun drama free environment for all , be tasteful with the reviews wether it be a good experience or bad.. once someone comes along and crosses the line with a nasty review about one or is to over the top of how much one loves the lady , people just white knight and drama is created...
Keep things harmonious , again keep the Reviews tasteful for example " my experience with this provider wasn't what I had hoped for but others may appreciate" that's a very kind wY of stating u didn't enjoy your session without deterring others to see the individual .. in the case of a complete scam, that's a bit of different story , just be informative , keep it straight to the point... it's easy for everyone to have full enjoyment and use of this board by keeping things professional , gentle and appropriately informing others in a tasteful manner... I seen an old review that disgusted me where a gent stated " to the obese and ugly , just cause your a female doesn't mean you have what it takes to be an sp or mp"
That kinda stuff shouldn't be said as every lady has a right to choose wether to be in this industry or not and their is always a clientele base for every shape and size.....
Shall we all just be classy , tasteful with what we say bout one another and just have FUN and continue making for great experiences !

 

[Ninjakitty]

You make a good point on critical reviews !

 

[Ninjakitty]

Being that male escort I'd kindly decline seeing the obese woman... simple . no need for a review nor bad experience for both ... There are so many ways to make this industry so much better just by using kind words ! No client or sp is forced to see one another.. and each experience with a lady is going to vary with every client...

 

[Ninjakitty]

clients in the end will get better results by being tasteful and respectful reviews by the sps and mps. Writing a review that's negative yet respectful in nature a professional woman would take that as constructive critism and change to better her services.. being nasty and disrespectful with negative reviewing puts the lady in a negative state which in the end isn't looked at as cunstructive critism and the service begins to become less desirable too many... Do you get what I'm trying to say.. It's how we process the information , which in turn changes our behaviour and how we look at ourselves and others...
Maybe I'm just to kind , and know how to use my words wisely and know the appropriate approach to inform one of negativity in a very respectful manner...

 

[Ninjakitty]

Oh yes ladies do decline seeing men that are obese , those who have poor hygiene and if a rude will be told u know where the door is sir!
Simple if I had a lady that was a lousy lay , didn't meet what was expected my statement would be
My time with this lady was not what was expected , she did not meet my needs , nor did she deliver on what was told to be on the menu . The connection between us two wasn't there , so for me I won't repeat!
Instead of
This lady was fat , and one lousy lay , will not repeat..
see the same message sent across in two completely different approaches

 

[Ninjakitty]

Well in your description your right , I agree if a woman pulls a shank call her out like I stated in my post be informative ...
But my issue is the unnecessary name calling , meAn natured reviews .. That's what I feel needs to change on this board , the approach with the negative reviews in my opionion should come across as constructive criticism then straight up degrading And just plain out mean in nature.....
It will make a difference in the service provided , guaranteed and make for a much happier environment here...

 

[SDK]

I think it's best for escorts to ignore review boards and focus on their work - that way there's no risk of being "extorted" online. Some actually request not to be reviewed. Attractive SP's who provide good service will get clients, with or without review boards. Also, it's a fact that only a small percentage of escort clients are members of these forums (the article below also mentions this) and good service is often spread by word of mouth. The "hobbyist" below, who posts on Merc, mentions the reasons why he feels these sites are "simply atrocious to all girls." Indeed, some of the reviews I've read, especially on the Vancouver section, have made me cringe with the arrogance and misogyny prevalent in them. For example, women don't appreciate being rated as if they were a product (though quite mild compared to what I've read).

https://www.vice.com/en_ca/article/exkkm7/we-spoke-a-sex-industry-hobbyist-the-worst-kind-of-john

When I was reviewing on Perb, I only wrote about positive experiences, to at least help the lady get more business with members, and I never used the rating system.

 

[Ninjakitty]

I think all escorts and mps do try to focus on their work , but what happens is if theirs a really bad review the girl reviewed is bothered by immature harassing texts , threatening texts and cAlls and leads to potential attempts of extortion.. working for PEERS yeArs ago I've seen it all and what the ladies encounter!
Hopefully my message will make a difference here , both men and woman will equally respect each other and my hope is the clients will see this and take note that a more positive approach in reviewing will make a huge difference...
It's simple science too , the more you think positively about one or oneself the brain naturally creates and releases the happy go lucky neurotransmitters in the brain like dopamine And norepinephrine, our brains react differently to negative �� clouding our brain cells with peptides making it more difficult to release those positive neurotransmitters to get to work which leads to constant negative thinking....
To a happier fulfilled environment for alll ..
I'm done ranting ..��

 

[Damaged]

...I'd say males are far more picky and selective about SP's than SP's about clients...

This has to be one of the dumbest things I've read today, but the day is early. Of course males are picky and selective, they are paying good money for a fantasy. The SP's are trying to make a living and therefore are often a little less selective.

 

[Ninjakitty]

This has to be one of the dumbest things I've read today, but the day is early. Of course males are picky and selective, they are paying good money for a fantasy. The SP's are trying to make a living and therefore are often a little less selective.

You feel this topic is dumb ? In what respect?
It's only common sense that the paying customer is to be more selective , I'm with you on that yv!